We met in July at a bar. Which is odd because neither of us are bar types and we both lived far from that particular area. I am a 22 year old college student in Hawaii (Infp) and he is 25 in the Army (Isfj) and got stationed here. We got to know each other more through texting and later found out that neither of us owned cars, him being new to the area, and me because i'm... me. Since he lived far away, and it would be difficult for us to see each other, we've had these little "skype dates". We'd talk for hours. One of the first things he told me was that he would be getting deployed in January and he wanted to make it clear that he wanted a real relationship and isn't capable of a fling. He said he didn't want to pressure me into anything seeing as we just met. He just wanted to put that on the table. At this point, it was July, and January felt so far away. I told him we could just see how it goes and worry about that later. We never talked about it again.
We've been texting, Skype dating, and once, he surprised me and came to a performance I had. (i'm a comedian) Other than that, we haven't been on a proper date. I'm started to get worried about January too.. and I feel bad that I shrugged it off and now I wanna talk about it since its getting closer. I feel like he cares in certain ways, but when I think about it, I seem to be the one doing most of the initiating. He's also once mentioned that he's really shy and can be afraid to talk to girls.(Don't know if it matters, but much later he told me he was a virgin. So i completely believe him.) I wonder if that's the reason but i'm not sure if I think this because i'm the beneficiary... or if he's too afraid to tell me he's not into me.