There's very much in my mind about this topic and I'll try to sum what I want this thread to be about. Most of these issues are probably ones that you've been dealing with. This is still unfinished and I'll edit it later.
If it has stripes and claws, it's probably a tiger. But not necessarily.
Profiling is inevitable due to our nature. If I read statistics that men with black hoodies and sunglasses are more likely to be criminals, I'd adjust my actions accordingly. Making judgements (more often not moral ones) based on the factors visible on the surfae is a matter of choice only to a degree. I refuse to accuse myself of being a racist when I try to score hash and I see shady black men with that certain look.
The burden of the white man
White heterosexual man's guilt from being the oppressors in the history books. This is a form of discrimination directed at self because one belongs to the same groups than did the nazis, slavers, global imperialists and so on.
Apparently even Finns were responsible of slavery too since some of the slave galleys had tar from Finland like a certain Finnish historian was eager to point out along with our collective "debt to the third world".
Just see how well accusing white men of racism has sometimes worked: "You saying that because I'm black?" and they blush and apologetic. I can imagine situations where it could affect me. I have gained some scorn from a certain black Somali woman as we were discussing about female genital mutilation and I just made fairly innocent statement which involved the assumption that most of these operations were not made in the first world, but in middle parts of Africa. The discussion ended shortly as I was labeled "ignorant" and probably a racist for assuming something that is a statistic fact.
I still sometimes feel more comfortable if I discreetly slip/show that I have non-white friends and a feminist black ex-gf.
The immunity of the lesbian negro jew
It is also very common to create this certain image of a white heterosexual man who is the source of inequality and retarded conservatism. In Finland, it's a hairy wifebeater patriot who watches hockey, goes to sauna, drinks beer and eats sausage. It is often true to some degree, like many stereotypes, but rare dare to say that it's the anti-patriotic liberal blacks who are messing this country. Although I don't agree with the latter, I sometimes hope that I would have been a black woman with moslem-breeding just that I could have the freedom to say things that would have been otherwise seen as racist. Like Ayaan Hirsi Ali.