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    Default what types hide their true selves from most people?

    Some people don't really allow others to see who they are or know what's going on in their heads unless it's someone very close to them. Most of the people they come in contact with have absolutely no idea who they are. Obviously, many people do this to some degree, and any type can do be like that.

    And I'm NOT talking about fake people here, okay?
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    INT, probably INTp.


    ESFp also, and ESFj, but because they just don't really know. They seem to be without introsepction, and as such, don't really think of sharing sometimes. That is a much different twist, and mayhaps not what you thought of, or relevant.

    INTps are generally more reserved about sharing themselves than I am, I've noticed. But at the same time, I have layers and facets, too (as opposed to an INTps sheer bluntness of privacy) (((But then again, I've learned and ingrained some social tactics, so it is somewhat of the same thing as the ESFs, really, believe it or not...). I wonder if I can ever express myself completely to someone...


    Eh, but then again, any type can, really.
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    I voted ISFj
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joy
    I voted ISFj
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    Quote Originally Posted by UDP II
    ESFp also, and ESFj, but because they just don't really know. They seem to be without introsepction, and as such, don't really think of sharing sometimes.
    Just because they don't want to share their inner world with a confused blabber like you, that doesn't mean they don't have any, foo.

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    INFjs have two things working against them: 1) they're introverted intuitives, and 2) they're rather socially self-concious people who want to please everyone. This results in people who do not necessarily reveal themselves to others.
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    Initially I thought Fi-PoLR types (ENTp, ESTp) and the natural chameleon ENFj. With these types it is very hard to figure out the true person because they are often kind of animated.

    Second thought was...perhaps introverts are naturally more likely to do that in the end. Perhaps even those with leading Fi (INFj, ISFj).

    So I ended up with this pretty conflicting view that extroverts with Fi PoLR or introverts with leading Fi might be the ones. Of course everyone with leading Ni or Ne might have to hide a lot of perceptions from others. Someone with a leading Te have to fake with role function in order to not come out as an annoying prick.

    Ok. I can see many kind of approaches which could be true. I'm just going with gut feeling but I'm not telling what I will vote

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    shit i forgot isfj

    and i accidentally put enfj cuz i was thinking "fake"

    whoops


    well switch them

    i also put infp and entp

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    There is a distinction between what you don't show (by nature), or what you purposely hide from other people, perhaps even yourself. The latter you will be able to observe in all types if they are highly neurotic.

    I think introverted types have a tendency not to show their real selfs, but this does not necessarily mean they are purposely trying to hide it, probably more natural style. The Big 5 relates self-disclosure to extraversion, and inappropriate self-disclosure to the combination of high neuroticsm and extraversion. But I have the impression that this kind of extraversion is not quite the same as Jungian Extraversion.
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    I don't have types figured out of enough people to be able to speak for every type.

    My husband, who is ISTp, and my sister, who is INFj, both do this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Slacker Mom
    I don't have types figured out of enough people to be able to speak for every type.

    My husband, who is ISTp, and my sister, who is INFj, both do this.
    My new girl friend is probably INFj. Hell, I really have no clue as to what's going on inside her mind. All I know is that's she's desperate for having a baby
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    Introverts mostly. IxxPs maybe. Oh, and ENFjs do not have their true selves. When they "hide" - they "are", when they don't - they don't exist. Or, when they hide they are their true selves. Thus, this question is not applicable to ENFjs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fever
    INFj...they naturally hide themselves because our reasons for doing things can be so foreign to other people that it's just too hard to explain most of the time ... that is, if anyone really cares to begin with. if our ideas conflict with our environment, we would probably rather just keep it to ourselves than expend the energy to defend them, unless though the environmental pressure becomes too much. also we are not only in conflict with environment but also within ourselves. it's defence basically.
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    what is this "real self"? it seems to be a bunch of cockamamy bullshit to make people feel good about themselves when they don't measure up in the eyes of others. oh, sure I'm not all that impressive but you can't see my "real self" or else you would see how great I am!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pedro-the-Lion
    what is this "real self"? it seems to be a bunch of cockamamy bullshit to make people feel good about themselves when they don't measure up in the eyes of others. oh, sure I'm not all that impressive but you can't see my "real self" or else you would see how great I am!
    You kidding????

    I'd feel pity for the poor souls who got to see my entire "real self"!!
    It'd send them into the nuthouse.




    Hmm, maybe that wouldn't be such a bad idea.......
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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana
    lol ann! You'll send them to the nuthouse, and they'll send me At least I'll have some folks to talk to there who've already had some exposure to delta NFs
    *whines*
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise
    It'd send them into the nuthouse.
    Oh, I do that all the time! Dont you just love acting out??
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    It’s whatever type I am... I’m extremely protective over myself and I wont let anyone in. only very few people have ever seen my true self, and I have to be very close to them. People have always complained about it ever since I was a little girl (even my own father).

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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise
    I'd feel pity for the poor souls who got to see my entire "real self"!!
    It'd send them into the nuthouse.
    this is why i want teh mental internet!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pedro-the-Lion
    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise
    I'd feel pity for the poor souls who got to see my entire "real self"!!
    It'd send them into the nuthouse.
    this is why i want teh mental internet!!!
    hehe, I was actually going to say something about bringing the mental internet on....but i couldn't remember what it was called...so I deleted the comment out.
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    INFj. i would give them more than one vote if i could.

    they are probably the most mysterious type hands down. you can get to know an ISFj (i think?) ISTj is pretty open, surprisingly so, about their past.

    you will never ever ever ever know the past of an INFj completely. somewhat, maybe. my mom tells me stories now that took years and years and years to come out. (i wish she'd been more upfront about a lot of stuff, actually.) i don't know if she was waiting for me to be the "right age" or what, but she's always been really mysterious like that.
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    I think every type is capable of this. Everyone has a public and a private self.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fever
    INFj...they naturally hide themselves because our reasons for doing things can be so foreign to other people that it's just too hard to explain most of the time ... that is, if anyone really cares to begin with. if our ideas conflict with our environment, we would probably rather just keep it to ourselves than expend the energy to defend them, unless though the environmental pressure becomes too much. also we are not only in conflict with environment but also within ourselves. it's defence basically.
    Umm... I do that too.
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    Instead of asking: "what types hide their true selves from most people?" a better question might be "what types are most open about their true selves?". Everyone hides something but some types perhaps hide more than others.

    Anyways in my experience ESFps hide the least. Or perhaps they are just so clever to hide things that I don't notice it. But they seem to talk so much about themselves even intimate details that they don't seem very private to me.

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    I have to agree that introverted types tend to keep alot to themselves. I am very curious about introverted sensing types though, esp ISXPs. ISTPs seem almost incapable of expressing much of what goes on inside of them which frustrates them. They express themselves so much better in writing than in person. I think 'in person' is too intense for them.
    I worked with one introverted guy who is ISFJ. He seemed 'off' to me. He is very self effacing and quiet. It turnes out he was very gifted. He taught himself German and travels all over the world. He loves movies, books and literature that I would never have imagined just looking at him superfically. He has an excellent memory for all kinds of information. It boggles my mind that most people know none of this about him.

    I dont think IEE could win any awards in this catagory but I do believe that they are very good at only exposing part of themselves to others.

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