I was thinking. What is friendship founded on? Is it founded on a mutual exchange of shared experiences that one needs and craves, rather than "just being friends"? What I mean is, many friendships in my past(though not all of them about half of them) have started because of drugs. I had people befriend me because they needed to do drugs with, though some of them turned out to be false friends in the end, with one fo them I am still friends and he doesnt do anything anymore, he hardly drinks a few beers and he wants to quit smoking. Yet our freindship started on the basis we both needed someone to get high with. Yet this wasnt al it wasnt founded on obviously, since we're still friends now.
It doesnt have to be just drugs, and friendships. It can also be relationships. Dont you get into a relationship because you want sex, partnership, and someone to be with? I guess where Im going with this is to what extent is ok to use each other for these types of things, if you could call this using each other at all? In other words, what is wrong with making friends who can deliver some goods, rather then just make friends with people who have nothing to offer you? It doesnt seem anything wrong with it, it seems this would be a good basis for relationships forming. Yet I am terrified of people profiting from me, I can ascertain, due to life experiences which people are true friends and which ones are just using me. Ive had a "friend" who wanted me as a friend so long as she had someone to do coke with and visit her in rehab when she felt lonely, yet when I needed her bceause it was my turn to feel lonely, she told me off and it escalated into a fight, and we had a falling out.
This is a complex question. I guess friendhips should be based on a mutual exhange of positive experiences, but true friends are people who are there when you are down and you need something also. Some people are one sided, they use you as long as it works for them, but when you need something from them, they ditch you.
So what should friendship be based on? Sharing victories, as Neiteche put it, but also being able support each others for our failures when we need each other to? What are your thoughts?