I think I'm an sp/so

[pianosinger]

Definitely dominant sp. so seems slightly more likely than sx, based on descriptions...is there an easy way to conclude one way or the other?

[Creepy-male]

http://theenneagram.blogspot.com/200...stackings.html

These descriptions of the stackings are the most concrete, I think.

I got sx/sp because someone rather close to me sagely observed that I am rather troubled and brooding and blah di blah (seriously, is there a way of saying that that doesn't sound ridiculous? :/)

[munenori2]

join the club

[pianosinger]

Thanks, TA...that link did help. I think I was right about sp/so...though, I can't stand Raymond...

[Suz]

Thanks, TA...that link did help. I think I was right about sp/so...though, I can't stand Raymond...

I hate that show too...

[pianosinger]

I hate that show too...

Yeah, I watched two whole seasons and kept thinking it might get better...no. I think the only reason I watched so much was because I kind of liked Ray's brother...but the rest of them? crazies. Deborah was okay, too, but...why the heck does she not walk out on that guy?

[Galen]

http://theenneagram.blogspot.com/200...stackings.html

These descriptions of the stackings are the most concrete, I think.

I got sx/sp because someone rather close to me sagely observed that I am rather troubled and brooding and blah di blah (seriously, is there a way of saying that that doesn't sound ridiculous? :/)

I wouldn't call you "brooding" in any sense of the word, haha. You don't fit the sx/sp description on there at all from what I can tell: you seem much more, uhm, "pleasant" on a regular basis. Like you've never come off as particularly troubled or self-absorbed as sx/sps are prone to presenting themselves.


But yeah, that description makes sx/sps seem like they're in a constant state of depression

I hate that show too...

oh my god I thought I was the only one who hated that show.


"This is our long-since-established relationship."

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

"I'm going to do something fairly predictable that's completely in my character to do."

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[KazeCraven]

Definitely dominant sp. so seems slightly more likely than sx, based on descriptions...is there an easy way to conclude one way or the other?

To try another perspective, perhaps your sx and so instincts are about equal.

Another idea is to consider which area you value and think about the least.

[pianosinger]

Another idea is to consider which area you value and think about the least.

Do you mean those two things to both be applied to the same instinct, or each to a separate instinct?

Anyway. The reason I'm kinda thinking that sx is probably the least important to me, is that I really don't feel all that dependent on other people to be happy. I mean, I love my family and they do make me happy. But, I always imagined I could have ended up living single on my own my whole life and still been pretty happy.

[KazeCraven]

Do you mean those two things to both be applied to the same instinct, or each to a separate instinct?

Anyway. The reason I'm kinda thinking that sx is probably the least important to me, is that I really don't feel all that dependent on other people to be happy. I mean, I love my family and they do make me happy. But, I always imagined I could have ended up living single on my own my whole life and still been pretty happy.

I mean see if they both fall to one instinct. I never did come to a conclusion about my own instinctual stacking, nor do I care to, but I did realize I was focusing a great deal on the social arena despite valuing it hardly at all.

I think the sexual instinct makes you more focused on intimacy, not necessarily needing people to be happy. FWIW, I think what you've said is unrelated to instincts because instincts are more about how you move to secure your survival. What do you turn to, social(status)? Sexual(intimacy)? Self?

I say this because there are discussions of people having a push-pull with others, some getting involved quick but wanting out, some wanting to know that they are connected but not needing to have social interaction, some needing frequent engagement but not really connection, etc.

[Creepy-male]

I wouldn't call you "brooding" in any sense of the word, haha. You don't fit the sx/sp description on there at all from what I can tell: you seem much more, uhm, "pleasant" on a regular basis. Like you've never come off as particularly troubled or self-absorbed as sx/sps are prone to presenting themselves.

That means the diversionary tactics are working

I suppose it is about external presentation though. I suppose in that case I'd be so/sx.

[Galen]

That means the diversionary tactics are working

I suppose it is about external presentation though. I suppose in that case I'd be so/sx.

Hmm, I could believe so/sx for you.

I mean that's not to say that so/sx people can't be brooding or depressed or whatever. It's just that it's not their average state of being, or they don't really self-indulge in those feelings as much. It's like even if they are depressed, they'll sorta push that part of them aside and try to live outside of themselves. Conversely, when sx/sps are depressed or whatever, odds are that you'll know, lol.

[Creepy-male]

Oh Socrates

I suppose I'm probably more "broody" than "brooding". I do spend a lot of time thinking and being unhappy. Thing is though, trying to get people to connect to that has typically been an exercise in relationship sabotage. You'd never pick it looking at me though, right?

At the end of the day though sx-first fits me like a glove. I might consider sp/sx, but that would be a pretty big stretch.

[Absurd]

I do spend a lot of time thinking and being unhappy.

Oh my, I hope your son is alright.

Thing is though, trying to get people to connect to that has typically been an exercise in relationship sabotage. You'd never pick it looking at me though, right?

What level are they connecting on when you manage to connect them ?

[Creepy-male]

What level are they connecting on when you manage to connect them ?

The level where I can let the pretenses go and be myself. Part of me will always hold back even with my best friends because people just don't want to hear about me being miserable. Nobody loves the sad guy, so ya just can't show your colours when you are him.

When did this thread become about me Sorry PS!

[pianosinger]

When did this thread become about me Sorry PS!

'sallright.

[Galen]

When did this thread become about me

Ever since you brought yourself up

!


But yeah sp last seems good for you. Even in sx/sps there's some element of self-containment that comes with sp second, which I don't get at all from you. Kinda leaning sx/so atm.