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    Actually I find a sense of disinterest in other INTJs, and even Ts in general.

    Fs are a different story, for the most part. I do find myself attracted to some ISTJs and ESTJs, and ENTJs.

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    I am most immediately/obviously attracted to beta NF females, especially IEIs. I mean, think a lot of guys are. But I personally put a lot of credence in the initial-attraction-to-identicals, theory. Or just all the hottest girls I know are IEIs.
    Not a rule, just a trend.

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    Even before I knew about Socionics, I generally tend to be attracted to Delta STs and Alpha SFs especially Extraverted ones (be it people I have known irl or celebrities). There were some of them who are not really considered physically attractive based on conventional standards, yet they are able to catch my attention. It's probably due to the vibes they give out which make the others around them feel comfortable with them.

    Most importantly, I like people who pay attention to me and bring me out of my shell, and I find that Delta STs and Alpha SFs whom I have known irl tend to be caring people who seem genuinely concerned about my well-being.

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    90% of the girls I have been attracted to over my lifetime have been ISFjs.
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    i havent noticed any particular attraction to my identicals. i seem to be attracted the most often to all the Si egos in general. they have a nice presence. an erotic roles thing maybe.

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    assuming i am Se-ISXj, i've always been attracted to this type.
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    That's a hard one. There's only one girl I know that I think is ISFp and, yeah, I'm attracted to her, but the most visceral sexual attraction I've felt was probably with an ExFj and an ISTx.

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    My first ex and second ex are conflictors. I have been physically attracted to members of every quadra, and probably slept with members of at least 3 quadra.

    But I don't think I've ever had a thing for or slept with an identical.
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    I've been physically attracted to people of a lot of different types, but the Delta STs on that list are the highest.
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    Quote Originally Posted by silverchris9 View Post
    I am most immediately/obviously attracted to beta NF females, especially IEIs. I mean, think a lot of guys are. But I personally put a lot of credence in the initial-attraction-to-identicals, theory. Or just all the hottest girls I know are IEIs.
    I think Beta NF women are just very good at making themselves look good.

    But it's always a trap.

    Physical attraction is pretty dim for me. I'm often drawn to Alpha NTs though. I find their intellect mesmerising.

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    ESTj men are attractive, in the same way that a movie star would be.

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    I'm attracted to the whole socion.
    Looking for an Archnemesis. Willing applicants contact via PM.

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    I've been attracted to ENFps and INFjs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by No Longer a Dating Site View Post
    I'm attracted to the whole socion.
    Is that even possible?

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    Abbie is so boring and rigid it's awesome instead of boring and rigid. She seems so practical and down-to-the-ground.

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    Nope. I'm not attracted to other LSIs. Even the good-looking ones do nothing for me. No physical draw there at all. I can't pinpoint what does draw me in, but it's not my identicals.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Director Abbie View Post
    Is that even possible?
    What is so impossible about it? I dated most types and there are numerous reasons to consider someone attractive, type is at the end of that list of reasons.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Galen View Post
    I've been physically attracted to people of a lot of different types, but the Delta STs on that list are the highest.
    I agree with this except that SLIs and SEIs would be highest.
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    Most definitely. ESFj men, especially David Boreanaz are SO hot. Something about that assertive, yet loving nature in a man. . . oh yes.

    Tbh, I'm mostly physically attracted to ESFj's, then ISFp's, then ENFjs and then ENFp men. . . however, they tend to lack what I need to stay in a long-term relationship. If I was a less moral woman I would prolly have one night stands with the dudes and then leave them for a long-term relationship with an LII. For LII's in the end win out, [even when they're really not that physically attractive.] For it's their minds that draw me. . . and sometimes that drawing takes a little while, but then you find yourself caught forever attracted. . .

    However, FAT men, no matter what their type are almost always repulsive to me [physical attraction wise]. . . but I knew an ESE fat man that for some reason I wasn't disgusted by. . . he was self-confident, assertive and sweet. . . something about him seemed to make you not notice that he was over two-hundred pounds. . .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Director Abbie View Post
    ESTj men are attractive, in the same way that a movie star would be.
    Actually I agree with this. I've noticed this as well.
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    I'm actually not sure what type i'm most attracted to. I mean, now I realize I'm very attracted to delta STs, since i've been able to categorize all these sexy guys as delta STs. I would say i'm less attracted to my own type than to them, though I have come across an IEE guy or three who were very attractive (Evan Lysacek and Heath Ledger to name two celebrities). I would say I actually find LSEs to be more obviously handsome than SLIs, whom I very often dont notice (I confirm this observation of Aushra's is true).

    I also have to mention that guys i've been attracted to in the past have not all been "hot", in other words not necessarily the stereotypical "good-looking" dude. A few have been, a few not. What I'm trying to say is, it takes something beyond "good-looks" to attract me.

