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    So I recently met my same sex dual LSI (yes I think I'm an EIE, always have) and whoa... it's so true, after the first time we met I felt an intense need to meet and talk with her again. We spent 5 hours together just talking and it was like the most... open conversation I have ever had with someone so quickly.

    I don't know what the hell happened but we emptied our souls to each-other so easily and naturally. I felt like telling her everything about me. I must sound in love or something, but maybe I am infatuated now! I'm straight, but I seriously started questioning myself for a little while afterwards. It's made me accept that you can fall in love with anyone regardless of sexual orientation even moreso than I accepted before - because I actually see myself being able to now.

    I feel like I've known her for a long time and we had all these crazy parallels. I mean, I've met LSIs before and we usually always get along amazingly but there was something else that clicked... everything matched, subtypes, values, ...

    I just wanted to let everyone know

    It's honestly made me question my own relationship with my boyfriend. I know this sounds extreme but I guess this really pushed it over the edge almost... I feel like I don't know about anything anymore... aksdfjlksdfjs


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    That's awesome .... the beginnings of relationships usually sound like this. But heck, enjoy it

    I will say, though, that my favourite, most complimentary dual is the same sex as me. I met her when I was in primary school (forget what the US call this) and we drifted apart when she got jealous of my other friendships *eye roll.* But we are friends on facebook and yup we still love similar things and I would so love to be part of her life again but it's not going to happen. Wish we couldve grown up together.

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    Good to hear.

    Now I want my own to pet and call Squishy. >.< Nice music rat.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    It's honestly made me question my own relationship with my boyfriend.
    This is around the point where you should stop taking Socionics seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GuavaDrunk View Post
    Now I want my own to pet and call Squishy. >.<
    ...I call my bf Squishy.
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    I had feelings like that when I 1st met a dual girl, didn't know about socionics back then. On the negative side, it didn't work out.. it did long-term in the aspect of me growing as a person.
    O.k, labels help to define us but they don't mean much at all. when people ask me, I say im a lesbian because I'm romantically as well as sexually interested in girls only, for the last few years. I've been into both genders in the past.

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    ....On average people meet dozens of other new people every few weeks....in that short period of time, you're bound to meet your dual at least once. What makes -this- one interaction so special? There is no magic, just sounds like your infactuated for some reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Agee View Post
    ....On average people meet dozens of other new people every few weeks....in that short period of time, you're bound to meet your dual at least once. What makes -this- one interaction so special? There is no magic, just sounds like your infactuated for some reason.
    Yes and how's that kind of attitude worked out with and your dual so far?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Agee View Post
    ....On average people meet dozens of other new people every few weeks....in that short period of time, you're bound to meet your dual at least once. What makes -this- one interaction so special? There is no magic, just sounds like your infactuated for some reason.
    She's really pretty lol


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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    She's really pretty lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Talking Celery and Co View Post
    This is around the point where you should stop taking Socionics seriously.
    You don't even know the entire context of the situation.. I wasn't serious as in omg I met diz dual chick Ima go break up with my BF now... No. I wasn't even talking about HER in general... just brought up some feelings.


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    Dual friends make finding a dual romantic partner less important.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    Dual friends make finding a dual romantic partner less important.
    Dual friends dualize you so you'll be ready for your romantic dual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nowisthetime View Post
    Dual friends dualize you so you'll be ready for your romantic dual.
    Dual friends duelize you so you'll be ready to spar!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    You don't even know the entire context of the situation..
    Why would even say this? Of course I didn't. I didn't claim otherwise.

    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    I wasn't serious as in omg I met diz dual chick Ima go break up with my BF now... No. I wasn't even talking about HER in general... just brought up some feelings.
    Yes, I know, you were fantasizing about how amazing a dual relationship could potentially be, based on a theoretical model that might or might not apply to you, or the individual cases of duals you meet.

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    I've worked with a dual for 12 years, and it really is one of the best possible relationships you can have in life. I didn't even know it until 6 years into it, but everything is easy and generally without fuss.

    It's magical in the sense you never feel fake and they never seem fake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nowisthetime View Post
    Dual friends dualize you so you'll be ready for your romantic dual.
    That's exactly what i was going to say!
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    Quote Originally Posted by hkkmr View Post
    I've worked with a dual for 12 years, and it really is one of the best possible relationships you can have in life. I didn't even know it until 6 years into it, but everything is easy and generally without fuss.

    It's magical in the sense you never feel fake and they never seem fake.
    I feel like i can't be fake with my dual even if i wanted to be. Like, I never WANT to be fake with them. That's what keeps me coming back, that feeling of being able to be real.
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    If you try to use your weak Role function, duals ignore it, and if you're stressing over your POLR, which your dual is good at and can make up for, they don't really regard it as important anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    So I recently met my same sex dual LSI (yes I think I'm an EIE, always have) and whoa... it's so true, after the first time we met I felt an intense need to meet and talk with her again. We spent 5 hours together just talking and it was like the most... open conversation I have ever had with someone so quickly.

