Relationship Attachment Styles - Profiles and Test

[silke]

Short quiz that scores along anxiety and avoidance scales placing you into one of the four quadrants: Secure, Preoccupied, Fearful, and Dismissing: attachment styles test

Extended descriptions of each style:
Type: Secure
Type: Fearful-Avoidant (aka Anxious-Avoidant)
Type: Anxious-Preoccupied
Type: Dismissive-Avoidant

Attachment styles relationship compatibility: https://jebkinnison.com/2014/05/05/a...relationships/
Secure attachment style is predicted to be most compatible with another Secure style and can also match Fearful style.
Dismissive attachment style is most often matched by Preoccupied attachment style.

Self-esteem and Attachment Type
Attachment Styles Statistics: Prevalence in Dating Pool
Avoidant: emotions supressed beneath conscious level
Anxous-Preoccupied and Dismissive-Avoidant Couples





my result: According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 2.82/7.0, your attachment-related avoidance score is 4.78/7.0. Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the dismissing quadrant.

[InvisibleJim]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 4.44, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 5.45, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the fearful quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that fearful people tend to have much difficulty in their relationships. They tend to avoid becoming emotionally attached to others, and, even in cases in which they do enter a committed relationship, the relationship may be characterized by mistrust or a lack of confidence.

[jet city woman]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 4.10, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 2.20, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.



This is really interesting too: http://www.mindfulnessmuse.com/indiv...-relationships

Preoccupied/Anxious Attachment Style:

A preoccupied or anxious attachment style may manifest itself in an adult appearing to be “all caught up” or ensnared in preoccupations about current or past relationships. It is almost as if these individuals don’t have room in their own minds for their own minds… they are completely filled with thoughts about other people and preserving relationships. The central theme of this attachment style is a fear of losing relationships.

You may guess that this attachment style tends to develop in children whose parents were inconsistently available or unpredictable. This can leave children feeling preoccupied with how to hold on to those important relationships, which were perplexing or unstable. Teyber and McClure (2011) note that “many preoccupied [individuals] grew up enmeshed (and often parentified) with an unpredictable parent who was too often caught up in his/her own emotional upheavals to be able to be a safe haven and provide containment and affect regulation for the child.”

*Yes, this is true about me! "Parentification is the process of role reversal whereby a child is obliged to act as parent to their own parent. In extreme cases, the child is used to fill the void of the alienating parent's emotional life." Yes, my mom and I had this type of relationship.

Typical statements of a preoccupied adult:

“I’m often wondering whether she really cares about me or not.”
“I often feel dependent on him for emotional support.”
“I turn to him when I’m upset, but it doesn’t really help me feel much better.”


http://www.blogthings.com/whatsyoura...lt=Preoccupied

You expect others to love and respect you, but you're still working on loving and respecting yourself.
You crave intimacy, and sometimes you try to get too close to people too quickly.

You are afraid of being rejected, and you feel ashamed if someone else doesn't share your feelings.
You tend to alternately push people away and overwhelm them. It's hard for you to find a happy medium.

[Beautiful sky]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 1.55, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 1.89, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

I'm extremely secure

[Finale]

Interesting poll/quiz, although I question it's accuracy.

My results:

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 1.70, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 1.80, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).



Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

[Beautiful sky]

your attachment-related anxiety score is 1.70, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 1.80, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

I'm more secure than you?

Socionics killed my record of having the best relationships. LOL

[Beautiful sky]

“I’m often wondering whether she really cares about me or not.”
“I often feel dependent on him for emotional support.”
“I turn to him when I’m upset, but it doesn’t really help me feel much better.”

I can see that in SLI

Also I can also see that in LSE

And maybe it's food for thought for me.

OR, MAYBE THEY SHOULD JUST COME OVER AND GET SOME

[Narc]

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

[anndelise]

3.1 anxiety
4.6 avoidance
Places me in the Dismissing quadra.

It's true that I am uncomfortable depending on someone else, and that I don't turn to my partners regarding my deep personal anxieties. However, I am still a dependent on R, and I do feel comfortable asking him for help for physical stuff (which I do ask of...a lot).

Normally I am highly anxious in my relationships, but with R I'm only anxious that something external will pull him away from me. I trust him, and trust his attachment to me. He's the only guy I've been with who hasn't hit my anxiety triggers, and who, for some unknown reason, accepts me despite all my faults.

Without R, I'd be in the fearful-avoidant quadra....with very high anxiety and very high avoidance.

[FoxOnStilts]

"According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.25, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 2.33, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance)."

"Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders."

Wow, I expected my anxiety to be a lot higher.

[InvisibleJim]

Identibros

[squirreltual]

attachment-related anxiety score is 2.25
attachment-related avoidance score is 3.25

I think I'm more avoidant than that actually.

[blackburry]

your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.25, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 5.75, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the dismissing quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that dismissing people tend to prefer their own autonomy--oftentimes at the expense of their close relationships. Although dismissing people often have high self-confidence, they sometimes come across as hostile or competitive by others, and this often interferes with their close relationships.

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[yeves]

one of the explanations for why dating is harder in 30s ad 40s

[DirectorAbbie]

[Simon Ssmall]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 2.44, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 2.50, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).
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[suedehead]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 4.11, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.89, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance). Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.

[Amber]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.83, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.00, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

++can't copy the image, but the blue dot is on the first marked level of the "low avoidance" scale, secure quadrant.

As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partners are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

[Joy]

Well that's a bit of a surprise!

