I am in a church group for young people and there is one person (let's call him B) that I find really annoying.
B is a 22 years old male. B was born in China and moved to Canada at a rather young age (probably before he turned 7 years old).
B insults people in his jokes: one of his friend (Most likely ESFj.. less likely ESFp) took a long time in calculating restaurant tips because he took a while to use his new phone's calculator. B then started saying that the person calculating the tip "should go back to school and take some math" to everyone around him. He repeated it about 15 times without people responding to him. B does make it sound like an assertive statement and that he isn't frowning.
B is loud when talking.
B is pushy: When I missed two weeks of that church group, he say to me: "you should come every week" in a commanding tone but he's also smiling. I find it very confusing and also frustrating to hear this because it puts guilt in me.
He is possibly manipulative. He wanted to buy my NDS lite. He says "I'll buy it for 45, that's the price right now." I am suspecting that's not the correct price and that he's low balling. He make it sound very sure.
I was driving, and he was sitting in the car. At one point, I wasn't sure where I was going because someone suggested a business's name without telling me where it is. He said in a very sure tone while I was driving giving me direction: "Take a left here and to go on this side street. Then u-turn back on the major street. Take the road here and then you'll hit X street and it'll take you there." While I was executing the u-turn menuavor, I asked where is the location. When I understood the location I got pretty pissed because:
1) it's a route that has more traffic light.
2) It's a route that is further away.
3) I know there is a better route. - I hate people who pretend they know something when they don't
4) He sounds like he is so sure in his tone of voice and I felt I was fooled.
It took a few seconds for me to reassees and orientate myself and then go on my own route.
It was pretty obvious that I was pissed at him. He then started addressing me with Chinese honorific for an elder male friend. He has never done that before. I am also older than him.
I am hoping people can help shed light on what type this person is or whatever it is simply not type related. Pretty sure he's a T type. Perhaps it is just poor social skill? I'll also take tactics on dealing with him. I know I need to be more assertive..
Thank you so much.