I've got my eye on

[tcaudilllg]

an ESFP.

It's a strange feeling actually... like I feel the natural attraction but the more I think about it the more I find myself questioning it. It creates a tension.

[Beautiful sky]

Interesting.

[crazedrat]

Just dont fall prey to your idealism, tcaud. Give in to the random chaos.

[Timeless]

Uh oh.

[EyeSeeCold]

an ESFP.

It's a strange feeling actually... like I feel the natural attraction but the more I think about it the more I find myself questioning it. It creates a tension.

You're ILI. INTp-INTj.

[Beautiful sky]

You're ILI. INTp-INTj.

I don't get it....please explain.

[pianosinger]

Or maybe you're IEI and falling for your semi-dual...

[EyeSeeCold]

Or maybe you're IEI and falling for your semi-dual...

[Simon Ssmall]

Or maybe you're IEI and falling for your semi-dual...

I think you are an introvert. You are gently prodding people into understandng what you see with your Ni. You do not make facts and no direct aproach to an object. You my dear are no Extrover.

[pianosinger]

I think you are an introvert. You are gently prodding people into understandng what you see with your Ni. You do not make facts and no direct aproach to an object. You my dear are no Extrover.

Nah, you're reading too much into my post. I only suggested IEI for TCaud since he claims to be IEI-Dual-type according to his theory. I don't really have a strong opinion about his type, just suggesting that he look at the possibility.

[Simon Ssmall]

Nah, you're reading too much into my post. I only suggested IEI for TCaud since he claims to be IEI-Dual-type according to his theory. I don't really have a strong opinion about his type, just suggesting that he look at the possibility.

Nah, you're reading too much into my post.

[pianosinger]

Nah, you're reading too much into my post.

Now you have me thoroughly confused Were you joking the first time? Or are you joking now? Or are you dead serious? Because I can't tell...

[silke]

According to various sources conflictors do marry each other meaning they must have found each other attractive enough and for long period of time to go through with it. I've heard some of those marriages don't even have a whole lot of conflict in them. Socionics just isn't everything there is to relationships.

[Simon Ssmall]

Now you have me thoroughly confused Were you joking the first time? Or are you joking now? Or are you dead serious? Because I can't tell...

Working as intended

[Absurd]

I've got my eye on...an ESFP.

[1981slater]

GO FOR IT

[tcaudilllg]

It didn't work out. She moved away and it's just no conversation on FB. We have no common interests. She's totally a people person, always involving herself in personal life going-ons.

Too much of a people person. Way too much.

[Lotus]

so you didn't meet her on your dating site?

[rat1]

Focus on earning money. Then the women will find you.

[Jarno]

Too much of a people person. Way too much.

what do you think your dual/ESE is, a hermit?

[Creepy-male]

According to various sources conflictors do marry each other meaning they must have found each other attractive enough and for long period of time to go through with it. I've heard some of those marriages don't even have a whole lot of conflict in them. Socionics just isn't everything there is to relationships.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachm...ant_attachment

[tcaudilllg]

OK looking at an IEE now. She seems to be hurting for stability in her life due to a seriously dysfunctional family (I wouldn't know anything about those! >_>), and this seems to put in her a reciprocal impulse. The SEE was looking for freedom; the IEE, is looking for something else.

But she's totally hot and breathlessly beautiful and sweet as snow cream. She seems to value our relationship (at friendship level now) very much, enough that she's not permitting any red flags (I've been running some "tolerance tests", if you catch my drift). I think she values my relationship the most of those among her peers that she has.

[Korpsy Knievel]

You sure make PMs on a dating site sound special, bro. Good luck dancing with dysfunction.

[Timmy]

an ESFP.

It's a strange feeling actually... like I feel the natural attraction but the more I think about it the more I find myself questioning it. It creates a tension.

Tcaud, Mess around with as many ESE's you please, but for god sakes keep your hands off the SEE's. You know they're no good for you and I want them all for myself.

