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    Default An ENFJ sexually attracted to ISTPs

    Recently I have become strongly enamored with an ISTP. I already knew that I was into rough sex i.e. bondage and submission type stuff, but what I didn't realize is that ISTP's have a lot of potential in that area. They like to use their hands, they could make contraptions and toys and use tools sexually, they can be into things like leather in terms of craftwork. Sometimes they like to work out. They have a sadistic streak in my opinion, naturally, but I don't know that that translates into any kind of sexual tendancies/role.

    What I don't understand is Delta sexuality. The Delta's were classified as "psuedo-infantile/psuedo-caretaker" types in the description I read. I have no freaking clue what that means. But I do know, as a beta, that I do affiliate with the description of my own sexual tendancies "the challenger/prize" (I would also describe it as a "rebel bottom," that kind of likes to goad dominants into punishing them) who pairs with types that like to play games with others, but that the other be strong enough to not be broken by it.


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    Fact: Everyone is attracted to ISTPs.

    Don't be fooled into thinking any other way.
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    IsTp are care takers they are not aggressors; they don't push people into having sex with them, they will try to get their suitors attention by doing something goofy but they aren't like Betas in terms of sticking their hands down people's blouses, or making very overt sexual advances, without sensing the comfort level of the other individual; my ex is ISTp; he didn't touch me or physically push me into having sex with him, he just sat back and relaxed and talked to me for a long time; he let me go to him when I felt comfortable; this is how most Delta men are. They can be convincing though and will try to talk you into going to them for sex, but they respect the person's personal space and boundaries. They may get emotionally touchy when you don't let them into that space, but they aren't going to push their way into it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa Darmandzhyan View Post
    like Betas in terms of sticking their hands down people's blouses, or making very overt sexual advances, without sensing the comfort level of the other individual
    I can't say this in inaccurate.
    I would say that ethically you are still supposed to act as if you have unilateral responsibility; but simultaneously you have to be able to see the other as a fully autonomous, free, aware person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pookie View Post
    I can't say this in inaccurate.
    Maybe Maritsa knows socionics, after all.

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    thanks for your feedback. yeah this ISTP had sort of given me some aggressive energy, but I think it was his latent ESTJ model B unconscious - streaming through the ISTP sort of non-social exterior - plus the guy is huge he works out and kind of does these warrior looking haircuts. i can see why i found him attractive, but it's nothing compared to my dual's energy.

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