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    Why Cynicism is Good for Your Workplace
    Guest Post: Dr. Paul White, co-author of The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace

    This may seem to be a bit of an “about face” for me – given my previous writing on how cynicism is a result of “bad” employee recognition or when employees question the authenticity of appreciation communicated. But it occurred to me that, really, cynicism can be a positive influence in our workplaces. How?

    1) When people are cynical, they are giving us honest feedback about how they really feel. When was the last time that you heard a cynical remark from a colleague and you accused them of not being honest regarding how they really feel? (Aside from the sarcastic remark: “So, Janice, tells us how you really feel!”) Cynicism communicates from the heart, so you don’t have to question whether the person is being honest with their comment.

    2) Cynical remarks give us a reality check with what was said, promised or done in the past. When people question the probability of the most recent promise actually happening, they almost always refer back to a prior promise or commitment that wasn’t fulfilled.(“Oh, so this is just like the time the management said that if we got the project completed on time, we’d share in the bonus the company received. Didn’t happen.”) So they help us remember what we said (and didn’t follow through on) before. They become sort of our informal historians.

    3) Cynicism lets us know how people perceive our words and actions. Have you ever noticed that most cynical remarks are fairly quick, “on the spot” quips or “come back’s” to a statement? They are largely unedited thoughts and attitudes spoken out loud. And they fairly directly communicate how others view what we just said, did or promised – unfortunately, the message is: “I don’t believe you.” So most cynical remarks give us a clue that we need to work on our following through on what we say. (Sometimes, I will admit, that cynicism is coming from the heart of the speaker – that they are angry and resentful about life in general – and that their remark may have little to do with you, me or whoever is speaking.)

    4) Cynicism provides the opportunity to learn what would be really meaningful to others. If we take the time to listen to the cynical comment, not dismiss it immediately as “disrespectful” and “unfounded”, then we actually can learn something from our colleagues. A follow-up question like: “What would could be done that would start to demonstrate that we mean what we say?” can provide some valuable insight into how others are thinking – and how we can begin to rebuild trust.

    I’m not advocating for implementing strategies for increasing cynicism in our work environments (there seems to be plenty). But I do think we can learn positive lessons from the cynical remarks we hear, and then try to address the root issues of “unbelievability” that help create the cynical mindset.
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    It is good for you.

    People should try to be cynical at least 3 times a day.

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    Dr. Jim has made his prescription.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
    Dr. Jim has made his prescription.
    Try not to be cynical on an empty stomach.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    It is good for you.

    People should try to be cynical at least 3 times a day.
    I have always thought of cynics as wounded idealists.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    I have always thought of cynics as wounded idealists.
    It's true.

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    You don't work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    It's true.
    I wonder who hurt you.

    Quote Originally Posted by Words View Post
    You don't work.
    Hmm, hope your only line of defence is a job, for I did see people who actually don't work...

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd
    I have always thought of cynics as wounded idealists.
    It's true.
    The same way men beating their wives make me think of disillusioned romantics. Yeah, no.

    Hey, wait a minute...
    I call myself batyote and I fight crime at night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Words View Post
    You don't work.
    What does my currently not being in a job environment have to do with the content or meaning of the article?
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
    What does my currently not being in a job environment have to do with the content or meaning of the article?
    I live on expericence, also Dr Oatker, he makes bad food, don't trust academics.

    So I look for two way feedback, personally.

    OK If this guy worked in actual jobs he'd realise that splitting into 4 groups is silly and that actual workers delianate groups as they see fit.

    No relevance?

    Why the thread then?

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    Quote Originally Posted by malna View Post
    The same way men beating their wives make me think of disillusioned romantics. Yeah, no.

    Hey, wait a minute...
    Its okay Malna, when you marry me you can beat me as long as you don't leave any bruises. It'll help to communicate your disappointment clearly and concisely

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    Better ask "Why cynicism?"

    It shouldn't really even be mentioned in the situation it was mentioned, that is, the context. That article is misleading and whoever dubs themselves a cynic and not living as one, is simply an idiot.

    Of course not unless the author writes about something completely different that just flied over my head.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Words View Post
    OK If this guy worked in actual jobs he'd realise that splitting into 4 groups is silly and that actual workers delianate groups as they see fit.
    Who split what into four groups?
    The article just listed 4 ways in which cynicism could provide a positive influence.


    No relevance?

    Why the thread then?
    Cynicism isn't regulated to only the workplace.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
    The article just listed 4 ways in which cynicism could provide a positive influence.
    Crappy it didn't list 'depression' in four different languages...

    I would have plenty of evidence it affects Ni/Se humans and animals alike.

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    Actually cynicism goes against all of the "virtues" you hold.

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    If cynicism is a virtue, then Ashton is very virtuous.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    Better ask "Why cynicism?"
    Actually, the article encourages this question.

    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd
    It shouldn't really even be mentioned in the situation it was mentioned, that is, the context.
    You mean the colloquial take on the term? Or what do you mean?

    (I'll gladly agree that the article is equally constructive as considering the benefits of farting.)

    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim
    Its okay Malna, when you marry me you can beat me as long as you don't leave any bruises.
    Eh, victims. And it's not like I'd ever see you home anyway, would I? Promises, promises.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
    If cynicism is a virtue, then Ashton is very virtuous.
    Cynicism isn't a virtue. Cynicism is cynicism. Cynicism exemplifies virtues. None of you in this thread would pass as a cynic.

    Quote Originally Posted by malna View Post
    Actually, the article encourages this question.
    It does and I am wondering why.

    You mean the colloquial take on the term? Or what do you mean?
    I was referring to the old vs. the new.

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    Optimists might invent the means to fly but the cynicists invent the parashoot. Or just point out that hydrogen is flammable.
    “I tell you, freedom and human rights in America are doomed. The U.S. government will lead the American people in — and the West in general — into an unbearable hell and a choking life. - Osama bin Laden

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