Duals are meant to deal with opposite spheres of the world, right? SEEs hang out in clubs while ILIs stay at home and read/WoW, ILEs chase butterflies in jungles while SEIs cook and take long baths... and that's great, because they're in their natural environments and deal with stuff that the other person finds important but can't do themselves. Hurray, socionics!
So what happens when you have a dual, and you want to hang out all the time because your functions rub up against each other just so, but their natural environment is the opposite of your comfort zone (your "discomfort zone"? )?
How does this play out in real life? Do you
a) Hang out in one person's happy place, then hang out in the other person's happy place, tolerating discomfort for the sake of the other person
b) Slowly teach your dual to enjoy your happy place, introducing it to them from your base function's perspective until they love it
c) Slowly teach your dual to enjoy your happy place, and they'll do it to make you happy for a bit, and sometimes do that stuff for amusement, but they always end up leaving early to go back to their own happy place
d) Slowly teach your dual to enjoy your happy place, showing them how their ego functions are important there too, and helping them carve out a niche there
e) Something else?
Theories, anecdotes, suggestions - I want them all