@zbrobins It might help to look at the nuances of SEI vs SLI caregiving. Try to notice what levels of encouragement your ILE appreciates. My SEI sister in law has the same laid back solid presence that my SLI friends have. But she sort of radiates this reassuring warmth and encouragement that is not as evident in SLIs. I think that is one of the things that my ILE brother loves about his wife. It must have something to do with Fe, but it is very understated, never loud. I never feel the same kind of warmth with my SLI friends, and it makes it hard for me to tell how they feel and I don't feel as reassured of their affection for me. (I'm not ILE, btw, but I am Fe valuing.) I wrote about bowling with my brother in another thread. He was having such a hard time with the equipment, his timing, the lane itself. It was ridiculous. The SEI was not overly attentive to his difficulties, and I don't think he really wanted anyone advising him, like an LSE or ESE might have in that situation. He just wanted to verbalize what he was having trouble with, and she would just listen, not even in a very active way, but you felt her sympathy. In that situation my SLI friend would probably also listen and then say, "You're bowling like shit today." Which would probably make my brother laugh in the moment. But in the long term, his wife really comforts him and steadies him with her gentleness and discretion. I think SLIs are more blunt and solid. Which works well for IEEs. @Park