I am new to this forum, but I am certainly not a new face to the typology systems around. Some of you may have seen me in other forums like PerN, PerC, TypeC, INFJs and so. I'm 23 years old, born in America and raised in Mexico. I'm a grad student (Masters) in environmental engineering. In Jungian systems, I am a Ti dominant with Ne as my auxiliary, and I'm a 5 (if you believe in wings, I'm a 5w6, and if you are one of the nuts who believes in tritypes, I'm a 5w6-3w4-9w8).
While I've invested most of my time to Jungian's cognitive functions, and more recently to enneagram and OCEAN, socionics is still a very new field for me. I've tried to learn as much as I can from members like Aleksei and others that are in Personality Nation, but I've come here because this forum has been referenced to have many more people knowledgeable in socionics.
With this said, I've decided to answer Aleksei's questionnaire to begin this typing session .
1) Pick 5 words or short phrases (or as many as you want, but no less than 5) to describe yourself, and explain.
Independent. There has always been this drive in myself to be independent, and it wasn't until 4 years ago when I moved to the US away from my family that I was able to achieve this. You might argue that I'm still a prisoner to my educational loan debts or credit card payments, but I feel more free in the aspect of my lifestyle. I value my independence TOO much, to the point that I've gotten to the point where I look down on people who get married at early ages (19-20) and staying in unhealthy relationships in exchange for security. I simply cannot conceive of this. Give me responsibilities, give me having to own my defects, give me personal stress.... I will take them over sacrificing my authenticity.
Intelligent. I hate using this word because it makes me sound like a pompous asshole, but many people decide to describe me this way and I don't disagree with it entirely. Yeah, I'm intelligent compared to most of the people in my age range and with my background. How I've become a great instructor on a wide range of topics isn't merely out of dedication (which honestly I don't have much of). It's just VERY easy for me to grasp concepts once I understand the underlying structure.
Curious. This goes hand in hand with what I said in the previous paragraph. I submerge myself in a LOT of topics, and I try to not come back empty handed from these intellectual journeys. The phrase of "Jack of all trades, king of none" applies HEAVILY to me.
Good Instructor. "not come back empty handed" is an understatement. In all honesty, I am very good at explaining concepts once I get an idea. I often find myself learning MORE as I teach, because putting it in understandable and global words makes everything make more sense. This appreciation for understanding more stuff through interactions has led me have a passion for teaching, and why I've had success as a private tutor in music, math, reading, engineering, typology, etc.
Resourceful. I think I've made this clear already. Read Intelligence and good instructor and you will see why a lot of people want me in their side when it comes to knowing things.
Logical. I think I've also made this clear earlier. I have a good ability to understand principles of theories and systems if they follow some sort of non-random structure. It's not that I don't like spontaneity (matter of fact, I love it), but I'm just better with reliable systems.
2) Now pick the direct opposite of those and explain how you could be the opposite, and what could be good about it.
Independent -> Dependent. While rarely (especially not as of lately), I can be dependent on a personal with who I am having a sexual relationship. It is often for me to feel passionate about a person who I am very fond of, to the point where she can consume my thoughts day and night. It makes me a VERY good, reliable partner who will fight until things just don't make sense.
Intelligent -> Ignorant. I can be ignorant on several topics once I try to jump in motion on something I am not familiar with. I do this constantly as I never like to think that another person have some of intellectual superiority over me, which leads me to sometimes people think I have no idea what am I doing.
Curious -> Indifferent. If I don't see the point on further expanding my knowledge on something, or I see that a person has nothing of worth to offer me, I will simply stop caring and look at the ceiling. Being indifferent sort of helps me withdraw from situations, as being curious means you get invested on something, and pulling out of it might be harder once that energy is there. While being indifferent, there really is just no commitment (at least emotional commitment).
Good Instructor -> Bad Instructor. I can be a bad professor when people ask me the same question continuously and I ran out of ideas how to get it through them. I can also be bad when people go "Nah, I won't go to the lecture, I'll just let you explain it to me", because they are assuming that spending time frustrating myself with people for free is very fun. When people do that, I MAKE them want to go to class. It's good to be a bad professor because it helps me not have people depend on me day in and day out.
Resourceful - Unreliable. Yeah I can be pretty unreliable when I don't have anything to base myself upon. If you give me all of the pieces for a device I've never even SEEN or know what it does, and you expect me to put it together within a deadline, you can bet i will be unreliable. However, it is not that bad, because being unreliable (in my case) is like being at the bottom of the hill, and the only way to go is up. If I was never able to put it together, at least I will get how NOT TO do it, which is not completely useless at the end.
Logical -> Absurd. Yeah in love, I tend to have this absurd expectations (explaining the few relationships in my life) when seeking for a partner. How could I not? I can't settle for just "good" in utilitarian terms... I need that extra-something that my heart craves, and it can't be logically explained, let alone put into words.
3) What are your interests? Why?
... You're opening up a pandora's box in here.
Typology systems -> I've always been a fan of human psychology (and I'm not such a bad therapist tbh). The human psyche is a fascinating thing, and typology systems provide an easy way to make some connections with external things without having to get a degree to understand it. I've learned a lot about psychology with these systems.
Music -> Been playing guitar since I was 8, I haven't stopped. I love music as a listener and as a performer. I love non-verbal communication, and there many songs that don't need to say something to express more than a conversation can give me.
Engineering -> Amazing combination of theory and reality. I love theoretical sciences like math, physics and chemistry, and I submerge myself into these so much. I will say that it is VERY easy for me to understand the concepts when I'm working with them rather than just reading, and engineering provides this alternative.
Animals -> I am currently volunteering at the clinic of an animal rescue place. I love animals, to the point where I don't even eat them. At the moment, I share the bed with my puppy 'Luna'. I've always been around animals: Dogs, cats, fishes, guinea pigs, hamsters, etc. I love animals for their innocence. You can observe a behavior that is not manipulated completely by collective expectations or malicious tendencies in most of them. Most of all, they are great company .
I have many others, but let's just leave it as that for now.
4) What do you want out of life?
What are my options?
5) What can you not do, because it might jeopardize your survival?
Too many drugs. For as curious as I am of most things, I do hold back from trying drugs that might be too hard on my body and I might develop a dependency. I've tried the ones that I know won't be that hard on me, but I'm still unsure on just trying anything.
Spend all of my savings away on hedonistic manners. I've always been very future driven, and this has led me to a very pleasant and bright present. Part of this has come from saving money and use it only when it is necessary.
6) What do you like in other people? Why?
For the most part, it's selfless-ness. To be able to act on the people surrounding you without any effect on you is amazing. Someone who is so detached from one's own convictions and needs, yet is reliable as a society is something AMAZING.
I also like social wittiness a lot. Humor is an important part of creating positive resolutions, and to be able to mold a situation into a positive and humoristic scenario requires an almost supernatural ability.
7) What do you dislike in other people? Why?
I hate brown-nosing. It shows that you have absolutely nothing to show but your flattery skills (which aren't too hard to obtain anyway). The reason why I detest it so much it's mainly because it can work... and it can work SO well. Some people are very blunt about it, and some are a litle bit more subtle, but regardless of the way, a good social rubbing can take you more places than your other skills, more specifically, the ones related to the task at hand.
I also hate people who I need to work around extensively around their emotions to be objective but not hurt them. I know there is always a social vocabulary that needs to be presented in order to receive your comments/ideas/judgments in a more positive light, and people have different experiences which makes them think this and BLAH... but when I have to pretty much APOLOGIZE for everything I have to say, or ask permissions... I can't stand it. Funnily, I tend to be the bluntest with these people, as if they broke the boundaries I have and I just let the lion out.
Also, people who think of nothing but doing drugs all of the time for nothing out of just recreational use. I can completely understand if you are going through a phase and they help you come with some stuff, and I can understand if you do it to get inspired in artistical matters... but just for the sake of it, experience has taught me that these people are just extremely lazy, useless, and consider this type of people a waste of oxygen.
8) What would your ideal partner be like?
*shrugs* I really don't know. I've met so many different people throughout my life, and I gotta say that I like the diversity.I don't think there is a perfect match, or some attributes that I am seeking in every single person. I guess it's just a person that has the traits I described in the "things I like about a person" part, and doesn't have the things in the "thing I hate about a person" section.
9) Do you enjoy comfort, sensory indulgence, relaxation? Are you physically hedonistic (parties, dancing, binges, good eating, etc.)? Do you focus finely on physical sensations, carefully savoring them?
I relax a lot. You know the whole "work 5 minutes and rest for 2 minutes" shit? I do that, except the other way around. When I relax, it's not necessarily a "shutting down your brain and just waste time", it's more of distracting myself from a project with another project.
I do love oversleeping though . Dreams are a fascinating thing. I yearn every night for my sleep because I learn a lot about myself if I have a good dream.
Other than that, I wouldn't really call myself "sensory" driven or so. My room is a mess, I like parties if a group of close friends are there to hang out with. I drink alcohol as a social lubricant, etc.
10) Do you find yourself neglecting bodily concerns and pushing your body beyond reasonable limits (like skipping sleep or meals or the like)? If so, do you appreciate being encouraged to slow down and take care of yourself, or does it make you feel annoyed or mollycoddled?
I push it ALL of the time xD. Not showering everyday, not brushing my teeth 3 times a day, not washing dishes, etc. I can be very unsanitary with myself because of how absent-minded I tend to be, so it is nice to have someone remind me that I actually have responsibilities with my body and my housekeeping.
11) Do you focus more on what you need to take care of at the moment, or on the end goal? Do you prefer an attitude of leaving no stone left unturned, or do you only focus on what you feel is necessary to reach your end goals? Are you thorough or sloppy? If neither applies to you, which do you prefer in other people?
END goals completely. I focus a lot of long term, mainly because the efforts you have to do for them in the present are very small compared to the ones for results in the short-term (which are often not as good). I can be very sloppy about it, because as I said, I sort of seek the path of least resistance.
12) Are you forever chasing after new ideas and possibilities, or do you prefer dreaming up imaginative scenarios and fully fleshed-out plans? If neither applies to you, which do you prefer in other people?
New ideas and possibilities. I like imagining shit, but I like for them to actually have some sort of validity in the real world. Imaginative scenarios are cool and all but yeeeeah, eh.
13) Do you look for the hidden implications of concepts in analysis, and what they lead to? Or do you prefer to examine how concepts relate to each other? If neither applies to you, which do you prefer in other people?
Concepts relate to each other. Things are more interconnected with one another than we realize, and it is FUN to seek them out.
14) Do you solve all variables, difficulties and contingencies as they come up? Or do you prefer to pick the most likely outcome or most likely conclusion and plan with it in mind?
Most likely outcome/conclusion. I spend time thinking about what is more likely to happen and plan for that... although this tends to often bite me in the ass because if I overlooked a detail that was to change the outcome, my planning has been completely fucked.
15) Are you prone to uncertainty or indecisiveness? When you have multiple opportunities to choose from, do you analyze them all? Or do you want to cut out the ones that aren’t likely or are least likely; pick just one?
Cut out the ones that aren't likely or are least likely, as I stated in the other question.
16) Are you open to any avenue that might offer potential opportunities? Or do you prefer to make sure the odds are in favor of a new avenue bringing benefits?
Any avenue that might offer potential opportunities. Seems contradictory to what I said in the past, but if something is imminent, I try to imagine what it is so I can prepare for it. If the situation doesn't necessarily have a defined goal, I prefer to explore as many options as possible.
17) Are you assertive? Aggressive? Do you like it when other people are?
I don't consider myself to be, but a lot of people think that I can be, and EXTREMELY. I guess I can call myself assertive compared to most of the people in my life, but I still think that it's very small compared to a lot of people around me. I do like it when people are assertive/aggressive but ONLY if they mix it up with honesty.
18) Are you able to relax? Or are you restless and fidgety?
I relax while I fidget hah... so it's hard for me to do so. I am often playing with my fingers, with paper labels in drinks, with phones, etc.
19) Do you prefer concepts, principles, rules, procedures, etc. to be precise and lack ambiguity, or do you prefer simple solutions that offer (or as long as they offer) greater efficiency and productivity?
Concepts... "simple solutions" change over time constantly and I find it dumb to go by them since they are more likely to change than say, a principle.
20) Are you a practical person in general? Elaborate.
I am getting an environmental engineering and my thesis is all about experimental procedures, what do you think? . I like hands-on work, but that's because this keeps me focused on something, since otherwise I am very prone to have my mind wander off on tangents that while fun, are useless.
21) Are you passionate? Emotional? Given to performance or histrionics? Do you enjoy those qualities in other people?
Not really :\. I tend to be sort of cold and aloof. People sometimes try to read too much into my emotional manifestations because I rarely exhibit them, so it almost seems like a miracle for them.
22) Are you aware of when you're stepping on other peoples' toes, or offend them? When you're not liked?
I am. I do try to have tact when addressing people and so, even though my mind is probably already thinking of a racist joke about them .
23) Are you sensitive to others being emotionally hurt or offended?
Nah... I prefer to just go "aww " and shut up so I don't have to put up with the emotional diarrhea that often comes out of this.
24) Would you say that the status of your personal relationships with people, your distance to them, is an important criterion for guiding your behavior?
I would indeed
Pic taken before I started writing this questionaire. Most recent look.
This is my glamour shot, and often the pic that I use if I need to present myself. It's a good pic, but a bit misleading. This was about 2 years ago.
Picture of me and my dog that I've had requested by several people. I love this motherfucker. And yes, the room I took this picture in is my room, and it's even messier than it seems. This is about 6 months ago.
I'm the guy in the top left, wearing the blue long sleeve t-shirt. This is my closest group of friends, even though I moved away from this city 4 years ago. The group is now 1 person smaller than this picture, but it still holds.
I'm the guy in the back with the black t-shirt. I used to be in a band as a bass player. I've quit since then to focus on grad school, but I still look back on those years very fondly.