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    So I'm talking to another dual. She laughs hysterically whenever I go on my cursing sprees and harass her, and that's nice.

    But we spend a lot of time doing things that are more in line with her interests, entertaining her Ni. Its not that she's selfish, its just that I haven't really made much of an effort to bring in my loud obnoxious Se world into the equation just yet.

    I'm curious to know how much I can stand being with her. When I'm done talking to her I feel kinda icky because I'm all nice and shit. I act completely different around her.

    It feels as if I should be out and about, doing Se things, and I take her along with me every once in a while, then when I'm worn out and exhausted I can come back to her for a slow paced soothing lifestyle. However, her lifestyle isn't something I'd want to live on a continual basis. I need my Se oxygen every so often.

    Does anyone else feel the same? Do you ever grow tired of your dual? If so, to what extent?

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    Getting tired of your dual?

    Step 1) Find not dual
    Step 2) Get on swimmingly
    Step 3) Rebrand them your dual.

    Tiredness resolved!

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    why DON'T you do the stuff you want to do? why not bring her places?

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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Getting tired of your dual?

    Step 1) Find not dual
    Step 2) Get on swimmingly
    Step 3) Rebrand them your dual.

    Tiredness resolved!
    haha... ESI!
    @lungs...
    well, cuz its an LDR. So we're still figuring that out. mostly my Se activities involve loud music, video games. The biggest compromise we've found between Ni and Se seems to be multiplayer video games and intense roleplay via skype, haha.

    I recently read that the Super-id functions represent self pity and neediness. So for me it would be Fe and Ni. When I enter my Dual's world of melancholic images and limbo-esque emotions I start to feel like a lost child that needs to be taken care of by IEI, and I'm just kinda like... yuk... Although I still find it interesting to dabble in every once in a while. It doesn't seem sustainable though. This is probably another IEI-Ni. I wonder if I'd prefer an IEI-Fe? Are there any IEI-Fe's on this website?

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    She sounds boring and emo.
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    lol!

    She couldn't possibly hold a candle up to your light my love.

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    It may look like it but IEIs in general don't desire a peaceful unexiting life. gets us out of our heads for 10 minutes, having Se around us can help us have spontanious fun and give us some motivation to make our visions and goals a reality.

    Anyway try to take her along and Involve in her in what you do and be yourself, if shes not interested in anything you are shes probs not your dual in the first place 'caus shes not seeking your base function which you use the most... if you are ESTp, sounds more like a mirage relation, she sound kinda SEI.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post

    well, cuz its an LDR. So we're still figuring that out. mostly my Se activities involve loud music, video games. The biggest compromise we've found between Ni and Se seems to be multiplayer video games and intense roleplay via skype, haha.
    ha ha I could kick anyones a$s at tekken. i like video games very much

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diam0nd View Post
    It may look like it but IEIs in general don't desire a peaceful unexiting life. gets us out of our heads for 10 minutes, having Se around us can help us have spontanious fun and give us some motivation to make our visions and goals a reality.

    Anyway try to take her along and Involve in her in what you do and be yourself, if shes not interested in anything you are shes probs not your dual in the first place 'caus shes not seeking your base function which you use the most... if you are ESTp, sounds more like a mirage relation, she sound kinda SEI.
    Hmmm...

    That sounds kinda one sided though. You think an IEI would never tire of the Se loud music, fist pumping, cursing and using random objects to beat her with?

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    YOU'RE NOT DUALS IF YOU DO NOT LIKE EVERY SINGLE THING ABOUT EACHOTHER.

    SHE IS YOUR CONFLICTOR.
    YOU HAVE TO LIKE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR DUAL.
    YOU HAVE TO LIKE EVERYTHING ABOUT THE PERSON YOU LIKE
    IF YOU DON'T IT MEANS YOU DON'T LIKE THEM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackburry View Post
    YOU'RE NOT DUALS IF YOU DO NOT LIKE EVERY SINGLE THING ABOUT EACHOTHER.

    SHE IS YOUR CONFLICTOR.
    YOU HAVE TO LIKE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR DUAL.
    YOU HAVE TO LIKE EVERYTHING ABOUT THE PERSON YOU LIKE
    IF YOU DON'T IT MEANS YOU DON'T LIKE THEM.
    well shit... when you put it that way...

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    realize how dumb it sounds??... good. I hope you do.

    we're people. You're never going to like everything about anyone.
    stop putting socionics the main priority. I think LDR are bad ideas anyways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackburry View Post
    realize how dumb it sounds??... good. I hope you do.
    Well my question isn't really that dumb,

    Do duals tire of one another?

    The descriptions say they're self sufficient system and disappear out of society and no longer need anything else but each other. Kinda sounds like they don't get tired of each other if you ask me.

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    I beg to differ.
    Those are descriptions. Those aren't reality.

    I bet you tire of yourself even...

    From the way you described your relationship. just think of the relationship itself. for all you know your typed wrong. my point is to take socionics out of this particular equation.

    So what? You're tired of this chick. You either like her enough or move on to the next one.

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    Thank you gamma brigade

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    lol!

    She couldn't possibly hold a candle up to your light my love.
    Of course not.

    We are the best duals.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Diam0nd View Post
    she sound kinda SEI.
    Oh thank God someone already said that.

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    To answer your question DJ, yes. In non socionics related situations like lying and cheating, like drug and alcohol abuse, purposefully doing things to get away, when they don't want to talk to you, when they can't grow up and abandon childhood dramas.

