This is why soconics is fascinating to me:
The best types for you are not necessarily those in your own quadra, but if ip-ep/ij-ej energy lines up. That is the most important thing.
One of those is in your own quadra. Your dual. But the others are in a different quadra. For example the four best types for me on an intimate level are:
ESTp. ESFp. ENTp. ENFp.
(In that order)
THAT'S WHY DOLPHIN AND I GET ALONG SO WELL AND FEEL SO ENERGIZED BY EACH OTHER. SHE'S JUST ONE TYPE AWAY FROM BEING MY DUAL. AND SHE ISN'T EVEN IN MY QUADRA! IT'S AMAZING. Most people have that as Identical, but they are actually wrong. Clearly, we get along better than I do with Starfall, Silverchris, Nick, Rat, Glam and all the other IEIs on the forum. Why is that? Is it because our types are somehow wrong? NO. It's because this is the real way intertype relationships work!
One of those types is in my quadra, Beta. The other one is in Gamma. One is in alpha and the other is in friggin DELTA. That's right. The fourth best type for me is in FUCKING DELTA. That's why I really enjoy Galen's posts, and Slacker Moms and the ENFps on the forum. We actually get along better than I get along with my IDENTICAL. It's TRUE!!! It's also why Golden is probably an ENFp who thinks she's an INFp.
The 2nd best types are the equal IP energy types.
INFp. ISFp. INTp. ISTp.
5th best type for me is another INFp, then ISFp, then INTp and then ISTp comes in 8th place. Notice how before, a gamma was in 2nd place but now an alpha is in 2nd place. Delta is still last, because it's conflicting quadra.
Now we have the IP-IJ energy....
ISTj. INTj. ISFj. INFj.
In 9th place is ISTj. That's how me and Discojoe interact, even though we are in the same quadra. All in all it's just really average, stuck in the middle.
Now 10th is INTj. 11th is ISFj and 12th you have INFj. Now this is where I start getting into shitty power struggles with people, like the fight I got with Subt. Even though an ENFp is my 4th best intertype relationship!!!
And finally, the IP-EJ energy. The shittiest of the shittiest on an intimate level:
ENFj. ESFj. ENTj. ESTj
In 13th place is ENFj. That's right folks, your MIRROR is one of the worst types for you in a pure, intimate way. In 14th place ESFj. In 15 place ENTj, in 16th place ESTj.
Even though some of those relationships are asymmetrical, it doesn't matter, because eventually if the love/affection isn't returned/requited, you're going to feel the same way about people that they feel about you. Or it's going to be confusing. Either way, relationships have to be equal so the supervisor/supervisee asymmetrical thing isn't really as potent as people make it out to be.
I know people are bound to argue/disagree fight with me here, but I swear it's true. This is the real energy exchange you have with people. I actually have more of a likeable energy with Galen then I do with all the other INFps on this forum. Other INFps aren't exactly a shitty type, they are the 5th best type for me, but somebody in the Delta quadra beats them by one point!
This is why socionics is fascinating and why your relationships with others are so complicated and can't be pretty bowed. But it's all true and it makes sense.
I know the socionics.com site lists Identity as the 2nd best, then like activity as 3rd best and mirror as 4th but it's actually wrong.