Results 1 to 15 of 15

Thread: how do you feel after interacting with your benefactor?

  1. #1
    lump's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    TIM
    Fi/Te 641 sp/sx
    Posts
    12,628
    Mentioned
    635 Post(s)
    Tagged
    3 Thread(s)

    Default how do you feel after interacting with your benefactor?

    ?

  2. #2
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    They are a feeling of warmth to me.

  3. #3
    "Information without energy is useless" Nowisthetime's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    near Russia
    TIM
    SEI
    Posts
    1,025
    Mentioned
    6 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    I feel like I need a break from them. But I am attracted to them somehow.

  4. #4
    Creepy-Snaps

    Default

    I can't win. No matter how hard I try.

    But afterward, after getting away from them, and thinking about what they said, I find it quite helpful.

  5. #5
    not gonna be around as much anymore
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    TIM
    C-IEE
    Posts
    1,258
    Mentioned
    3 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.

    Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).

    Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...

    But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!
    My life's work (haha):
    http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/blog.php?b=709
    Input, PLEASEAnd thank you

  6. #6
    Breaking stereotypes Suz's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    On a chatbox diet
    TIM
    IDK
    Posts
    6,470
    Mentioned
    169 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by pianosinger View Post
    My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.

    Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).

    Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...

    But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!
    OMG... THAT'S MY MOM!!! She's not great about keeping the house spotless though. She's a bit of a packrat. She'll get upset though when the place is a mess and make everyone else clean up.
    Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx

  7. #7
    Creepy-Snaps

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    OMG... THAT'S MY MOM!!! She's not great about keeping the house spotless though. She's a bit of a packrat. She'll get upset though when the place is a mess and make everyone else clean up.
    Not all "super moms" are ESFjs.

    Quote Originally Posted by pianosinger View Post
    My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.

    Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).

    Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...

    But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!
    And we don't need this to turn into a thread describing what your Benefactor does. You can start another thread for personal experience with types, this thread is simply how you feel. Your last 2 sentences would have been enough:

    Quote Originally Posted by pianosinger View Post
    But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!
    Sorry to 'police' the forum like this, but I feel just describing ESFjs was way off topic. And I'm just curious too, how people feel after the interaction.

  8. #8
    not a bumblebee octo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    TIM
    IEI 4-6-9 apparently
    Posts
    2,744
    Mentioned
    30 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)

    Default

    I feel like they're really lovely and poised people, and I'd like to hang around them and maybe acquire some of that. But when I hang around them too much I'm constantly on guard to not do anything to make them think badly of me, it's like I'm being judged and slipping up is only a matter of time.

    Maybe it's just ESIs
    Quote Originally Posted by Agee The Great View Post
    Nobody here...besides me, seems to know what SLE is except for maybe Maritsa.

  9. #9
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    I can't win. No matter how hard I try.

    But afterward, after getting away from them, and thinking about what they said, I find it quite helpful.
    Notice how I wrote my post MD?

    "They are a feeling of warmth to me."

    This conveys the object in relation to me..Which is Fi.
    Last edited by Beautiful sky; 03-09-2011 at 04:26 PM.

  10. #10
    Creepy-Snaps

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    Notice how I wrote my post WD?

    "They are a feeling of warmth to me."

    This conveys the object in relation to me..Which is Fi.
    It's MD, not WD.

    And yes... I stopped arguing your type a while ago. I do believe you're INFj. And that we're conflictors. Why would you derail this thread, by changing the topic to what type you are?

  11. #11
    Haikus Beautiful sky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    EII land
    TIM
    EII INFj
    Posts
    22,740
    Mentioned
    531 Post(s)
    Tagged
    6 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Mountain Dew View Post
    It's MD, not WD.

    And yes... I stopped arguing your type a while ago. I do believe you're INFj. And that we're conflictors. Why would you derail this thread, by changing the topic to what type you are?
    It was an informative lesson.

  12. #12
    Creepy-Snaps

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    It was an informative lesson.
    Well thank you for the informative lesson which I didn't need.

  13. #13
    aka Slacker Slacker's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2005
    Location
    North Korea
    TIM
    IEE
    Posts
    8,819
    Mentioned
    24 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Love ESEs. I have lots of ESE friends, and they make me feel energized and happy.

    I would say this might be different based on the specific benefactor pair.
    It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.
    -Mark Twain


    You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.

  14. #14
    Don't forget the the thehotelambush's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    TIM
    LII
    Posts
    6,628
    Mentioned
    159 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by siuntal View Post
    I generally feel good hanging out with them, although they tend to annoy me also. I feel like the are a bit self-involved, they are living in their own world and I'm kind of outside of that world on the fringes somewhere.
    Whoa, that's a really good description. It's like they'll call upon you when they need you, but otherwise you're just kind of hanging out.

  15. #15
    aka Slacker Slacker's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2005
    Location
    North Korea
    TIM
    IEE
    Posts
    8,819
    Mentioned
    24 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Oh, I thought of one negative feeling I sometimes get from ESEs. Sometimes it feels like they don't take me very seriously. It takes a long time to prove that I know what I'm talking about. Once I've proven myself, things are ok, but until they know me pretty well, they don't take me seriously and dismiss what I say pretty easily.
    It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.
    -Mark Twain


    You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •