My INFP friend has struck a nerve with me. He has a girlfriend but he is playing another girl. He is using both for sex. He bragged like a 12 year old boy about receiving a BJ from this girl and I was reminded of my ENFJ friend who exbits similiar behaviour -a introverted inutition moment. I'm liberal when it comes to sex but my INFP friend has a dubious nature. He did a little research on this girl and found out two things he needed to know. #1 She puts out. #2 She is a head case. What this means is he treats them subhuman in terms of lying to them, playing mind games (maybe abusing them), cheating on them and of course using them for sex. What is dubious is that he prefers women who are mentally unstable. When he thinks that they are a bit off in the head that makes it okay to use them for their bodies. In other words he feels no guilt nor remorse because when he thinks they are 'crazy' then they do not deserve to be respected. Once this occured to me I can understand why friends who have known him longer feel no sympathy toward him when he is brokenhearted or when a women cheats on him.
Of course these women happen to be ESFJ who have no idea what he is thinking. He thinks their minds have no merit so essentially the only thing that is worthwhile is their bodies. He thinks his girlfriend is undiagnosed bipolar and he heard an extreme case of this other girl chasing this guy across town so he thinks she's crazy. Admittedly both of these girls are bit stupid as I think most women can detect that he is a player.
I have another friend who is dating an ESFJ. He mentioned to me that she is depressed, maybe bi-polar. His attitude is that she needs help.
The point of this thread is not to knock iNeF but personally I want to intervene. I would like to hear what people think. Is there anything wrong with this picture? Do I let this continue? will my INFP wise up?