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    New article on Huffington Post details some (not particularly new but) worthwhile traits to know about introversion.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/0...ss-more-living
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    My reactions:

    1. I definitely find myself internally struggling to make small-talk happen. It does make getting to know people a bit of a hastle, breaking through that initial barrier to get to the heart of who someone "is."

    2. I do find that when I attend social events, I expect myself to at least meet a couple new cool people. The problem is that this rarely ever happens, so I always end up sticking with the people I know. This isn't really a bad thing per se, it just means I get to know someone a bit better.

    3. Depends on the group, obviously. When around a very familiar and comfortable bunch, I can be more in the middle of things. When I'm not comfortable around some group though I always fall off into the fringe.

    4. Yes and yes and yes

    5. Not sure about this one. I figure Extroverts can come off just as intense as Introverts, but in different ways. I have been called 'intense' by a few people in my life before, although I don't know if it's a particularly defining characteristic.

    6. I definitely vascillate between these two extremes. If there's something for me to focus on in some super busy environment (like an arcade or a fair) then I'll go to town and contribute to the loudness. But once I lose that point of interest and I'm just in some noisy environment I don't want to interact with, I get very overwhelmed and need space alone. Likewise, once I get into a slowed down mindset I have no problem performing some monotonous or mundane task. It can get rather meditative like that.

    7. I have so much downtime as it is right now that I have to make myself productive in my spare time, because that's all the time I have. Not sure if agree.

    8. Maybe kind of? I've given a fair number of speeches and performances in my day, and it's not like I have to directly interact with people during these events.

    9. I actually find myself doing this subconsciously. Not so much the movie theater seat thing, but whenever there's a circle of people standing around, I often catch myself to the outside.

    10. Uhm, everything everybody does in the outside world expends energy, no? Mostly depends on what I'm doing I guess.

    11. I've been in so few relationships I can't really tell. My first relationship was with a clear cut introvert by all definitions. Since then I've found myself attracted to introverts and extroverts equally as much I think.

    12. My interests tend to be kind of myopic and esoteric I suppose, so it can be kinda tricky to connect with others in that way.

    13. I used to go to improv shows all the time, and I've volunteered a couple times to go on stage. I was always more comfortable yelling suggestions from the audience though, and damn did I give some good ones.

    14. Nah, I always answer the phone when I'm available.

    15. I notice details too, but maybe I'm autistic so iunno olololol

    16. Doesn't sound particularly introvert-specific to me. I do catch myself having some sort of interior dialogue (note: not monologue, because I talk back and forth lol) with myself.

    17. Last I recall my blood pressure was WNL.

    18. I sure as hell feel like an old soul sometimes, haha. Not sure it has to do with any habits of critical thinking and analysis, but more some sense of early maturity.

    19. Depends on the surroundings and my state of mind, but I've definitely experienced a "high" from my environment before. I've never taken Ritalin before so that's a moot issue.

    20. Way 2 misinterpret Jung, Carolyn

    21. I don't think I've ever been told this in my life.

    22. I consider myself to be a very good writer, although I don't practice it as a skill or a craft.

    23. To some extent, sure. A lot of my social interactions come out of a sense of obligation really, like "I have to go out in order to be a 'good' and 'normal' person."
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    I think most of them are good indicators.

     

    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    Mostly yes, but not always. Even small talk usually has some content. What I really dislike are completely meaningless phrases which are considered to be polite.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
    Yeah, I typically spend time and talk with the people I know.

    3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
    That's difficult to answer. I rarely feel "alone", anyway.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
    Yes, definitely.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    People have commented on that, but always positively. So nobody said I was "too" intense.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Sometimes, especially when I'm doing something I don't actually want to do at that moment.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    I can spend long periods of time without much activity, I'll usually find something interesting to do and won't feel bored or unproductive. That doesn't work for an eternity, though.

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
    Sure, the talk is easier because I can pretty much organize it the way I want. The "mingling" is not as predictable and therefore more stressful.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    I don't really care about that.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    Yes, this happens from time to time.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
    n/a

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
    Not necessarily, because I have many interests. Having a broad knowledge can be also be quite useful. On the other handside, I wouldn't try to do "everything" just for the sake of doing it.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    Probably.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
    Yeah, "not being mentally prepared" for a call may sound silly, but this describes it well.

