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    Default Should I hold out (romantic) hope for this Dual?

    I met a dual a few months ago (I'm an IEI, she's an SLE). We were both physically attracted to each other at first. We hung out a few times and I felt really drawn towards. When I admitted I was interested, she asked if it was okay if we were just friends now, and seemed to lose romantic interested. However, she seems really interested in continuing to be friends and contacts me to get together for dinner or just say hello. If we go through long periods without talking, she will eventually reach out to me.

    Should I hold out hope that our duality will magically make her romantically interested again if we remain friends, or should I just move on in search of other romantic partners?

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    Both, except the holding out part.
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    I'd say do what you want to do, but don't hope or expect that something will happen. If you want to wait to see if she comes around, do it without expecting that she will change her mind. I personally think that it would be a good idea to just move on at this point, based on what you've said so far.

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    Respect yourself. You've made your claim, now it's up to her to make hers.

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    I've learned an important lesson with romance.

    Never bet on 1 horse.

    And you know why?

    The other person doesn't bet on 1 horse either '-)

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    Don't do it. It's a trap.

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    Idk, in my opinion I don't think she's really turned you down. For all you know she could be simply too busy for a relationship right now. . . if she hasn't said "no, I'm not interested" then she probably is to a varying degree.

    I'd say wait it out and see what happens, but keep your eyes opened for someone else, and if you find someone better don't hesitate to change your mind.

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    Feel free to go out with other people. She might still get interested, but that doesnt' mean you have to wait for her.

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    No. Go out and have fun, find other mature and ready to have whatever you want duals.

    *There are two of this same thread by the way.

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    You should grow some ball and go all out. Show up to her house and just grab her by the ears and kiss her. Then tell her that you love her and want to be with her.

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