Enneagram: the good and the bad

[DirectorAbbie]

Give a reason you might not like to be in a relationship with every E-type, then why you might like to with any. Use as few words as possible.

1s: rigid
2s: melodramatic
3s: predictable
4s: unreadable
5s: unsocial
6s: unoriginal
7s: freaky
8s: rude
9s: wimpy

1s: sensible
2s: helpful
3s: dependable
4s: interesting
5s: undemanding
6s: pleasant
7s: fun
8s: predictable
9s: relaxed

[FoxOnStilts]

The only problem I have is the shortest words as possible. I'll see what I can do.

Why I Would:
1-Notices things I don't
2- Nurturing/Attentive
3-GetsShitDone
4-Artistic
5-Careful
6-Cautious
7-Fun
8-Assertive
9-Chill/Relaxed

Why I Would Not:
1- Perfectionist
2-Needy
3-Decietful
4-Moody/Dramatic
5-Secretive
6-Worry too much about other people
7-No substance
8-Controlling
9-Indecisive

[Creepy-pokeball]

Why I Would:
1- Consistant
2- "There"
3- Action
4- Playful
5- Accurate
6- Momentum
7- Creativity
8- Completely there
9- Haven

Why I Would Not:
1- Hard mode
2- Non-sensical
3- One way road
4- Shifty
5- Princess attitude
6- Neurotic
7- Two is too many
8- One way road, also
9- Difficult to motivate

[Galen]

1s: Needlessly stubborn
2s: Overbearingly emotional
3s: Unrelatable
4s: Whiny
5s: Emotional stonewalling
6s: Psychological projection
7s: Invasive
8s: Physically demanding
9s: Oblivious to problems

1s: uh
2s: hmm
3s: hmmmmmm
4s: well
5s: Intellectually stimulating and engaging
6s: Common ground, relateable
7s: Physically stimulating and engaging
8s: Loyalty, commitment
9s: Grounding

[Ozz]

Give a reason you might not like to be in a relationship with every E-type, then why you might like to with any. Use as few words as possible.

1s: rigid
2s: melodramatic
3s: predictable
4s: unreadable
5s: unsocial
6s: unoriginal
7s: freaky
8s: rude
9s: wimpy

1s: sensible
2s: helpful
3s: dependable
4s: interesting
5s: undemanding
6s: pleasant
7s: fun
8s: predictable
9s: relaxed

I guess there are different types of predictability.

[Creepy-pokeball]

I guess there are different types of predictability.

Yeah, it is true.

[strangeling]

Sure, why not.

Not Like
1. Perfectionism - [Much of life is rarely perfect; harping on that fact destroys its potential for enjoyment]
2. Controlling - [I don't need my moods deliberately controlled and I don't want to be guilt tripped for it]
3. Workaholic
4. Weak - [weak overall will]
5. defensive - [unemotional and defensive, makes it hard to want to be around them]
6. hypocrite
7. selfish - [Minimizing the negative impact they cause for other people]
8. psychopathic - [feel they need to look after themselves above all else]
9. Ignorant - [Ignores what they don't like]

Like
1. Principled
2. Empathetic, concerned, and helpful
3. Keeps things from falling apart
4. Magnanimous
5. A Wizard
6. Trustworthy
7. Fun
8. Heroic
9. Peaceful

[Nomenclature]

1. Stiff
2. Codependent, clingy
3. Hard on themselves
4. Whiny
5. Walls built up
6. Projection
7. Narcissistic
8. Pushy
9. Pushover, bland

1. Consistent
2. Will do anything for you
3. Self-improving, GITRDONE
4. Individualistic
5. Fascinating
6. Loyal
7. Fun
8. Fun
9. Listener

[Absurd]

[marooned]

bad

1 - anal, uptight, perfectionists, rigid/regimented, nothing is ever good enough
2 - obsequious, invasive & overly "helpful", prying, aggressive, two-faced & manipulative, demanding of responsiveness
3 - go-getter-ness to extremes, fake it until you make it mentality, overly image focused, can be insincere to support image
4 - it's all about THEM and their FEELINGS that are more profound than other people's feelings (narcissistic)
5 - intensely intellectual, going on and on in greater and greater detail, every point made by another must be challenged and fiercely debated
6 - high strung, over-prepares and has to involve everyone else in it, has to account for everything that could possibly go wrong ever with little sense of perspective or likelihood, creates anxiety and stress
7 - constantly distracting self, no time to talk, can't pay others much attn, flees from negative feelings and conversations, dumps own burdens on others & expects this to be seen as cute, loses self in increasingly busy schedule seeking the ever more interesting, more fun or more stimulating
8 - emotionally insensitive top coat, thick walls, intimidating
9 - depressive, spaces out, loses self in the fog, has to merge with others attitudes and be on the "same page" or feels unable to cope

good

1 - impressively self-disciplined, takes commitments seriously, potential for ethical integrity
2 - potential for deep, genuine love if can find a receptacle that doesn't feel smothered, self-sacrifice for those they love
3 - accomplishes things and can function in the world of ego and image otherwise known as "society," gets how to play the game, assertive
4 - emotional self-insight, always there with self through the ups and downs, finds meaning
5 - potential for building original expertise and knowledge, through thought, insight and observation
6 - trouble-shooting, thorough thinking, applying healthy dose of skepticism, seeing where things may go wrong and acting ahead of time, cooperation with others towards shared objectives, somewhere to belong
7 - energy and activity, rapid build up of experience, thrill-seeking, enlivens others and raises spirits, entertaining, playful
8 - strong presence that encourages/inspires strength, courageous, like a rock
9 - can potentially accept, understand and tolerate every aspect of human nature through understanding self

[Ningyo]

Reasons I have/would:


1s: I actually admire their workaholic tendencies!
2s: attentive, can be more accepting/accomodating than most, playful
3s: Energetic, optimists.
4s: Good sense of humor, original/unique, deep.
5s: Interesting, focused.
6s: Understanding, accepting, can be playful.
7s: Free spirits, positive people, visionaries.
8s: Strong, dependable, protective, confident.
9s: Relaxed, low drama, sweet.




Reasons I wouldn't/regretted it:


1s: Can be pussies/overly judgmental/blindly hypocritical.
2s: Paranoid, power-obsessed, two-faced and changeable, also lie a lot; bitches.
3s: High-maintanence, their list of insecurties is pretty fucking exhausting and the competitive streak can start to seem really pathetic.
4s: Extremely shifty, also somewhat hypocritical.
5s: D-u-l-l. Can be more of a mindfuck than they're worth, socially awkward even though they've known you for most of your life wtf.
6s: Bash-my-head-against-a-wall redundant and unoriginal. I have three 6s as friends and even though I rarely speak to them I still consider them closer than most, but they're so predictable that I can only handle them in small doses. The ESE ALWAYS wants to go out to eat and then go meet guys, the EIE ALWAYS wants to go shopping and then see a movie, and the IEI ALWAYS wants to drink beer, play online games and watch an entire season of her current favorite show. They're so much better as online friends, lol.
7s: On crack, and not in a good way. Also slightly retarded.
8s: Bullies.
9s: Overly conflict-avoidant.