The relationship of social control

ID Vaysband Working Paper on Socionics

One of the most dangerous types of relationships. People regularly come to each other in the most diseased regions. Both suffer from social control - audited (controlled) are suffering from the controller. himself to "get it" can not. But the controller is not very good. Controlled by its annoying. controlled feel extremely uncomfortable, the controller seems to be petty meticulous, and just as those issues on which he would not want to draw attention of others.

OB Slinko "The key to my heart - Socionics"

Much more tightly are the relations of social control, or audit. The meaning of these relations, apparently, is to control the execution of social order. If you pass sotszakaz certain type of personality, then you revizuete his Douala. Lead Auditor's function coincides with the function of pain podreviznogo. However, in contrast to the relations of conflict, this situation is not symmetric. Auditor can monitor every step of the partner podrevizny as powerless to resist this influence: his strong features "drown" in the appropriate function of an auditor. Podrevizny trying to "fight" with a partner: put on the deliberate crudeness, gives the auditor assignments may even use physical methods of influence. We can say that delivers podrevizny Auditor certain chores, but the effect in the opposite direction just devastating. Close and prolonged contact with the auditor, for example, in a family can have very serious consequences for podreviznogo. Perhaps even the development of mental illness. In more favorable cases, namely when the communication in the audit of the pair is short and to the persistence of a distance, or if the auditor knowingly "disables" its leading function, it may seem podreviznomu person significant and worthy of respect, while at the same time, the inspector afraid . Podrevizny also seems endowed with great talent, talented, but also somehow deficient and "pathetic." That is the point of view of an auditor.

RK Graying "Information psychoanalysis"

These IV, we investigate how a combination of quasi-and mirror. By the way, here again we are dealing with a change order of functions within a block, compared with just described IW. This makes the relationship much more stringent.

C / O-audit

Ego - Ego Superego plus. Although a provision stating that the better-developed partners, the better it can be and their relationship remains valid for these IW, they're even in ideal cases heavy for long, especially in the absence of duals of both the joint contact. Especially in the absence of duals of both participants interaction. The reason is clear: partners look from the perspective of each other too critical, picky and suspicious. Indeed, in these BPI has a tendency to constantly test and retest each other. People forced to live together, often totally worn out these checks. Terminate this unpleasant process is sometimes difficult even to Douala. But it is necessary to increase the distance, and the partners no longer call each other informed and unfounded suspicions. Subject to this condition, IW audit is not much inferior to polutozhdestvu. Often it is quite fascinating, so unexpected train of thought can show partner. Interaction blocks SuperId - SuperId plus Eid has its own problems. Despite the sincere efforts of the participants of interaction to help each other and to the usefulness of their assistance, if adopted, make it rare for the reasons of the same distrust. These IW little suited to marriage. Collaboration can be interesting, but goes much easier if duals partners and the opportunity to rest from each other.

Lyme Stankevichyute "Intertype relationship"

This relationship, in which people are most vulnerable and unable to defend themselves from it. Controller, speaking from his first element, constantly gets into the third element of the controlled. Comptroller says the most offensive to the controlled words, but do not think that he himself in this relationship is good. Controlled annoying controller, and constantly and unconsciously. But since this asymmetric relationship, although they both bad and restless, have controlled much worse, he suffers more.

AV Boukalov, G. Boiko, "Why Saddam Xuseyn wrong, or what is Socionics"

