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    Default Tips on how not to annoy ILEs-ENTps

    I need serious help with this. Any thoughts?
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    Quote Originally Posted by fenryrr View Post
    I need serious help with this. Any thoughts?
    Make sure to tell them you like them. They need their egos stroked. Need lots of positive emotions, even jokingly that you hate them can hit their Fi POLR, and are unsure if they can trust you or not.

    Also, be brief. They get frustrated by long explanations of ANYTHING, as they naturally use Ti to summarize things.

    Other than that, you can ask them their opinion on anything. They love hearing different perspectives and are generally pretty open to conversation.

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    He won't like you if he doesn't want to like you. It's not type related.
    „Man can do what he wants but he cannot want what he wants.“
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pa3s View Post
    He won't like you if he doesn't want to like you. It's not type related.
    i really wish there was a better answer than this but i don't think there is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fenryrr View Post
    I need serious help with this. Any thoughts?
    Stop being yourself.
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    I think everyone is jumping to the conclusion that you're looking to woo yourself an ILE. However, were I in the situation where I had a boss and didn't want to annoy him, I would probably come and post the same thing just in an effort to maintain civility. So what's your situation, because answers will vary on that. Working with an ILE vs wanting to be friendly with one will have similar answers, though it's easier to tailor something to your specific situation if there's more background involved.

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    IMO, what Mountain Dew said isn't going to work, you should try to remain happy instead of being distressed by the situation. Your distress will make the ILE think it's better off for them to go away, while your happiness will be like candy. Enjoy yourself and be inviting and don't have too many expectations.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hkkmr View Post
    IMO, what Mountain Dew said isn't going to work, you should try to remain happy instead of being distressed by the situation. Your distress will make the ILE think it's better off for them to go away, while your happiness will be like candy. Enjoy yourself and be inviting and don't have too many expectations.
    What in my post made you infer I said anything about being distressed?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    Make sure to tell them you like them. They need their egos stroked. Need lots of positive emotions, even jokingly that you hate them can hit their Fi POLR, and are unsure if they can trust you or not.

    Also, be brief. They get frustrated by long explanations of ANYTHING, as they naturally use Ti to summarize things.

    Other than that, you can ask them their opinion on anything. They love hearing different perspectives and are generally pretty open to conversation.

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    There are several different types of ILE's I've met before, knowing what type of ILE you are trying not to annoy would be helpful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    What in my post made you infer I said anything about being distressed?
    Stand down, chappy. I'm sure he was referring to the OP-er, not you.

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    Aww fen A failproof method is to pretty much agree with everything they say (you can question them sometimes but always end up agreeing), don't criticise them, go along with their flights of fancy and bring them food.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fenryrr View Post
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    Don't make fun of their hair.

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    How NOT to annoy an ILE........
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    bring some and !
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    Quote Originally Posted by fenryrr View Post
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    No communication, no annoyance.

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    In the workplace look at his process of work, not the results of it. Ask him about farsighted answers to problems. Look at the other Renin traits for a ILE and see if you can integrate into them.

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    There's no real answer to this, lol. If you don't get along naturally, why bother?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    What in my post made you infer I said anything about being distressed?
    It's not about you, but what you recommended wouldn't work. And imo, Fenryrr is a little distressed.

    ILE respond suspiciously to compliments and verbalization of like/dislike, people like their ego's stroked but it's all a bit different how that happens. Also you can't exactly ask their opinion on "anything" since everyone has areas where they don't want to engage in discussion on. A ILE is not really open to different perspectives in close relations imo, they tolerate different opinions of people but they often want their close ones to follow their way of thinking. Holding a interesting opinion might get their attention, but holding a foolish opinion will just draw their ire.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Galen View Post
    Stop being yourself.
    Be yourself is the correct solution, for me at least as an Ne subtype.

    Not that he/she always needs to like you but this will ensure them getting more used to who you really are, and those I've known naturally try to take stabs and guesses at your motives and understand this, and some show hasty criticism. So it will only help both of you out mutually to be as your are and be independent and will make them more curious and interested in you. I like ILEs and have a tendency to 'follow' them due to supervision, and adapt to their ideas and humor as the easygoing introvert, and although we get along, it sometimes makes me seem like a lackey and leech who they sometimes try to lead. It's better to keep a distance and let them appraise you as they will. They will never truly understand you because you're Fi.

    Also try being with them one-on-one and when they're in a good mood. From my experience they get much more into Fe matters when there are more people to talk to. They won't really if it's just you and them. I also forget you're Ti-PoLR so if you really have to just listen, nod and act curious when you don't know what to do.

    Not sure if this helps with 'how to not be annoying.'

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    I think I agree with Hkkmr on this one. When there are arguments, disagreements, distrust, blah blah. Show that everything is still alright. That you are there. That you can still keep up a good athmosphere.

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    Hmm...if I were an IEE my inter type relationship type with an ILE would be a congenerity relationship...
    the ILE would be interested as long as the motivations of the IEE are clear,but since the creative function of one partner is the place of least resistance for other they start loosing interest as they tailor their actions where the other parterner is uninterested in.
    and anything which is not interesting for an ILE seems to annoy him because of his Ne...
    so try to keep the ILE interested by keeping your motivations clear with each other.
    Last edited by Shadow Shaman; 03-15-2012 at 11:37 AM.

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