One of the least well-understood instincts imo so I decided to start a discussion on it that will hopefully clear up a few things. In combination with sp, it's often described as cold and impersonal, however, I find that it has a certain different kind of warmth to it from sx. I've also gathered from the other threads that there is a certain need with this instinct to make yourself known to others, to bring yourself to 'light', to acknowledge others and be acknowledged yourself. Below are a few quotes from the instinct scrapheap that mention other aspects of this instinct.
If you type as so-last - what is your view of the social instinct as an outside observer? what impression does it create? (i'll post up my own observations later)
For those who type as so-first or so-second (@fenryrr @Pa3s @munenori2 @lemontrees @nanashi @Phthalate @Animal and others) - how well do you relate to what is said in the quotes below? how would you describe your own experiences with the social instinct? what do you think distinguishes it from sx instinct in terms of relating to others?
"I was speaking to a Social 6 last week, and he was describing himself as being a character in a video game, surrounded by other characters who march and follow their own path, but somehow the characters never really connect. It sounds like the tracking you're speaking of, as he is holding the video game and has the view from above... Another Social, but this time a 5, was complaining to me last week that he was very comfortable socializing on a theme (let's say if he was going to a mixer on a specific topic) but had a real hard time connecting with people (women to be exact) if there was not a conversational backdrop to hang on to."
"My experience with the soc instinct - as emanating from non-soc-lasts - is there's an inadvertent/intrinsic 'health' impulse to it....which leads to certain kinds of expectations around helpfulness, etc. There may be as much of a healing impulse in sx/sp and sp/sx (as there is with soc), but it doesn't bring a 'group' with it. In other words, the healing space is just the two people (healer / patient), and mainly exists only in that moment, as opposed to calling in a larger/wider connection to history/precedent/social context. There's the sense, with the social instinct, that, in this space, there are more eyes on the issue than just those present in the room...."
"SO for me is not so much concerned with my "status" in society. I couldn't care less most days. However, there is a need to make yourself known in a way. To feel invisible is like being murdered for a social variant (unless it's self inflicted invisibility)...."
so/sp quote: "... in my head my agenda was, that everyone was now going to know me and understand me and be my friend and I was going to be able to walk into a room and not feel so shy because everyone was going to know what kind of person I was and how I was feeling inside...but instead of becoming very understood and accepted that I became so wildly misunderstood and unaccepted that it really screwed with my head..."