I have a very good ILI friend who is struggling to find someone to date. He rarely goes anywhere, and has focused his dating efforts into a dating website. I have talked to him a lot about the sorts of traits he is looking for in a woman. Most of what he wants points to EII or ESI. I know those types aren't a terrible match for him. Still, I have tried to talk to him about SEEs, especially since he never goes out of the house and often seems to lack the will to do anything. However, he seems very turned off by anyone who I point out as exhibiting SEE traits.
He is only gauging people by a stupid photo and profile, so I doubt he can really get a sense of what it would be like to be around an SEE. I am wondering if there are any ILIs here that may have been unimpressed by SEEs at first, and then later came around. Can you talk about what changed your mind? And, have any of you ILI males landed an SEE female? Did she go after you, or what?