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    Admittedly, my SLE boyfriends Se styled lifestyle can be a bit much at times. What he doesn't seem to understand is that I actually do enjoy doing crazy things with him... Just not 24/7. After awhile I have to retreat back to my Ni world and recharge. Despite that, I thirst for adventure, and cherish that he's given me a bit of that. He wanted to go sky diving and was afraid to ask me at first because he wasn't sure I'd go for it. Truthfully, I'd love to do stuff like that with him... he just seems to think that I'll hold him back and keep him from having a good time. Meh. Whatever.

    At the same time, he can't really fully immerse himself into my little Ni tangents, so I often try to avoid getting into them with him. While I can see he definitely very influenced and drawn into that kind of thing, he can't really conceptualize things the way I can. He can't get in very deep, not the same way I can get in deep with my EIE friends, at least. It's not a natural state for him, though I can tell he loves that part of me.

    If you think about it, it's kind of comical that the macho jock roughneck is duals with the gay little emo poet. Worlds clash, yet we fit together so uniquely .
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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    Hmmm...

    That sounds kinda one sided though. You think an IEI would never tire of the Se loud music, fist pumping, cursing and using random objects to beat her with?
    Lol. The fist pumping, cursing & and loud music will never get old. And the SLE may have to be the one avoiding large objects... IEIs can be a lot more violent than they look. Don't let the big soft doe eyes fool you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fireyed View Post
    Lol. The fist pumping, cursing & and loud music will never get old. And the SLE may have to be the one avoiding large objects... IEIs can be a lot more violent than they look. Don't let the big soft doe eyes fool you.
    Her violent side is coming out. Its freaking hilarious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    But we spend a lot of time doing things that are more in line with her interests, entertaining her Ni.
    "Come honey, let me entertain your Ni"
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    DJA if somebody ever bans you on this site, come straight to me and whine about it, I would be really pissed at the loss of such member like you I log on this site to read. You are entertaining, no doubt about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    DJA if somebody ever bans you on this site, come straight to me and whine about it, I would be really pissed at the loss of such member like you I log on this site to read. You are entertaining, no doubt about it.
    lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa Darmandzhyan View Post
    Oh thank God someone already said that.
    I am so glad that maritsa caught on to this! it was the most important part of this thread! Pfeww... I was getting worried. NOt anymore! (re: sounding SEI)

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    So I'm talking to another dual. She laughs hysterically whenever I go on my cursing sprees and harass her, and that's nice.
    She listens to your jokes? NOT DUAL. <-- this is a joke.

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    "Se activities" = multiplayer video games. Lmao.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    "Se activities" = multiplayer video games. Lmao.
    Se oxygen is oxygen obtained through multiplayer video games.

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    DJ Arendee,my people have a saying for ungratefulness and it goes something like this :"god gave you a donkey and you look at it in the teeth" which means that instead of appreciating this gift,one occupies himself with such a petty thing as checking how perfect the dental hygeine of the donkey is so that it may be rejected.honor your duals to learn how to be a good dual yourself.

    btw is she an online friend? like you chat and when you get bored you play rpgs
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    They facebook a lot and play cow clicker. Same thing, only labels change. You can apply that to any kind of "activity" even this forum has to offer, so multiplayer video game activities versus any kind of activity that doesn't deal with the outside world, the real world, is well, funny.

    Now I'm awaiting the shit storm to hit me from both sides.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    They facebook a lot and play cow clicker. Same thing, only labels change. You can apply that to any kind of "activity" even this forum has to offer, so multiplayer video game activities versus any kind of activity that doesn't deal with the outside world, the real world, is well, funny.

    Now I'm awaiting the shit storm to hit me from both sides.
    Lets dualize. I have like 4 controllers for the ps3.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jadae View Post
    Lets dualize. I have like 4 controllers for the ps3.
    Ehh, another SLE-Ti 8w9...

    Socionics made easy.

    Great.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    Ehh, another SLE-Ti 8w9...

    Socionics made easy.

    Great.
    Im gonna go Kassie on you:

    Play? y/n. Circle one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jadae View Post
    Im gonna go Kassie on you:

    Play? y/n. Circle one.
    Ouch, I can't say no now, can I?

    Cocaine is working though.

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    Im snorting you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jadae View Post
    Im snorting you.
    I'm not cocaine though, I'm strychnine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    Does anyone else feel the same? Do you ever grow tired of your dual? If so, to what extent?
    Totally. I usually play D&D and make innovative inventions in my mother's basement but then that annoying SEI asks me to come up for Si dinner and then I'm like "Nah, mom, I want to do my alpha NT thing" but then she comes down and smiles real Fe-like and I can't say no to her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fireyed View Post
    Admittedly, my SLE boyfriends Se styled lifestyle can be a bit much at times. What he doesn't seem to understand is that I actually do enjoy doing crazy things with him... Just not 24/7. After awhile I have to retreat back to my Ni world and recharge. Despite that, I thirst for adventure, and cherish that he's given me a bit of that. He wanted to go sky diving and was afraid to ask me at first because he wasn't sure I'd go for it. Truthfully, I'd love to do stuff like that with him... he just seems to think that I'll hold him back and keep him from having a good time. Meh. Whatever.

    At the same time, he can't really fully immerse himself into my little Ni tangents, so I often try to avoid getting into them with him. While I can see he definitely very influenced and drawn into that kind of thing, he can't really conceptualize things the way I can. He can't get in very deep, not the same way I can get in deep with my EIE friends, at least. It's not a natural state for him, though I can tell he loves that part of me.

    If you think about it, it's kind of comical that the macho jock roughneck is duals with the gay little emo poet. Worlds clash, yet we fit together so uniquely .
    Can you include examples that don't say "Ni world" assuming we know what those worlds are?

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