My EII friend is currently heading up a project where she works closely with two other people, one of whom, an ILE man, she considered a close friend before beginning the project. However, she is now having problems working with him, and everything she describes to me about their relationship and what is transpiring sounds like socionics supervision. I taught her about socionics, and she agrees... so now the question is, what can she do to help the situation?
It seems to me she's done all she can and that he's being an incorrigible ass and she should just forget about making it work on anything resembling an intimate level (which I see as an exercise in futility), but she is determined to try. Again, that is.
So what advice do you have for dealing with your supervisee? I think it's best to maintain distance myself, but that line has long been crossed here (including romantic feelings each once harbored for the other, albeit to no end bc of external circumstances), so what can she do, especially now that he is treating her badly?
To be fair, she is obviously hitting is PoLR left and right, just by being herself. She read me a draft of a message she was planning to send, and it dripped w Fi... together we toned that down and amped up the Fe, but is that what it takes -- constant self-monitoring? And is that even possible in close, sustained, face-to-face communication? Seems unlikely to me, but again, she's determined.
So. What say you?