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    I don't usually smile. People tell me :"smile, do it".

    Have you ever been told sth like this?
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    Yes. By people who know me and random strangers alike. As if walking around with a smile glued to my face would make the world a better place. (Well, maybe it would, but it's still way too fake to even contemplate.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aiss View Post
    Yes. By people who know me and random strangers alike. As if walking around with a smile glued to my face would make the world a better place. (Well, maybe it would, but it's still way too fake to even contemplate.)
    Yes, there is a difference between an honest smile and a salesman smile.
    We should smile out of happiness
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    I assume that people are not happy 24 hours a day
    Although there is a motto in Spanish: "smile when things are not working" or sth like that
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    I smile a lot nowadays, but I was always frowning as a kid, and got told to smile more.
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    I don't think I do it much, but sometimes I try to smile more in conversations and the such to make me seem more friendly. I've never been told to smile, however. Except when I'm in a music performance (at school), and the conductor might mention to us to smile.
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    some people are just really disrespectful... they seem to feel they have rights to other people's facial muscles.

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    I got told to smile more as a kid, by this one teacher I hated.

    Perhaps growing up I could have been more...extroverted, bubbly and happy. Less moody, introverted and withdrawn. But trying to control what other people do and tell them to do things that they don't want to do isn't the way to go about it.

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    I used to smile a lot more when I was a kid. Not as much anymore, but I'll try to remember to do it more often.

    <--- I guess it's working already.

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    I used to get this, I hated it, it would make me nervous, I would begin to think I need to be smiling for some reason.

    Certain situations I'd feel weird smiling in though, like if I was driving by a school zone and kids where walking around and I was driving by slowly with a huge grin on my face, people may get the wrong idea -- sometimes being stoic and emotionless has its advantages.

    However I remember one time I was at chipotle picking up a burrito and I was filling up my drink, and I reached over to throw away the wraper my straw was in, and there was this little kid sitting on the counter with his dad talking on the cellphone, I reached over to throw away my straw and the kid pulled out a plastic knife and pointed it at me, at first it kind of freaked me out, like he was a little chucky or something, but I just smiled at the kid and laughed, and he smiled back and put the knife down, then I threw away my straw wrapper and got the hell out of there, the dad saw the kid point the knife at me and then told his son as I was walking out to not do that to people. So smiling does have its advantages.

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    Im told to relax, usually.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    Have you ever been told sth like this?
    Yes, once or twice by some annoying girl... then she gave up.
    „Man can do what he wants but he cannot want what he wants.“
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    Presumably if you smile, there's a positive feedback loop - essentially, your brain thinks, "Oh, we're smiling, we must be happy!" and your mood will actually improve.

    One of the studies involved people holding pencils in their mouths either horizontally (thus stretching the mouth sideways, as in a smile) or vertically (mouth in an o shape), and those who were forced to smile found various video clips funnier than the others statistically significant yada yada.

    Anyway, I've been told this, and I told the other person to fucking fuck off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by octopuslove View Post
    Anyway, I've been told this, and I told the other person to fucking fuck off.
    Did you smile while saying that?
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    yea i got told this a lot as a kid but then everyone else eventually became progressively less happy while I stayed pretty much the same so now I get told not to smile. Ahh the joys of being average.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    I don't usually smile. People tell me :"smile, do it".

    Have you ever been told sth like this?
    No.

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    "People are just trying to make themselves happy Sam, they don't need all your poor me victim sad stories. Nobody wants to hear that shit, fuck off."

    "But I thought you were manly and strong enough to take it? If a little victimhood and sensitivity and the accurate re-creation of reality knocks you down, perhaps you're the weak one?"

    "Why don't you tell an inspiring story"

    "Art is pain. Inspiration has to include a lot of darkness....this is what people really go through, not your disnified version. In real life there's not all those bright lights that causes vision problems. You're not inspiring anybody, you're causing nearsightedness."

    "Fuck off you middle-class Daria like fag. I will exploit whoever I want for money. I am going to molest you now because you see through to what I am."

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    You guys should smile more.
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    40 volunteers were given Botox to the forehead. Before and after the treatment, they were asked to read out statements from a sheet. Those statements were ranging from happy, sad to angry.
    After the treatment it took longer for the Botox testees to read the ones that were sad. What I read that the study indicated, it seemed that they weren't more happy cos they smiled, but less sad cos they had harder time to frown.

    I think that they might have more difficulties when dealing with their inner shit. Frown, do it.

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    i'm usuallY reminded bY emploYers to smile, because when i'm concentrating on remembering/working i tend to forget to look happY.
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    maybe tommorow's statues are insecure without their foes
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    While I genuinely believe that smiling makes you feel better, telling someone to do it is annoying. If you're trying to cheer someone up, figure out why they're down, commiserate, reassure, then crack a joke or something.

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    the people who say this to me are almost always men over 50. I don't know, just a thought. maybe it used to be more common. but yeah I feel like they're telling me to fake happiness in order to be more attractive and its unsettling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    I don't usually smile. People tell me :"smile, do it".

    Have you ever been told sth like this?
    I sometimes work in the drive-thru in McDonald's. On the wall, there is a poster that tells us some suggestions for what we are supposed to say and how we are supposed to act when we talk to a customer. It says 'And smile, smile, smile!' or something to that effect. Whenever I greet a customer, I say hello to them in a polite voice without a smile. I might sometimes nod. But I don't smile.

    I smile at approaching strangers in public if, for some reason, I feel anxiety. I smile at them if I am making eye contact with them. I smile at them if I don't know them, and never will know them - I live in a town where a large number of the residents are temporary. I smile at them if I'm not bonding with them. I smile at them if they look like they're scared of me for my not smiling.

    For me a smile is a fake armor, a protection against showing myself. It's also a submissiveness gesture to show that I am not threatening the other person. To approach someone and make eye contact, without smiling, either means that I'm on drugs (I did it while I was on antidepressants) or it means that I am showing my strength and also my vulnerability. It takes more courage to refrain from smiling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Analyst Trevor View Post
    No.
    come on, Trevor, smile! You know you want to! You're sitting there right now secretly trying not to smile. I know you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    painful videos except for the third one
    Didn't you say you wear a black handkerchief or something? I think maybe you smile when you want to cry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nico1e View Post
    Didn't you say you wear a black handkerchief or something?
    You didn't quote me, the above quote is not from me and I didn't say anything like that.

    I think maybe you smile when you want to cry.
    I don't care what you think, you don't do it very often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nico1e View Post
    come on, Trevor, smile! You know you want to! You're sitting there right now secretly trying not to smile. I know you are.
    i smiled

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    You didn't quote me, the above quote is not from me and I didn't say anything like that.



    I don't care what you think, you don't do it very often.
    It's okay, I was joking. It was a reference to something that was said a while back in another thread. And now I know for sure you do cry, because you tried to make me cry.

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    All the time. My SEI friend smiles all the time, but it's not my natural MO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nico1e View Post
    It's okay, I was joking. It was a reference to something that was said a while back in another thread. And now I know for sure you do cry, because you tried to make me cry.

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