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

lol

[Joy]

one of the explanations for why dating is harder in 30s ad 40s

[Aylen]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 2.28, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.17, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

We have plotted your two scores in the two-dimensional space defined by attachment-related anxiety and avoidance. Your approximate position in this space is denoted by the blue dot. (Note: If you left any of the questions unanswered, then these scores may be inaccurate.)




As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partners are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

[ryoka14]

uhh lol

[Words]

Unable to provide link to graph via imigur at present, however results say:

"As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partners are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders."

[Persephone]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 1.61, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 4.44, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the dismissing region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that dismissing people tend to prefer their own autonomy--oftentimes at the expense of their close relationships. Although dismissing people often have high self-confidence, they sometimes come across as hostile or competitive by others, and this often interferes with their close relationships.

[darya]

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Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.

[Joy]

I recently took a test that measured dozens of areas, and my vulnerability score was the highest area. I bet that's strongly related to this.

[huiheiwufhawriuhg]

anxiety - 4,28/7
avoidance - 5,22/7
Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the fearful region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that fearful people tend to have much difficulty in their relationships. They tend to avoid becoming emotionally attached to others, and, even in cases in which they do enter a committed relationship, the relationship may be characterized by mistrust or a lack of confidence.

[Olimpia]

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[Moonbeaux Rainfox]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.78, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 4.65, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the dismissing region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that dismissing people tend to prefer their own autonomy--oftentimes at the expense of their close relationships. Although dismissing people often have high self-confidence, they sometimes come across as hostile or competitive by others, and this often interferes with their close relationships.

[CandleGirl]

I got Preoccupied and I very much relate to the brief description.

[silke]

bumping this with updated style profiles and a few more articles in the op

[lynn]

my results are anxious-preoccupied.

[Olimpia]

bumping this with updated style profiles and a few more articles in the op

Preoccupied and Avoidant often match up, but it is a very dysfunctional and destructive combo!

Everyone is best off with a Secure person.

Please edit that part...

[niffer]

[Aylen]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 2.28, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.17, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

We have plotted your two scores in the two-dimensional space defined by attachment-related anxiety and avoidance. Your approximate position in this space is denoted by the blue dot. (Note: If you left any of the questions unanswered, then these scores may be inaccurate.)


As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partners are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.

There I was again. My back pressed against the wall.

My head hung so low it looked like my neck might snap. The weight of lost love bared down again. Why could I never learn? Why did I always have to fall in love so quickly?

My old belief was that love was simply unicorns and butterflies. It was only pleasant—pleasurable, and should work, without any work.

This was naive and blatantly not true, but it didn’t stop me from believing it.

I used to love, so I could fill that part of myself that I couldn’t love.

There’s a part of me that desperately seeks fixing. It doesn’t feel good enough. It’s my shyness, it’s my laziness, it’s my near constant anxiety.

It’s my fear. It’s my hate. It’s my judgement.

I start to fear myself when I find myself falling into love again.

I know I’m going to get lost. I know I’m going to give too much. I know I’m going to lose track of what’s important.

When I love I lose: my relationships, my work, my force, my current life.

I stumble into a new world. One that feels pleasurable, yet fleeting. Cling to this, hold on tight, it’s going to leave. It’s going to crumble away—it always does.

In this breaking, is where I realize what I’ve done. I realize where I’ve lost my path. I realize the wounds I still have left to acknowledge. I realize the potent power of love, mostly when it leaves.

But, I prefer to risk cracking my own heart than to withhold this love, even for a second.

Love always leads to loss. Death is always there.

Heartbreak. Loss. Pain. These are forms of love too.

These are the depths of love. Yet, these are the feelings we run from. We repress, and become numb. Fearing this side of what we love so much. This almost matters more than the love itself.

More than the bliss. More than the understanding. More than dissolving your boundaries into another. More than the multi-orgasmic sex.

Being afraid of the dark is no way to live in the light. We must plunge in, fall, experience and relish. We must never retreat.

I love to discover, but I also love because I’m an addict. I can’t get enough of these feelings.

Those feelings I can’t generate for myself. Those feelings that run so deep they speak with Spirit herself. Those feelings that make perfect sense, but also carry perfect fear.

I prefer to stumble madly into the pulse of the universe.

I want to spend my life buried in these feelings, digging through the rubble.

Reading about love can never get you close to what’s real. Talking about love doesn’t work either. Only by stumbling downhill and risking your entire heart, your entire life, can you begin to feel what our purpose is, as lovers.

So, yes, I might fall in love too fast. I might be reckless with my love. My heart may be covered in bandages. But, when I remove these bandages, at least I can say I was willing.

I was willing to love the wrong people, at the wrong time. I was willing to discover these depths. I was willing to walk blind into eventual pain. I was willing to be courageous.

Loving fully is brave. It takes a warrior. Only a coward withholds and hides from her heart. When you hide from its intensity you lose out on the one thing that’s worth living for.

Via Kevin Wood on May 30, 2015

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015...-my-own-heart/

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[HERO]

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 5.17, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.61, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

We have plotted your two scores in the two-dimensional space defined by attachment-related anxiety and avoidance. Your approximate position in this space is denoted by the blue dot. (Note: If you left any of the questions unanswered, then these scores may be inaccurate.)

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As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partners are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.

[Hermit Soul]

Hmm I got anxious preoccupied. I quite agree with this results. I like to be close with people, and I get upset when I feel that people doesn’t want to be close with me.