This question is particularly for egos, though if you know one well and are certain of their thought processes, you can chime in. Just keep in mind that I am interested in info of/from people who have been typed in Socionics, independent of any type they may have in MBTI.
I attempted to discuss the nature of with someone on PerC. The person's assertion is that types focus on how others feel; whereas types focus on their own feelings, even to determine how others are feeling or should be feeling (ie "that would have hurt me, so it must have hurt her", or "I feel this way about x, so the other person should, too"). Socionic descriptions of say it can focus on both its own feelings/sentiments/desires and someone else's. So here are my questions:
* Do you treat others' feelings as an extension of your own ("That would make me feel bad, so they probably feel bad")?
* Do you focus on others' feelings independent of how you would personally feel in that situation? If so, is it based on what you know of their likes and dislikes, or do you have another way of determining they are hurt/offended? Do you find it is easier to determine whether someone is upset/hurt/offended by something if you know them well? How do you handle this when strangers are involved?
* Do you do both? If so, which is your primary mode of operation?