    15. You notice details that others don't.
    Sometimes, if I have an extensive knowledge of something.

    16. You have a constantly running interior monologue.
    No, not constantly.

    17. You have low blood pressure.
    No idea.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
    Yes, I remember people telling me something along these lines, even before I was 20.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    I wouldn't say that, places are definitely very important to me. But there are no people at the places I like (or imagine I'd like).

    20. You look at the big picture.
    Actually, I tend to lose myself in details.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    Yes, and I was quite annoyed because it came from a person I did not have (or showed) any interest to interact with.

    22. You’re a writer.
    I like to write because I have all the time I need to make my position clear and compose the text. I've been told several times that I'm doing a good job at it.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
    Yes, if I don't feel like socialising, I won't.

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    – Arthur Schopenhauer

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    i related to almost all of them. the exception that jumped out the most was that i definitely enjoy the energy of a crowd. if it's good energy.

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    Thank you Galen, honey, hun. Bold are mine.

    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome - Not having any info about some person is actually cucumbersome to me. I would forget about them the moment it was over, no shit. I'm not doing it on purpose - it just happens. So if you don't want to receive a "who the hell are you?" out loud from me or in the back of my head, open your mouth.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people - Actually I go to parties for a drink.

    3. You often feel alone in a crowd - Nah, I'm with myself.

    a) Ever feel like an outsider in the middle of social gatherings and group activities, even with people you know? - I did and that's the reason I keep to my kind of people.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony - The what?

    5. You've been called "too intense." - I've been called/offered a piece in some amateur film as security, I've been called a bank robber, I've been called a MMA fighter, I've been called a murderer, I've been called cold as stone, I've been called "the negative scenario thinker", and few more I can't remember, but never too intense, so no.

    a) Do you have a penchant for philosophical conversations and a love of thought-provoking books and movies? If so, you're a textbook introvert. - I can move around philosophy but to talk it every second of my life, I would have to be pretty drunk.

    6. You're easily distracted - Nope.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you - Nope, taking into account I am doing something, so I don't really get the rest of #7.

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards - I have no idea, never did it, but it sure sounds crappy having to know those 500 people. I would be fine if I managed to remember three.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle. - Only during a zombie attack.


    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long - Get exhausted actually.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert - I'm not Maritsa.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything - I stick to things I know I am fine at, so trying to fail at things I'm not isn't really my cup of tea, but I might try it providing I would have it in me.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation - I overdid alcohol in cinema 10 years ago (I think), and it was my last visit there, so I'm quite dizzy when it comes to #13.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends - Nope, I can't find my cell phone at times.

    15. You notice details that others don't - Sure.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s - The "things" I've been called I already mentioned.

    a) Introverts observe and take in a lot of information, and they think before they speak, leading them to appear wise to others - Few people listen anyway.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings - Werd one. Endorphins make me high.

    20. You look at the big picture - After I get it.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.” - Nah.

    22. You’re a writer - Yes, I wrote many books on this site and they have all been bestsellers.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity - Hmmm...

    24. You had a drink - Yes

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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome
    almost always. except for the rare times i'm actually interested in the person and small talk is a useful segueway to bigger talk.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people
    i like the idea of meeting new people but i almost never do and usually just end up hanging around the people i know already.

    3. Ever feel like an outsider in the middle of social gatherings and group activities, even with people you know?
    not if i actually feel close to them, no. at a distant family reunion or something, sure.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony
    absolutely. this isn't true for everyone, though?

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    once or twice but eh.

    5. Do you have a penchant for philosophical conversations and a love of thought-provoking books and movies?
    i like talking about philosophical things but i don't know about "penchant." its usually somebody else who steers it into that territory. i like thought-provoking media but who would say they don't?

    6. You're easily distracted.
    i have a short attention span. i dunno about easily distracted, though, because that implies i'm strongly interested in something to begin with. it depends.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    it feels unproductive but if i don't have anything pressing to do, i don't see the big deal.

