I've been thinking about 'the way we'd like other people to treat us' and in my brain I split it in the following two dichotomies. Which one do you prefer?
1. I prefer a safe distance with people. I need other people to leave me alone as much as possible, unless I ask them for help. I want people who 'inspire me from a distance.'
2. I prefer people to be a little pushy. I want them to pay attention to me, and be nosy to my struggles. I want people to tell me what to do so I know the best course of action to take.
I think for me, I'd much rather prefer the first option.