From Schema therapy, devised by Jeffrey Young. The idea goes that "schemas are formed as a result of the interplay between a child's temperament and the difficulties she confronts in her environment."
"Schemas may be dormant for much of one's life, only becoming activated by particular conditions that either mimic or challenge the unyielding believs embodied in the schema. ... They are often connected with painful childhood memories, discreetly sheltered within the brain, and e xperienced as visceral, in that they are sensed. ... Because they emerge outside of awareness sand therefore aren't based on present, here-and-now events, the profound and often exaggerated resonance of the schema will frequently lead to self-defeating behavior patterns.
Here they are, the first nine of eighteen total early maladaptive schemas:
The perceived instability or unreliability of those available for support or connection. Involves the sense that significant others will not be able to continue providing emotional support, connection, strength, or practical protection because they are emotionally unstable and unpredictable (for example, angry outbursts), unreliable, or erratically present; because they will die imminently; or because they will abandon you in favor of someone better.
The expectation that others will hurt, abuse, humiliate, cheat, lie, manipulate, or take advantage. Usually involves the perception that the harm is intentional or the result of unjustified and extreme negligence. May include the sense that you always end up being cheated relative to others or that you are "getting the short end of the stick."
3. Emotional Deprivation
The expectation that others will not adequately meet your desire for a normal degree of emotional support. There are three major forms of deprivation:
A. Deprivation of nurturance: absence of attention, affection, warmth, or companionship
B. Deprivation of empathy: absence of understanding, listening, self-disclosure, or mutual sharing of feelings from others
C. Deprivation of protection: absence of strength, direction, or guidance from others
The feeling that you are defective, bad, unwanted, inferior, or invalid in important respects; or that you would be unlovable to significant others if exposed. May involve hypersensitivity to criticism, rejection, and blame; self-consciousness, comparisons, and insecurity around others; or a sense of shame regarding your perceived flaws. These flaws may be private (for example, selfishness, angry impulses, or unacceptable sexual desires) or public (such as undesirable physical appearance or social awkwardness).
5. Social Isolation/Alienation
The feeling that you are isolated from the rest of the world, different from other people, and/or not part of any group or community.
Belief that you are unable to handle everyday responsibilities in a competent manner without considerable help from others (for example, take care of yourself, solve daily problems, exercise good judgment, tackle new tasks, or make good decisions). Often feels like helplessness.
7. Vulnerability to Harm or Illness
Exaggerated fear that imminent catastrophe will strike at any time and that you will be unable to prevent it. Fears focus on one or more of the following: medical catastrophes, such as heart attacks or AIDS; emotional catastrophes, such as "going crazy"; external catastrophes, such as elevators collapsing, being victimized by criminals, airplane crashes, or earthquakes.
8. Enmeshment/Undeveloped Self
Excessive emotional involvement and closeness with one or more significant others (often parents), at the expense of your individual identify or normal social development. Often involves the belief that you cannot survive or be happy without the constant support of the enmeshed other. May also include feelings of being smothered by or fused with others. You may feel a lack of sufficient individual identity. Often experienced as a feeling of emptiness and floundering, having no direction, or in extreme cases questioning your existence.
The belief that you have failed, will inevitably fail, or are fundamentally in adequate relative to your peers in areas of achievement (such as school, career, sports). Often involves beliefs that you are stupid, inept, untalented, ignorant, lower in status, less successful than others, and so on.
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I'll type in the other nine later.