Originally Posted by
BulletsAndDoves
The flip side to that arguement is this:
How have you proved yourself to be a worthy enough warrior for the INFp to be loyal and monogamous to you? It might seem immature to you, but INFps really just want somebody that cares as much as we do. =p
IEIs have great insight to human nature, as well as people's shadow sides and their cruel motivations (what we supervise ESEs on) and so you can't 'fake care' with an IEI and get away with it too well.
If somebody is really the one why would I want to cheat or be with other people? It just would seem like a silly suggestion...
But if there's any ambivalence that I have about the person, then I will just consider them to be just another evil selfish stupid whore in life. Not my soulmate. Not the one. It's not that I'll totally dislike the person but if you really want me to be monogamous and be with you, you have to prove to me without a shadow of a doubt that I'm the one for you out of TRILLIONS of other people in this universe, and I should be doing the same to you. Otherwise, why are you asking for monogamy?
Anyway that person is just treating you how they will assume that you will treat them. A lot of time when people are being externally cruel, you have to look at it that way and see the true heart of the matter and not just their off-putting behavior. I know it's really frustrating because IEIs can be dicks, but it's a defense mechanism. =p
You're taking their rudeness personally, which is not what an IEI/SLE wants you to do at all, and so you're failing their 'Love Test' as it were.