I was thinking about my upbringing and I think the dynamic of my parents kind of fucked me up a bit. My parents spoiled me and then when I would act spoiled, my dad would punish me for it harshly. Not recognising that it was their mistake to have spoiled me to begin with. My isfj mother would put me on a guilt trip and for years I hated myself for not helping out more around the house. I had a problem with drink a few years back and I think it was for this reason,that I tried to run away from myself. I don't blame them for it, they did the best they could. I'm just interested in figuring it all out. I wonder could it be something to do with my type being the supervisor of my mother?
My intj sister, who is the youngest, was even more spoiled than me. My mother was still lying down with her at night til she fell asleep, up to the age of 10. Lying down with her for an hour every night, til she fell asleep. She really took the piss. But she doesn't hate herself for being spoiled. I wouldn't expect her to, she's an intj. For an enfp it's different though. We beat ourselves up for anything and everything.
I'm wondering, you know the nature/nurture debate? And how people talk of one sibling going bad, while another sibling does well? And how people claim it can't possibly be the home environment that has caused it. Maybe it's just down to different types being affected in different ways. What could be beneficial for one type could be detrimental to another.
What do you think?