    I'm also incapable of separating "sexual attraction" from overall attraction and love. If I dont have feelings for the guy, I can't imagine enjoying just sexing him.
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    When it comes down to it, I'm probably the most attracted to SLE's, SEE's and ILE's.

    With SLE's there's definitely more physical/sexual attraction and we click better, obviously. With ILE's I feel much more of a mental attraction... they can be fascinating to talk to. WIth SEE's the attraction is very strong at first, but short lived; they'll usually get friend-zoned after a while.

    IEI's are cool, but we're too much alike and so we end up batting heads. I'd imagine makeup sex with your identical would be really good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Director Abbie View Post
    ESTj men are attractive, in the same way that a movie star would be.
    ESTj men = movie stars ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by EyeSeeCold View Post
    ESTj men = movie stars ?
    yes.

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    yep. I agree.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yellow82 View Post
    However, FAT men, no matter what their type are almost always repulsive to me [physical attraction wise]. . . but I knew an ESE fat man that for some reason I wasn't disgusted by. . . he was self-confident, assertive and sweet. . . something about him seemed to make you not notice that he was over two-hundred pounds. . .
    A lot of men are over 200 lbs and they're not what you'd consider obese. Most men I've been with have been 200-215..of course they were also above 6ft. Anyway, I guess I could be attracted to ISTP's, don't see why not...I just don't think I've ever met that many. ST men tend to be too typically manly for me, I just never found that too appealing when it came to dating them. Ethical men always did it for me.

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    I spend a lot of time with LIIs, I am on par with their sense of humour and generally enjoy their company. They excel at meshing with my personal needs in communication.
    Oh, I am generally not sexually attracted to LIIs, though sometimes I enjoy their company so much I would potentially be sexually intimate with the individual.

    I also like LIEs a fair bit as long as they aren't too proud.
    There is sexual attraction here.

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    Si-creatives all the way. They tend to be very attractive to me. Also SLIs, though I get the impression that they wouldn't be interested for some reason.

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    I *do* find ILI men beautiful like art. I totally fall for ESFP-Fis, though. I can find all gammas compelling.

    Other types are objectively pretty and subjectively, potentially.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yellow82 View Post
    However, FAT men, no matter what their type are almost always repulsive to me [physical attraction wise]. . . but I knew an ESE fat man that for some reason I wasn't disgusted by. . . he was self-confident, assertive and sweet. . . something about him seemed to make you not notice that he was over two-hundred pounds. . .
    Oh yeah? Well I can't stand fat women! Take that, female race!

    Oh but really now, I find Ts, especially the offensively sarcastic and witty ones, to be endearingly funny. There's something about cutting words with a smile that light my eyes up .

    And there is definitely a difference between a male or female XXXx. A male ILE in this topic posting about female SLIs going to be different for a female ILE ... I wonder if we should open discussion about gender differences between types (to the extent that such generalizations can be discussed, of course).
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    Quote Originally Posted by nanashi View Post
    I *do* find ILI men beautiful like art. I totally fall for ESFP-Fis, though. I can find all gammas compelling.

    Other types are objectively pretty and subjectively, potentially.

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    I don't think first glance attraction was type related when I was younger but as I've grown to understand myself more and what I'm looking for I've noticed an attraction to certain types of people in a crowd. For the past decade or so most of that attraction has been directed towards people in Delta, ESE's and Gammas except for ESI's I think
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    Quote Originally Posted by nanashi View Post
    I *do* find ILI men beautiful like art.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EyeSeeCold View Post
    ESTj men = movie stars ?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Shayley View Post
    Are we sexually attracted more to our own type than any other type at first glance?

    I have been noticing that many people give second looks, as in a "I want to take a good long look at you gorgeous/handsome" type way to members of their own type upon first contact than most other types do for that same person (Of course take into the equation whether the person is interested in males or females).

    Does anyone else notice this? Maybe we just like the way our own types dress, hold themselves, hairstyle, vibes they give off, etc?
    I never noticed such a trend. Maybe we're just more apt at recognizing these signs from people of our type? I don't actually believe so though.

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    I do find ENFj females attractive, for the most part, but they aerent necessarily the first I notice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shayley View Post
    Are we sexually attracted more to our own type than any other type at first glance?

    I have been noticing that many people give second looks, as in a "I want to take a good long look at you gorgeous/handsome" type way to members of their own type upon first contact than most other types do for that same person (Of course take into the equation whether the person is interested in males or females).

    Does anyone else notice this? Maybe we just like the way our own types dress, hold themselves, hairstyle, vibes they give off, etc?
    Good point. I think so. Then we discover our dual and realise how crap compared to it identicals are. You see that something was always missing, no matter how well you got on or whatever.

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