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    Default How duality feels for you...

    So for those of you who want to answer, I just want some different answers. When you're with you're dual (especially the ones you're attracted to), how do you feel? Emotionally, physically, what are you thinking, etc....

    Also, please do the same with how activity relations make you feel.
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    its like an orgasm except a million times better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lungs View Post
    its like an orgasm except a million times better.
    Is this where you become more like Maritsa? Just asking

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    it's comforting at times.
    sometimes annoying, like most relationships/friendships.
    feels like you always have a friend in that person (in most healthy cases).
    i respect their insights and input (the ones I'm actually friends with at least).
    generally like their sense of humor (^^same as above)

    overall not too shabby.

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    Well my dad is an SLE, so to be honest I'm kind of afraid that things might get a little too Freudian if I ever get close to a dual I am attracted to. I really don't run into many SLEs my age, though. I feel like they'd overlook me because I am very mousy and unassuming.

    As far as my dad goes, we have very similar senses of humor, and he gives good advice that typically calms me down when I'm upset. I don't really care for the stuff he likes (computers, snowboarding, soccer) but we still have plenty to talk about re: life in general, and can understand each other well.

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    For me, it feels calm and safe. Still, quiet. Even when there are times of talking and throwing around ideas, there's an underlying level of comfort and acceptance. I feel more emotionally evened-out around duals. Anxiety disappears, I feel safe, protected. I also feel listened to, like they want to hear my advice and thoughts.

    Activity relations are fun and funny. When I get an LSI talking, they tend to go on and on, promoting opinions emphatically. When I'm all out of Fe, they quiet down and so do I and then we go our separate ways. They seem more intense than SLEs and more wanting to "have it out" about whatever's on their mind. Therefore it feels less relaxing to me. Might be the individuals I know though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lungs View Post
    its like an orgasm except a million times better.
    I've heard sneezing can be enjoyable, some say sneezing is 1/10 of an orgasm. Are we to assume then, that duality is approximately 10,000,000.0 times better than sneezing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    I've heard sneezing can be enjoyable, some say sneezing is 1/10 of an orgasm. Are we to assume then, that duality is approximately 10,000,000.0 times better than sneezing?
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    Duality feels like crack.
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    betas should be kept in zoos for children to stare and throw pop corn at.

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    Well, I've met a couple women of similar personality who could bring me to tears of joy, which is fucking rare mind you... I've always assumed that if I had some "dual" it would be this personality. People will talk trash about this personality and I'll always say, "I don't understand what's wrong with that. She's pretty cool around me." So Idunno. Maybe that's duality. I've met other people of this type too. They're great. My interaction with this one dude friend of mine makes my other friends jealous, and they're always telling me we should get married or, "where's your boyfriend?" stuff like that. Idunno if that's duality but we have a blast together.

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    This is kind of embarrassing, but this is how I felt when I first met my dual. For being such a guarded person, I felt uninhibited and exposed to someone for once, but in a good way. Then again, I was coming out of a dark place at the time & he helped me tremendously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PistolShrimp View Post
    Well my dad is an SLE, so to be honest I'm kind of afraid that things might get a little too Freudian if I ever get close to a dual I am attracted to. I really don't run into many SLEs my age, though. I feel like they'd overlook me because I am very mousy and unassuming.

    As far as my dad goes, we have very similar senses of humor, and he gives good advice that typically calms me down when I'm upset. I don't really care for the stuff he likes (computers, snowboarding, soccer) but we still have plenty to talk about re: life in general, and can understand each other well.
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    Duality is like the first time you got high on weed and the first time you did an opiate combined, all while being in an acid trip.

    (I don't like stimulants too much.)
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    a haiku

    duality is
    ya know
    just great
    totally
    great
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    And in the form of a Shakespearean sonnet:

    It's like they see the world the same as you,
    though they may dwell in very different spheres.
    The differences dissolve between you two
    and, when conversing, you are equal peers.
    They have a way of vanquishing your doubts.
    At other times, reducing you to tears.
    They know your private psyche's ins and outs
    and so can push your buttons, grind your gears.
    But mostly I just find they make me laugh,
    and we can talk for hours and hours on end.
    The Russians claim they are your "other half."
    But fuck that shit. A dual's just a friend.
    ___As comforting and fun as they may be,
    ___It's tough admitting to deficiency.

    I think I'm going to start writing all my posts as poems, lol.
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    Sexy and heavenly.

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    Duality makes me feel relaxed and activation makes me feel goofy.

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    Limerick form:

    A boy from the 16T school
    Thought socionics was real cool,
    Then he met a new girl
    Who completed his world
    So he went and retyped her his dual.
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    It's more like Shut the fuck up, whereas other types are more like Get the fuck away from me.
    I would say that ethically you are still supposed to act as if you have unilateral responsibility; but simultaneously you have to be able to see the other as a fully autonomous, free, aware person.

    Medicalizing social problems has the additional benefit of rendering society not responsible for those social ills. If it’s a disease, it’s nobody’s fault. Yay empiricism.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Director Abbie View Post
    Duality makes me feel relaxed and activation makes me feel goofy.
    I feel both goofy and relaxed with my dual.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    I feel both goofy and relaxed with my dual.
    It depends on the dual.

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    Abbie is so boring and rigid it's awesome instead of boring and rigid. She seems so practical and down-to-the-ground.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pookie View Post
    It's more like Shut the fuck up, whereas other types are more like Get the fuck away from me.
    Yeah, like:

    duality: the more you try to explain yourself, the more sense you are making.

    others: the more you try to explain yourself, the more you risk making it awkward/being annoying.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cherrysidecar View Post
    Yeah, like:

    duality: the more you try to explain yourself, the more sense you are making.

    others: the more you try to explain yourself, the more you risk making it awkward/being annoying.
    I don't think it's that cut and dried but I get what you're saying. More often than not, I find myself not wanting to talk at all with my dual. Just wanting to be present.



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    It feels like sugalicious.

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    I like how you can say anything without feeling like you're being judged.
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    You can be silly and gay with your dual and they love you for it. You also bring the gayness out in them.
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