I've been seeing this great INTj guy, but I've come to realize it's not working, and I want to let him know in a way that discomfits him as little as possible. I'd love to be friends with him. We haven't had any talk of us being a couple, but we've gone on several dates and made out a lot when I thought we might have something going. Please help. We're going out tonight (I didn't want to break things off without being in person because I've heard it's better to do it in person).