Last night my ex fiancé (IEI, INFP mbti, E2w3) and I went out for dinner together as we are both still very close. We were having a normal conversation when all of a sudden it came down to him starting a new relationship 14 days after I called off the engagement. Conversation got very heated and we had to leave the restaurant before a major scene broke out.
We argued for a couple of hours, him getting super analytical and reserved and me breaking down into tears looking all pathetic and then us switching back to anger then back to the previous state.
What I noticed about myself though is that during this time it felt like my mind had split into two sections... one dealing with the situation at hand and the other part went off into la la land. I started getting very fixated on how I had arranged the books on my shelf trying to figure out how to make it more efficient and a new system I should implement or if I should go by a dewey system. I then started working out what I should be getting for my tax return and then went onto a maths equation that had been bothering me for the last couple of days.
I ended up feeling a bit guilty that my mind seems to wander a lot during times of stress... kind of works like a coping mechanism. I often feel as though I am not really there and it's not really happening.
Do any other ISTjs experience this? How do you cope with emotional stress?
Other types: have you noticed ISTj's minds wandering a bit?