I'm usually pretty sure of my type but sometimes I notice anomalities so I would like to know your opinion. Below a few things will follow that I think are rather characteristic of me. I also tried to describe things that could be relevant from a socionics viewpoint, in no particular order though. Also, please don't try to guess type from my writing style here as that can change.
- in general:
I too easily sink into physical passivity but not into mental passivity. Yet I get stressed/restless when I'm physically passive for too long and then I might get energized/active but I feel this needs to be more often. Or I just get suddenly energized and set about something. Other than that I can be happy-ish for a long time to just sit and do things on the computer to keep at least my mind active. I also kind of feel addicted to company, that is, talking to people etc and can spend a lot of time on this even when I shouldn't waste time. :/
I'm pretty focused when I'm set on getting to a goal, I can get very project-oriented and I like the goals big, long term, needing work. Buuut, if not busy with achieving something, I will just wander wherever my impulses take and the larger part of a day goes like this. A smaller part of the day is me being very focused on working on the longer term goals but it must be a daily activity, not much of "rest days". I don't usually know when I'm going to get down to work, I can't keep a strictly time based schedule, only a more general schedule. Btw, I've only done freelance work so far, no other style would fit me well.
When getting to a concrete goal for my personal good over a longer time, the only way I will be able to do it well is if I set up a pretty demanding schedule for myself and try to execute it as much as possible because then I enjoy achieving work in progress in the moment here and now. Of course if the plan needs changes as I go ahead, I will readily change it no problem...the idea is just keep going, organization is more a side effect. Oh and I'm not too practical by default unless I'm set on a goal, then I'm very practical in a logical way if need be and it comes to me easily. I value other people's competency very much, but I ignore rules that I don't see as necessary and just go by my own head.
If the goal is about creating something out of an idea that really grabbed me then I don't need a schedule to stay focused, the goal itself will keep me motivated very well until I get there. It simply inspires me so much that I don't think of much else while working on it. Those goals are not for my personal good either, more for other people's use and the more special/new/whatever they are, the better they inspire me.
Also, if it's a concrete but longer term goal and if I meet temporary failures while trying to reach it, I'll take them for a while, but after several such failures I'll get really frustrated and it takes a few seconds of convincing myself to not give up...but I will not give up anyway, I go on after realizing that there must be another possibility, in a very optimistic way... Overall, I'm happiest in life when I can try a go at creating something that could really take people or a group of people forward.
I love a deep understanding of things and I like and need structures to help with this but structure is soon changed when I figure out a new way of understanding instead. It's a lot better though if I can actually do something with it, make a nice project, make it become part of reality. I spend quite some time on figuring out things on a theoretical level, though when in the middle of action, I may not think as much, but I might start up analysing even then. So, I very much like discussion of understanding (my own and other people's) of things that I'm currently interested in. Those are often about implicit, not concrete but rather abstract things, and that enchants me like almost nothing else. I like it even more if the understanding improves. I can go pretty far from reality but then I must pull back into it if I think I got too far from it. Basically that means that I don't value ideas for themselves, only if I can have the hope that they will sooner or later actually lead somewhere, that is, make a theory better or lead me to make something in reality.
In an existing community with people already having fun between each other, it's difficult for me to join until someone draws me in. By default I'm serious/detached and unsure and often stay that way unless people truly draw me in, then I'll have a chance to somehow "click" with them and I might lighten up then. It can take more than one try though to make sure I'm really "inside". At other times it will be me trying to draw people into a conversation but the topics I bring up may or may not interest everyone and I'll get very aware/get uncomfortable about whether I'm boring someone after I've tried nudging them. I'm not good at keeping fun going beyond some crappy jokes, so I'll just enjoy other people's stuff, also by showing my own genuine enthusiasm about something and that either works for someone to get interested or not but people often note that I look really enthusiastic about the things that I'm involved with. Oh and I don't like myself or anyone making conscious moral judgements of people, I'd like to believe most people are more complex than that but that's perhaps also an excuse for me trying to ignore this area.
- in a relationship:
I don't care to consciously evaluate relationship properties, but I'm acutely aware who I'd like to be close to and who I wouldn't like to be close with, the problem is I'm not great at bringing such interest further, I initiate communication readily but get easily discouraged if meeting disinterest. When in the mood, I initiate more superficial communication very easily and thus have a lot of acquaintances but not many friends. I think a deep relationship would be great but I'm not capable of creating it on my own and I have a very hard time truly opening up, so never really managed it in my whole life yet. If someone did manage to do it with me, it would have to be in an indirect way or something, I dunno exactly.
I need emotional expression to know where we are emotionally, but not a load of negative drama please; of course if there is an issue, it should be directly expressed, emotions are of course needed to make the issue explicit, but then we have to get constructive in problem solving too. Beyond that I just want um.. nice emotions shown for me so I can be sure about that the person's feeling are positive toward me and thus the relationship status is good, because I'm terribly suspicious of it by default, and so I need a lot of reinforcement pretty often, though I won't talk about this to anyone.
Also, very important, in a romantic relationship, I need the other person to be devoted to me because I will give the same devotion!, they also need to be tolerant as I'm also tolerant of many things. They must not be judging me in a static moralist way, not trying to make me feel guilty or anything. Oh and in non-romantic friendships, devotion is not applicable, but tolerance is still very much needed.
I also gladly take some help in practical comfort matters. Generally I don't care about more than the basic needs in this area and I can take care of that myself (food, sleep, my looks - sensitive to my looks) while minimizing the time I spend on them, because expending energy on this stuff is very annoying due to my disinterest. An example, my flat is usually very messy because I rarely care enough about it, but at times I notice this, and it bothers me then but even then it takes a lot of self-convincing to start cleaning up, though once I do start, I will tend to do a lot of work, I just can't schedule it in nice small pieces. So, I appreciate it very much if I can rely on my partner to sort some of these annoying tasks for me. Though not the whole job, it would be weird if all my partner did was this. :S I believe in being equal.
- what I really hate:
If people are judging my (or other people's) character too often, I just can't deal with it.
People saying "no" to me without reasoning why not; if there is a reason given then fine I respect that. Also, people ignoring me in certain cases, that just annoys me like nothing.
I also don't like the following but I won't try to force anything because that's just not applicable in such cases, I'll just lose interest instead: if someone is not open to theorizing about stuff, that is, the overly practical approach, or just being overly rational, restricting options too much or simply not caring to share their thoughts.