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards
    yes.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    i said "always" at first but i misunderstood. i don't always sit at the end on the bus bench but i usually sit around the outer perimeter of rooms and that sort of thing.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    wtf kind of question is this? who says "no" to this? NO I NEVER SLEEP

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert
    no, and i'm usually drawn to introverts.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything
    i just do what i do. i do tend to hyperfocus rather than spread out, though. or if i do spread out, its with the goal of finding one thing.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    i've never been to a standup show, and the idea makes me a little nervous for that reason, but i don't actively avoid it for that reason - i'd like to.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends
    yep.

    15. You notice details that others don't
    yes, i think so.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s
    nope.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    false. being in a high-energy crowd is one of my favorite feels.

    20. You look at the big picture
    um, i don't think so? i dunno.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    yes.

    22. You’re a writer
    i have been known to put letters together to form words

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity
    yeah. but this is a weird question again that i think most people would say yes to.

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    I may even relate to all of them but when I confront myself with IRL people who are clear introverts there is an obvious difference in terms of initiating conversations, activities, expending energy (both mental and physical), introducing new topics, being the active force in making a specific wish come true...that is usually related with "Jung-like" extraversion, I think?

    I mean, I've been told to "come out of my shell" sometimes, and I was simply not saying a word because I found the person dull. So I just told him-her "I just find you boring". What does that make me? (Other than an asshole )
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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    Not really. I don't initiate it, but if someone says some idle comment I'll go with it. Sometimes it becomes interesting, like when a cashier ended up telling me about finding a snake in her house that morning.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
    Um, I don't really go to parties.

    3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
    I feel alone all the time, regardless of where I am.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
    Which is why I don't do it.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    Several times.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Not at all. I focus too well sometimes.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    Sometimes it does. But, I can do things like watch curtains blow in the wind, or the changing patterns made by sunlight or something for a long time without feeling bored which would drive most extroverts crazy

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
    yes

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    I think I'd sit wherever a spot was open and was convenient for getting out.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    socially - yes. I zone out and stop hearing what anyone is saying.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
    n/a

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
    One thing? No, not really. I have a lot of interests and don't like narrowing myself down too much.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    No. While I don't ever seek the spotlight, and generally prefer to stay in the audience watching, I've ended up on stage a few times in these sorts of things. I wouldn't choose it, but it wasn't bad at all.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
    No.

    15. You notice details that others don't.
    Has been true, but depends on the company I'm with. Some people really pick up on a lot of little things.

    16. You have a constantly running interior monologue.
    Yep.

    17. You have low blood pressure.
    No idea.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
    No. I don't think I've been called this. If I ever was I forgot about it.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    ??

    20. You look at the big picture.
    meh

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    Once by someone really annoying. I just didn't want to talk to her.

    22. You’re a writer.
    I write.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
    Yar.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I may even relate to all of them but when I confront myself with IRL people who are clear introverts there is an obvious difference in terms of initiating conversations, activities, expending energy (both mental and physical), introducing new topics, being the active force in making a specific wish come true...that is usually related with "Jung-like" extraversion, I think?
    This.

    I also find extroverted women less attractive than introvert women.

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    Read the list twice to find what didn't apply to me. The screening calls one. I usually answer always for just in case reasons.

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    This is not introversion, this is individuality. Any individual, regardless of type, cultivates sincere interests both in things and people because he is more interested in responding to himself than to the external world. I think it's perfectly normal for a person with a refined set of personal values to dislike small talk, as it is not so much about talking about trivial stuff as much as it is talking just for the sake of talking. It's normal to spend considerable time in solitary work such as writing, because to master an interest requires not less than full effort. Any individual would feel lost in a crowd, as it negates your own set of values.

    I think there is a connection between intelligence and individuality.

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    So I just told him-her "I just find you boring". What does that make me? (Other than an asshole )
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    Quote Originally Posted by mikemex View Post
    I think there is a connection between intelligence and individuality.
    You think a lot these days, almost like by infection, catching an opinion like a cold.

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    what lungs said.
    maybe a saint is just a dead prick with a good publicist
    maybe tommorow's statues are insecure without their foes
    go ask the frog what the scorpion knows

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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome
    nah it's okay


    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people
    sometimes. In the sense that if I find myself repelled by some people, I don't force it but I'll give in if I gravitate towards a decent group of people.