    I don't know what the hell happened but we emptied our souls to each-other so easily and naturally. I felt like telling her everything about me. I must sound in love or something, but maybe I am infatuated now! I'm straight, but I seriously started questioning myself for a little while afterwards. It's made me accept that you can fall in love with anyone regardless of sexual orientation even moreso than I accepted before - because I actually see myself being able to now.

    I feel like I've known her for a long time and we had all these crazy parallels. I mean, I've met LSIs before and we usually always get along amazingly but there was something else that clicked... everything matched, subtypes, values, ...

    I just wanted to let everyone know

    It's honestly made me question my own relationship with my boyfriend. I know this sounds extreme but I guess this really pushed it over the edge almost... I feel like I don't know about anything anymore... aksdfjlksdfjs
    That's so awesome and exciting! I'm a teensy bit jealous, lol. I'd say just roll with it, enjoy the connection without analyzing it too. Trust your gut. It'll all sort itself out.

    As much as I love the idea of two hot "straight" girls hitting it off and getting it on, I do wanna say that you shouldn't assume that the rush you're getting is sexual or romantic in nature (unless, of course, you're fantasizing about undressing this girl, etc. )... I mean, finding someone that you really click with and admire who feels the same about you is always exhilarating! That doesn't mean she's your soul mate or one true love or whatever. Maybe it just means that making awesome new friends is awesome. ^_^

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    Quote Originally Posted by MisterNi View Post
    Yes and how's that kind of attitude worked out with and your dual so far?
    Dunno, I don't see types. I see people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Agee View Post
    Dunno, I don't see types. I see people.
    Some people here treat people as types. Others treat people as people with types.

    Most people here are sane enough to know the distinction and would fall under the latter category.

    This is a typology forum.

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    Anyone who doesn't understand the value of duality is insane.

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    Duals aren't as important for 50% of people as we think. For the other 50% they are more important.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    She's really pretty lol
    Any pretty girl can become a dual in our heads
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    Infactuated's purty cewl plase too bee.

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    Even if I was just "infatuated" the fact of the matter is I know she's my dual ... LSIs are so obvious ...


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    It's just finding two puzzle pieces that fit next to each other.

    Doesn't always make the picture clearer though.

    Nobody get their fucking hopes up, ok???


    ...fuck, how is it that I'M the one on this side of the fence? You all are too full of sap, you need to be drained of Disney and maple love syrup.

    Life is so much bigger than you think.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Anyone can become easily infatuated and fall in love, but when you become infatuated with a dual, it's somehow different. It's hard to describe... it's almost like you've found a missing puzzle piece.
    No. Infatuation is infatuation.

    And if you're really with an SLE, and if you're really IEI, or whatever you are...you should know better. Especially being around Se and Ti so much, which would have dragged your ass from out of the fairytale fantasy land clouds you're living in and back down to reality.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Agee View Post
    No. Infatuation is infatuation.

    And if you're really with an SLE, and if you're really IEI, or whatever you are...you should know better. Especially being around Se and Ti so much, which would have dragged your ass from out of the fairytale fantasy land clouds you're living in and back down to reality.
    lol this
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    It's just finding two puzzle pieces that fit next to each other.

    Doesn't always make the picture clearer though.

    Nobody get their fucking hopes up, ok???


    ...fuck, how is it that I'M the one on this side of the fence? You all are too full of sap, you need to be drained of Disney and maple love syrup.

    Life is so much bigger than you think.
    I wish I could see things the way they see it. I'd be much happier. Delusional...but happier nonetheless.

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    Damn NF females, farting cotton candy everywhere.

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    Duality is great.

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    Duality is bullshit. Life means nothing. We all mean nothing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackburry View Post
    Duality is bullshit. Life means nothing. We all mean nothing.
    Ye, we're forever alone, I agree. Nothing is forever and forever is nothing

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    Quote Originally Posted by blackburry View Post
    Duality is bullshit. Life means nothing. We all mean nothing.
    I thought that exactly because life is meanigless we can try to find solace in relationship and the like (which may somehow have to do with socionics and duality).
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    What you people don't realize is that conflict relations are the ideal long term relations because you are fuck buddies who can be pissed off and deviant together, you never actually get married you only court your dual for entertainment purposesand for that kind of sex, and you live independently and creatively until the day you die. Instead what you're all doing is idealizing duality by trying to make it fulfill the role of both conflict relations and duality. You have to have both in your life and more. Those 2 are very significant but all relationships have value, which determines your personal significance and how full you will be. You're essentially worshipping the 2 aspects of God (wrath & love) instead of God himself (which is you).
    What you see are reflections of God, but not God himself. The full experience is separated

    You have to accept both love and conflict into your life before you can be your own God
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I thought that exactly because life is meanigless we can try to find solace in relationship and the like (which may somehow have to do with socionics and duality).
    Ehh, emo Gammas. Life isn't meaningless at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    Ehh, emo Gammas. Life isn't meaningless at all.
    Lol. EVOLUTION.

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