Dad= Beneficiary
Mom=Supervisee...
I've felt like an adult since I was 8 or 9, and in many ways raised myself.
Its always been easier to ignore my Dad's behavior since I don't live with him. have had serious troubles with my mom in the past though. I respect her immensely, she has dealt with a ridiculous life, but my idea of respect never lined up with hers. She always looked for blind acceptance of her rule as law, while I saw her rule as baseless unfounded exercises of authority unless proven otherwise.
The most complex part of my supervising her? She would always(and still does) think I am lying
all of the time, because it would be difficult for her to concede that I might be speaking honestly and that she simply doesn't grasp
. My actions and decisions reflect a ridiculous number of variables( I'm obviously not unique in this lol), but because they are
based, she thinks my rationale is absurd and created after-the-fact every time. It really undermined her sense of control, which made her more resolute in her
enforcement until I decided that I wouldn't live at home anymore one summer during high school.
Things are better now that a few years have passed since we shared a roof, but asymmetry in the opposite direction of the parental relationship is an odd time.