Warning: This description is horribly, horribly biased towards Te! I actually would like to get more feedback from people from other points of view.
I'm struggling to describe the Ti/Fe and Te/Fi agendas in my own words. I don't mean the 'hidden agendas,' just agendas in general. This will all be from a Te-biased point of view, but still, I want to know if these descriptions resonate with anyone, or if anyone can add to them.
Ti: You are in this category. Tell it like it is. You are quadriplegic, gay, ugly, stupid, dying of cancer, whatever. You are stuck in that category. That's the way it is. This is a static, long-lasting category that you can't easily get out of.
Fe: That sucks! I hate being quadriplegic, gay, ugly, etc, etc. I accept that category is correct. I accept that it's unchangeable. That truly is how it is. All that remains is to just express how badly it sucks. That's all I can do. I can't fix it or change it.
Te: It doesn't have to be that way! I can fix it. It does suck, but I will cure your cancer, make you straight again (yes, I'm joking by the way, even *I* don't try to 'cure' everything, and I don't try to cure gayness, but I'm saying this just to fit with the 'Te' spirit that I'm trying to define here), make you some robot legs so you can walk again, give you a makeover, etc. That category is only temporary, not permanent. It's broken, but it can be fixed. You are *not* stuck in a permanent category. You are not doomed.
Fi: ??? I'm having a hard time verbalizing this one. What does Fi do in response to Te? I can see how Ti says 'You're in that category' and Fe responds with 'It sucks to be in that category.' But how does Fi respond to Te? 'You're a good person. I'll stick with the person who knows how to fix things.' Is that how Fi sees Te? Fi: You're a good person. That's a static attribute. It's who you are. I'll stick with you, I'll love you no matter what, because of who you are. Your goodness doesn't change much, or if it does, it only changes slowly. Does that sound like Fi?
Fe: The situation is bad. I can't fix it. Therefore I'll just express my feelings about it.
Te: Don't express feelings prematurely - it's fixable. Keep trying and trying to find ways to fix it. You're not stuck in a bad situation. It's not necessary to feel any emotions at all, until and unless we're absolutely sure that the situation is un-fixable. (Yes, this is Te-biased and written by me from my point of view, I realize that.) So for me personally, for instance, I try not to express feelings about a situation until it's absolutely obvious that there's no solution, no fix, and there isn't going to be one - for instance, death. I'm not going to try to fix death. There's nothing to do about it - it sucks to be us - so now is the appropriate time to feel feelings, and express them, after someone dies.
Te has weakness of Fe: I would love to express a feeling, however when I do, I can't get anyone else to go along with it. So over the years I stopped trying to say 'It sucks to be me! Look at how badly it sucks to be me! I'm in this category and I hate it!' Whenever my life sucks, I just keep quiet about it (and write a blog). But if I had great strength in Fe, I would say to people 'This is what's wrong with my life, that sucks, feel it along with me, and we'll all agree about how bad this sucks!' That is a weakness of Fe. People respond with, 'Eh, that's pathetic,' or 'Stop complaining' or something of that sort. Or they just seem indifferent, and don't care and don't respond enough. Or else I am more focused on trying and trying and trying to fix it, endlessly, even when I can't.
Fi: Why isn't Fi attracted to Ti? What is it about Ti that Fi doesn't like? Ti: Tell it like it is. You're in that category - you're quadriplegic. That's bad. But Fi says: You're still a good person, I'm loyal to you, even if you're quadriplegic. Fi somehow becomes attracted to Te instead.
Anyone able to explain this from the other points of view? How does your type of thinking/feeling respond to the feeling/thinking that you find attractive in others?