    3. Ever feel like an outsider in the middle of social gatherings and group activities, even with people you know?
    sometimes.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony
    sometimes. I don't find it that bad.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    not "too intense" but "intense"

    5. Do you have a penchant for philosophical conversations and a love of thought-provoking books and movies?
    Yes.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Depends.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    Nope. downtime makes me happy. I do things just to have a downtime.

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards
    YES..

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    I stand near exits if possible..

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    Ya I shut down.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert
    they're okay.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything
    I'd like to say I try to do everything... but I tend to focus in on something and learn it indepth.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    not really. I'll go. I just probably won't volunteer. unless you could win something that I'd be interested in.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends
    I do... as sometimes I just don't feel like talking.

    15. You notice details that others don't
    probably.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s
    I have. since my...10s..

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    huh? I get dizzy around too many people closing in..

    20. You look at the big picture
    I do.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    I have.

    22. You’re a writer
    of things.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity
    sure.

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    those clothing ads really tie the article together
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    TIL I'm an introvert.

    Though I don't know anyone that would pick to sit in the middle of the subway over the window ever.

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    Though I don't know anyone that would pick to sit in the middle of the subway over the window ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FoxOnStilts View Post
    Though I don't know anyone that would pick to sit in the middle of the subway over the window ever.
    A terrorist.

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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome
    Often. Depends, amongst others, on whether I'm in a gregarious mood or trying to be charming at the person. Yes, at them. With friends not unless we talk most days, in which case I feel close enough to them that the small talk feels unnecessary.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people
    I have but I'm not fantastic at it. Tend to go until I've met enough friends and then leave the partying for its own sake alone.

    3. Ever feel like an outsider in the middle of social gatherings and group activities, even with people you know?
    Sure. Easy feeling to get. Also, I don't *expect* to feel included at a gathering per se unless it's all good friends.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony
    Can feel hypocritical when done for its own sake. Especially if I end up talking but not walking.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    Maybe behind my back. I may have been called intense to my face.

    5. Do you have a penchant for philosophical conversations and a love of thought-provoking books and movies?
    Former: depends on the philosophy, some of it is frankly bottom-tier or dumb. Latter: sure.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Somewhat context/mood-dependent. On average long attention span, but maybe I'm paying attention to a stream of ideas.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    Why would 'downtime' have to be 'productive' you crazy yanks?

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards
    The potential of having to make small talk 500 times pushes me to vote for talk-giving.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    What subway?

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    Yup. Notably when started an evening being all noisy and go noticeably quiet after a while. Then eventually ramp up again, or just talk normally until the end. In everyday life it's much easier to keep energy up if I spend it, having to stop and hoard it is tiring. Same with walking slowly = draining.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert
    N/a. Have been both the intro and extroverted party in Best Friend Relationships.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything
    I want a middle way. Get me an attorney.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    No.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends
    Yes.

    15. You notice details that others don't
    Sometimes. 2/3% of time?

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s
    Dunno, probably depends on life-stage. Hard to be called old when you won't shut up.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    Si. Beauty, energy, emotions, sheer excitement and wanting to make noise.

    20. You look at the big picture
    How big do you want it?

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    [b]Yup.

    22. You’re a writer
    Nope.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity
    No, I never sleep. (Credit to @lungs.)

    Okay, yes. Usually more solitude than socialisation. Looking back there may be a pattern of extended daily socialisation causing a system crash.
    Reason is a whore.

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    What are people's thoughts on Susan Cain's discussion of what "introversion" is? Does it sit well with the Socionics definition of introversion? Any similarities, differences, missed nuances, etc.?
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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    Depends. It depends on how expansive I feel that day. I have days where I engage in short conversations with strangers all day. The guy who looks sad on the corner. The girl I sit next to in class but never talk to. Just sort of like a butterfly or something..jumping from person to person. Suddenly, "social butterfly" makes a new level of sense to me. Hah. But eh. I also have days where I'm very reserved and not into having conversations with people I don't know well.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
    I go with people I know and usually meet people, and will chit-chat, but will always gravitate back to the people I know better, usually.