[rat1]

No one can keep a SEE to themselves. Even being with them won't stop them from flirting with the 20 other guy / girl friends they have. They're pure unbridled sexual energy

[Timmy]

No one can keep a SEE to themselves. Even being with them won't stop them from flirting with the 20 other guy / girl friends they have. They're pure unbridled sexual energy

This is true. I've experienced this first hand. I've also been the recipient of taken SEE's flirtations (they'll do this right in front of their significant others).

However, at the end of the day, most SEE's are not disloyal to their partners. It's not as though they go around rampantly cheating. They'll just get 20 or so other people infatuated with them and proceed to leave them all cold (and often they'll later feel bad about this).

There are two relevant take away points here:

First, if an SEE hits on you, keep up your emotional guard. There's a good chance it's not going anywhere.

Second, if your SEE is hitting on other people, chill out. You'll feel great when your SEE stays with you in spite of the fact that there are lots of other people wishing they could be with him/her.

[tcaudilllg]

No one can keep a SEE to themselves. Even being with them won't stop them from flirting with the 20 other guy / girl friends they have. They're pure unbridled sexual energy

This. The only thing (most) of them value is personal freedom.

[Timmy]

This. The only thing (most) of them value is personal freedom.

I call bullshit Tcaud. Stop contributing misinformation about my duals. This is why you need to stay away from SEE's you unappreciative bastard you. That you weren't good enough for your ESFp friend doesn't give you a right to knock ESFp's as a group.

[tcaudilllg]

Well they value freedom for others, too, and justice, fairness, equity. Rights and equality.

You are taking duality way too seriously.

[Timmy]

Well they value freedom for others, too, and justice, fairness, equity. Rights and equality.

You are taking duality way too seriously.

haha, hey man I was just ruffling you feathers. I do love my SEE's though.

[tcaudilllg]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachm...ant_attachment

I'm definitely the clingy type. Not something I'm proud of, but when I sense "something" between myself and someone else, I immediately start having visions of a wonderful life, kids, yadda yadda. Increasingly more so because I'm 29 and the clock is definitely ticking.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Is this somebody you know well enough? How long have you known her? Is it in real life or is it an online crush?

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Tcaud it's okay that you have a serious and even clingy personality but I think sometimes you just need to lighten up. Don't worry, love will find you, but you can't really take it too hard in your heart. =)

I don't really condone Ashton picking on you so much but JESUS CHRIST you're a dork, tcaud. lol. It's okay I love you for it. <3 That means you're one of the good guys.

[Creepy-male]

I'm definitely the clingy type. Not something I'm proud of, but when I sense "something" between myself and someone else, I immediately start having visions of a wonderful life, kids, yadda yadda. Increasingly more so because I'm 29 and the clock is definitely ticking.

Not that it's hugely constructive, but that kind of thing instantly makes other people back off. Rick had a good point where you don't really want to make huge leaps and bounds beyond whatever the other person does.

[Kalinoche buenanoche]

It didn't work out. She moved away and it's just no conversation on FB. We have no common interests. She's totally a people person, always involving herself in personal life going-ons.

Too much of a people person. Way too much.

maybe she stumbled upon your OKCupid account

"You should message me if
you have a deep desire to have sex with me and to raise a child with me"

:'D

[tcaudilllg]

That was half-sarcasm, half-hope. lol

[tcaudilllg]

OK now courting an LIE friend. She's kinda stand-offish, very selective about who comes around her kids. She's gradually relaxing her guard... it's a process that happens over days and weeks, not hours and days. One thing about it is this subconscious tension I'm feeling... I can't shake it. Like I'm straining myself by being nice to her. I asked her what I could do to help her out, and now she's asking for money. Very cute though, with a lot of ambition: she wants to become a forensic scientist.

[Beautiful sky]

That was half-sarcasm, half-hope. lol

It sends the right signals; use more jokes (you'll attract duals that way). Don't use Fi.

[Crispy]

forensic scientist

Bad news. Now you can't get away with anything!