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    often? rarely? is it generally easy or difficult for you?

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    Usually a couple times a decade, but I haven't had much experience in the area.

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    Too often.

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    Only with some movie characters like twice a year. Never irl

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    I love different people in different ways. I've been infatuated, fancied people, loved different friends. Human variety ftw. I admit to cartoon and movie characters too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GuavaDrunk View Post
    I love different people in different ways. I've been infatuated, fancied people, loved different friends. Human variety ftw. I admit to cartoon and movie characters too.
    same. And I'm in love with Mickey Mouse.
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    Maritsa I think you should specify your view of what love is in the OP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hydrangea View Post
    Maritsa I think you should specify your view of what love is in the OP.
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    Oops, Marietta.

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    Rarely. Love is too powerful of a state to experience very often at all.
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    I get infatuated pretty easily. Maybe fell in love twice?

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    I don't fall out of it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hydrangea View Post
    I think you should specify your view of what love is in the OP.
    ok so let's make it 2 questions:

    1) how often and how easily are you infatuated
    2) how many people have you actually loved (romantically) so far?
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    I've only been in love like I am with my husband just with him, so once. But I've had less major love feelings for maybe 4 or 5 other guys before him.

    Infatuation though is a regular thing for me, and always has been. I get infatuated with people all the time. Even since I've been married. So many times I couldn't count.
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    These are unanswerable questions for me, as i really have no idea when such feelings will strike and with whom. The frequency that this happens, intensity of feeling towards a person, and degree of attachment is something that is very situational and varies very much in my case.
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    about twice a week, you know, when I'm feeling up to it.

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    You have good taste, timeofmylife. A ripe one.

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    Well I'm 21 now and I'd say actual love twice in my life. That whole different people and different ways thing is true for me too, but if you mean actual i want to spend the rest of my life with this person, head over heals, they are my other half kinda love. Twice.
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    Infatuated pretty easily, only loved one person romantically thus far.

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    Only once... a least, I believe its love. I don't allow myself to get infatuated very easily.

    I think real love is a rare thing. People mistake intense infatuation for love. Real love shouldn't make you irrational.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Only once... a least, I believe its love. I don't allow myself to get infatuated very easily.

    I think real love is a rare thing. People mistake intense infatuation for love. Real love shouldn't make you irrational.
    If this is true then once for me. Or at least once that didn't make me any more irrational than I already am.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    I think real love is a rare thing. People mistake intense infatuation for love. Real love shouldn't make you irrational.
    I agree.

    I've been infatuated, and it sucked. It was like some crappy rollercoaster of emotions with elated highs and downright depressing lows, but I never really felt good. I felt out of control, and it made my life worse overall. I don't think love does that, I think it should make you feel stronger and better. I only want to love once, because when I know for sure it's real and mutual, I'll stay with him forever.

    @original poster: I'm very rarely infatuated. It has only happened a couple times.

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    huh?
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    I'm not sure I can distinguish infatuation from love.

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    Rarely and difficult.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CILi View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Marietta View Post
    1) how often and how easily are you infatuated
    2) how many people have you actually loved (romantically) so far?
    1) "Hi, my name's ____. Nice to meet you." = Infatuated.
    explain? you get infatuated with someone who says that to you? or you say that to someone with whom you're infatuated?
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    CILi presents him/her/self? as your dual with a cutesy avatar waving hi

    Lots of perils with being that way

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    Doubting it to be type related, but I'm quite similar to CILi, though I often don't think much will come of a romantic relationship, so I don't pursue it and whoever it is I am "infatuated" with change often-ish. Not sure, actually, if that then counts as infatuation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UDP View Post
    CILi presents him/her/self? as your dual with a cutesy avatar waving hi

    Lots of perils with being that way
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    cili is male.

    answering the question: i get infatuated a lot. i'm not sure what "falling in love" means, love seems more like something that creeps up without fanfare that you notice more after the fact. i love a handful of people, mostly family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timmy View Post
    I'm not sure I can distinguish infatuation from love.
    Yeah, it doesn't really seem possible for me. Even trying to read through these long debates on infatuation vs love doesn't convey any more information.
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    Infatuated: Maybe a couple times a year
    Really liked someone: Once in my life
    Loved someone: Never
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    I think real love is a rare thing. People mistake intense infatuation for love. Real love shouldn't make you irrational.
    what about the theory that in the beggining it is all chemistry, head-over-heels, hormones and stuff and it takes time to see if it is real love? doesn't it always make you irrational in this 1st stage?

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    People I would have wanted to spend the rest of my life with, if the timing had been right?

    FIVE. Spread out over the course of the past 25 years.
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    To be honest, it did happen more than 3 times in a month when I was younger, that is, like, 14-18 yrs of age. There were times I didn't even know that someone is, actually, interested in me. Growing older, I just, I don't know - minded my own business I guess.

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