    3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
    Depends on the day.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
    I'm not sure what all this entails. I guess when you see people as means to and end....ehhh. Yeah. I dunno. I don't network.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    I've been called "focused" or "dedicated/stubborn".

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Depends.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    It often does. It depends on what I'm doing though.

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
    No, no, no.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    I give others a comfy distance.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    I work in bursts, so yeah. If I'm "on" then I'm "on" at a high calibur and operate at this frequency until I'm worn out.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
    Uh.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
    I try to do everything. ;P I pick up hobbies and projects, then put them down and pick something else up. I'd love to be an "expert" at something though.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    Yeah.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
    No. Haha. I answer anytime someone calls me. Unless you are a collections agent.

    15. You notice details that others don't.
    Yeah.

    16. You have a constantly running interior monologue.
    Uhhhhhh. Not sure.

    17. You have low blood pressure.
    Not sure how this is related. I think this is BS. Unless they're like trying to connect being an endomorph with introversion. I can see endomorphs being more prone to low BP but I feel like...this is kinda a stretch. My BP is normal-low.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
    Yeah.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    False.

    20. You look at the big picture.
    Yes and no.
    Sometimes I get really engrossed in the details and lose sight of the big picture.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    Yeah. But I'm shy sometimes so...
    Usually when this happens, it's someone I just don't wanna talk to and who is trying to be all expansive when I'm just not in the mood.

    22. You’re a writer.
    I like to write.
    I like writing in a flow-of-consciousness way because things just come out and it's kinda exciting to see what pours out.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
    I think everyone does to some degree.
    It's called balance.



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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    Not all the time. Because people in this country don't try to steer small talk in any particular direction, you can have quite a bit of fun with it.

    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
    I go to hang out with friends and meet potential suitors. Any other friendmaking is spontaneous.

    3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
    Very often, but especially when I start getting drunk.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
    Yes. I also hate watching people network, it makes me feel nauseous.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    I was recently described as looking "too serious" by the counter girl when I was ordering a cheeseburger.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Notoriously.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    If I'm pretty tired, I appreciate the rest, but eventually end up feeling bad because I'm getting nothing done.

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
    Not really that stressful either way. It's actually quite easy to work a crowd and make them laugh, because there's very little individuality and people are not hard to entertain in that mindset.

    Mingling is more annoying because it requires more thought, but it's still not that bad.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    I give others a comfy distance.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    If I go out on say, a Friday and don't sleep much (or at all), I basically shut out people for the rest of the weekend. Apart from that, I take it on a day to day basis. I like people much less if I'm not well-rested, though.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
    I was recently and didn't like it much.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
    Nah, I'd rather be more adaptable. Just my nature.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    I just sit further back.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
    No, this doesn't really bother me. Maybe a mild groan before answering if it's someone/something annoying.

    15. You notice details that others don't.
    Yes.

    16. You have a constantly running interior monologue.
    Yes.

    17. You have low blood pressure.
    It is below average.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
    No, just cynical.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    Yes.

    20. You look at the big picture.
    Always. Sometimes at the expense of the details.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    Yes, many times. Especially when I started working after high school.

    22. You’re a writer.
    I wrote when I was younger. I prefer conceptualising games and planning them than actually creating them. I write good essays, though. My writing ability eventually developed well.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
    Yeah. I don't have the same drive to be consistently partying or socialising unless it's supremely convenient for me to do so.

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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    No, not really. I find conversations with stupid people "cumbersome." I've had fascinating conversations about the weather with people who understand the science behind it. I know one guy who spends half the year chasing tornados. I'll talk weather with him all day long.


    2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
    I go to parties?
    (I actually thought most people went to parties to hang out with a large group of people they already knew.)


    3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
    No, which might explain why I want to get the fuck out of crowds whenever I find myself in one.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
    "Networking" is inherently phony. It requires you to pretend to have an interest in people beyond what is genuine.

    5. You've been called "too intense."
    Only when I'm mind connecting with DJ Arandee.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    Not really. In fact it can be difficult to get me to unfocus.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    Umm.. If I spend six hours playing Mr. Jones Graveyard Shift I feel pretty fucking unproductive.

    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    I try to sit alone whenever possible.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    Don't most people? What? Extroverts don't sleep?

