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    Is it typical for IEE's to spill their guts to other IEE's? What type is the most likely to be the confidant of the IEE?

    Lately, I believe I am an IEE again, but whenever I meet another one, it begins with us bonding over interests and ideas, and then ends with them talking about their feelings with me. All. The. Time. EII's do this to me too, but they're totally charming about it! They try leading into the emotional talk, and they can talk a little bit about what they're feeling, and then go back into non-feelings talk or fun. Come to think of it, EII may be the type that I am most likely to talk about my feelings with!

    With the IEE's I know, though, they just come on full force, "This is how I'm feeling. Problems problems problems!" and it sucks because what I felt our friendship was established on, shared interests and ideas and lighthearted fun, becomes ruined now that I have to be the "emotional confidant."

    Maybe it's not type related, I'm just usually extremely nice to people I've just met and I do honestly like it that people feel like they can trust me enough to share these personal things with, I just don't like it when it becomes a pattern.

    Does anybody know what I'm talking about?

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    Most people feel comfortable to talk about feelings with IEEs, I guess other IEEs included.
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    Being a whiny bitch =/= ENFp.

    Or if having "lighthearted fun" is such a priority for you and you avoid dealing with the subtleties of your relationships, maybe you're Alpha and regard Fi as a burden.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Parkster View Post
    Being a whiny bitch =/= ENFp.

    Or if having "lighthearted fun" is such a priority for you and you avoid dealing with the subtleties of your relationships, maybe you're Alpha and regard Fi as a burden.
    that's what i was thinking too. I usually enjoy lending an ear to people's problems.
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    I guess I "talk" about my "feelings" to people I actually trust, but I'd figure most feeley types + people who are aware of their own emotionality would be okay with talking about that kind of thing. When the entirety of your existence is hard-wired to be painfully aware of your emotional states, what else are you going to talk about?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Parkster View Post
    maybe you're Alpha and regard Fi as irrelevant
    Fixed.



    IEEs are dramatic, but it's entertaining.

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    Dramatic would not be something I would consider to be. Dramatic is something I actually dislike. Choose your words carefully, dramatic Fe base man, or else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    Fixed.



    IEEs are dramatic, but it's entertaining.
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    Haha, did I say dramatic? I meant... some other word with a positive connotation that wouldn't belittle IEEs' feelings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by No Longer a Dating Site View Post
    Dramatic would not be something I would consider to be. Dramatic is something I actually dislike. Choose your words carefully, dramatic Fe base man, or else.
    yeah ditto.
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    I talk about my feelings to people, and people talk about their feelings to me. I don't think it's dramatic, though. We just talk.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Slacker View Post
    I talk about my feelings to people, and people talk about their feelings to me. I don't think it's dramatic, though. We just talk.
    Xactly the same
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    I asked my IEE dad what type he'd want to spend the day with a dozen of. He quickly answered that he wanted his type. I asked why, and he said it would be wonderful to have all those people who understand him and they could just stand around talking and affirming each other all day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    IEEs are dramatic, but it's entertaining.
    Coming from an ESFj like you... no comment.
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    LSEs also talk about their Filings.

    Sorry, bad joke.

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    Quote Originally Posted by poli View Post
    LSEs also talk about their Filings.

    Sorry, bad joke.
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    I talk about feelings with people all the time, especially with close friends. But I'm selective with which feelings I tell to whom.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Director Abbie View Post
    I asked my IEE dad what type he'd want to spend the day with a dozen of. He quickly answered that he wanted his type. I asked why, and he said it would be wonderful to have all those people who understand him and they could just stand around talking and affirming each other all day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stanprollyright View Post
    I talk about feelings with people all the time, especially with close friends. But I'm selective with which feelings I tell to whom.
    same

    As open as many people who know me think I am about my feelings, they'd be surprised at how much about me that they don't know.

    Though, I admit that I prefer to talk about feelings and events rather than just feelings.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stanprollyright View Post
    I talk about feelings with people all the time, especially with close friends. But I'm selective with which feelings I tell to whom.
    very much the same here... HIGHLY selective.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
    same
    As open as many people who know me think I am about my feelings, they'd be surprised at how much about me that they don't know.
    Haha, people do think I am an open book when it comes to feelings. Little do they know how I am carefull in choosing what I can share.
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    Quote Originally Posted by k0rpsey View Post
    I had a feeling once.
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    Quote Originally Posted by No Longer a Dating Site View Post
    Haha, people do think I am an open book when it comes to feelings. Little do they know how I am carefull in choosing what I can share.
    Yeah i suspect this as well. My Fe-ego mom actually told me i'm an open book and i should be less so, but she really has no idea...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Parkster View Post
    Coming from an ESFj like you... no comment.
    Haha, this made me laugh out loud.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    Haha, this made me laugh out loud.
    Case in point.

    My question is, what doesn't make you laugh out loud?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Parkster View Post
    Case in point.

    My question is, what doesn't make you laugh out loud?
    Haha very little.

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