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
    Honestly, I don't know. I'm in a relationship with someone who is decidedly more social than me, but 99% of the world is more social than I am.

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
    No. I have eclectic interests.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    Hells bells yes I do.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
    Honey, I don't screen my calls, I refuse to own a phone.

    15. You notice details that others don't.
    I noticed what a stupid observation this is. How the fuck am I supposed to know what other people notice?

    16. You have a constantly running interior monologue.
    Yes. I think exclusively in words. From what I've read most people tend to think in a mixture of pictures and words. I can't even do that thing where you're supposed to imagine a red square with a blue triangle inside of it.



    17. You have low blood pressure.
    I am prone to fainting spells. It's very Victorian of me.

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
    Yes, but I try not to spend too much time around people prone to such drivel.

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    Umm... What?

    20. You look at the big picture.
    Or the little picture.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    No. That probably strikes most people as an unasonable demand to make of me. Like asking someone with paralysis to stand up and take a bow (great moment, Mr. Biden).

    22. You’re a writer.
    I am literate, yes.

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
    I alternate between phases of work and brain rest.


    According to this insightful Huffpo piece I may or may not be an introvert. Neat.
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    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    Yes, I just say please stop making conversations and lets get things done...do, do, do; go, go, go

    1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
    No. I can go to a party and be the one who incorporates the odd person out into the mix and it usually brightens the new person up to feel a part of the whole.

    3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
    I'm usually too much into my thoughts to even notice the stresses of the crowd, so I don't feel alone anywhere really.

    4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
    I find networking a necessary. I have a vibrant entrepreneurial spirit; I think it's necessary to for me.

    6. You're easily distracted.
    No. I'm very focused on my work. I'm also very detailed and thorough...that's why I'm liked as a bookkeeper.

    7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
    I love down time. usually with friends and family

    8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
    I've given rather large speeches in front of large crowds and I think pretty good at them. I'm not at all stressed since I focus on my speech.


    9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
    Yes, I tend to do this quite often.

    10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
    Yes, for long periods of time unfortunately.

    11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
    I'm in all kinds of relationships with extroverts

    12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
    Um, I'm pretty much a jack of many trades.

    13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
    Yes. But, occasionally, I will be inspired to ask question when interested.

    14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
    No. I take all my calls and go with the flow.

    15. You notice details that others don't.
    I've been known to comment on things about patterns of things that people don't easily notice.

    16. You have a constantly running inner monologue.
    Yes.

    17. You have low blood pressure.
    Yes

    18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
    No

    19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings
    I don't.

    20. You look at the big picture.
    Implications and flow of possible events.

    21. You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
    All the time.


    22. You’re a writer.
    I have notebooks and journal after journal to show for it

    23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
    I like long periods of solitude

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    My EIE cousin posted this list on fb, claiming that "the shoe fits" - now she thinks she's an introvert. This article has done more harm than help in identifying introverts, imo. It's too general.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aubzatuck View Post
    My EIE cousin posted this list on fb, claiming that "the shoe fits" - now she thinks she's an introvert. This article has done more harm than help in identifying introverts, imo. It's too general.


    Wow. The damage this puff piece has had on society is unfathomable. It's so tragic when extroverts think they're introverted. *shakes head*
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    Quote Originally Posted by William View Post
    Don't troll new members, Scape.

    You could have said 'I don't think the harm would be that great' instead of being incredibly sarcastic. I thought she made a good point that the article can lead to a lot of mistypings.
    Oh man. You really put me in my place, brother. Woah. Point taken. I will never correct a person with delusions about the significance of typology theories ever again.
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    Go suck your mother's tit.
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    @Scapegrace - For the record, I didn't say anything about the effect this article has had on society. I said I think it's done more harm than help when it comes to identifying introverts. If you don't think identifying introverts is important, my comment isn't important. You're the one blowing shit out of proportion.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aubzatuck View Post
    @Scapegrace - For the record, I didn't say anything about the effect this article has had on society. I said I think it's done more harm than help when it comes to identifying introverts. If you don't think identifying introverts is important, my comment isn't important. You're the one blowing shit out of proportion.
    OMGOGOMGOMGOMG.

    Huffington post! How dare you make it difficult to identify introverts! Stick to side boob, you novices.
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