This is also asymmetrical relationship is very deceptive and dangerous. One partner is a social supervisor (inspector) for the other - under control (podreviznogo). These relations are characterized by the fact that the auditor, as a rule, always dissatisfied with the podreviznogo. LN Tolstoy ("Napoleon") and FM Dostoevsky ("Dost") did not even want to get acquainted, and Anna Akhmatova ("Zhukov") did not like AP Chekhov ("Robespierre"). In the latter case, the lack of love is very often. One may recall, for example, criticism of Vladimir Lenin (Zhukov) Machism (Mach - "Robespierre"). It is worth-controlled show some initiative, to express a thought or something to do, as it immediately bombarded with accusations Comptroller: Is it possible? At the same time can not be controlled sharply to parry charges - controller suppresses it. For its part, sees podrevizny Auditor as petty, picky, annoying person who for some reason all the time outraged. Podreviznomu all tired, he wants to leave. On the other hand, podrevizny thinks that the auditor generally good people, and its quirks can be endured. However, he is profoundly mistaken: such suppression, the auditor can not podreviznomu more intelligence than intelligence himself, Auditor, leads to permanent negative effects on the psyche podreviznogo, the attacks on her. As a result, podreviznogo can develop a variety of neuroses and psychosomatic disorders. Very often arbitrary "treatment to the disease - the human body itself finds a way: when you are sick - you do not criticize. There are cases when podrevizny ill, such as asthma. At the same time, although the auditor and criticizes the partner, he feels some pity for him, believing that podrevizny without him disappear. These relationships are dangerous by the fact that they, unlike the conflict, it is very hard to break. But they act on the person sometimes fatal.

VV Gulenko "Tests of reciprocity"

Pryamaya revision - fear of disorientation

Communication involves the fact that gives you a sense of value, based on a certain superiority over the partner. When unjustified actions or statements on his part you involuntarily repress you seem unacceptable deviation from the goal. However, the fear that the partner will be offended, so try to restrain myself. There is a desire to help his ward to take care of him. If your partner will understand that your actions are not caused by personal hostility, and fear of disorientation, then change its behavior in your desired direction. If not, then the relationship may end up breaking.
Contact Audit - a disorienting intervention

Partner is very appealing to their way of thinking and style of behavior. From it comes a whole interesting and valuable information for you, but it seems that you are incomplete and requires clarification. When trying to make partner, their comments usually ties up the dispute, which resulted in your criticism, though not immediately, largely ignored them. If the partner is trying to shamelessly impose you their opinion, the relationship may end break. If the relationship is still established, the habit of the partner to contact you for advice on those matters in which you have demonstrated your competence.

Binary attributes intertype relationships

Allows you to set the balance only at limiting the influence of the outside world. It was then achieved by an educational effect - the impact on the internal auditor audited the world to change it. Intervention by making these relations simply intolerable.

And the auditor, and audited in a well-functioning audit pair do not make sudden, Rushan mutually agreed actions. The opposite behavior would be very destructive, as would have led to mutual distrust. Reviznye relationships involve joint discussion of controversial issues, or accumulate pounded into the problem. When the problem is felt, but is ignored - this is the first sign of a future outbreak of emotion.

Strengthens the logical direction of thinking for the audit or minus: podrevizny seeks to control the logic of behavior Auditor. All illogic does not pass the attention of the party in the classical Socionics is suppressed. In fact, it podreviznomu want to expose inconsistencies in the audit, to identify errors in his reasoning.

The audit-plus - the ratio of the hidden, internal feelings. Despite the negative assessment of behaviors partner Auditor forgiving his podreviznomu, hoping to eventually "re-educate" him. Rebuffed action podreviznogo given only when he completely loses consciousness and behaved casually - includes reverse audit. Inspector General has for podreviznomu pity and sympathy. It is overwhelming, it encourages in its audited weak feature, but without the sound system.

Sensory intensifies attentiveness and thoroughness for the audit-minus. Podrevizny draws attention to the details in the behavior of a partner, controls almost every step - collect accurate information about it. Finding under revision discipline the person, but at the same time and narrows his horizon.

The audit-plus is also an intuitive relationship. Auditor not able to control the behavior of the audited on a particular situation. He works for a long time on the inner world of his ward, changing its system of common beliefs and living habits. The audit is felt on a psychological rather than physical level. Her educational effect - positive or negative - is realized only over time.

Rreviziya (plus or minus) is a process of painful leaps from one stable state to another. Inspector General audited constantly imposes the same values and behaviors, and the latter as stubbornly resists, and ways to counter the auditor (reverse audit) remain virtually unchanged - guesswork in his judgments and actions. Relationships require partners maximum tolerance and humanity.

Inspector General, acting on audited, changes his inner world in its image. And audited, high (albeit critically) evaluating auditor seeks to attain the same inner qualities, like him. In the process of peer review partners hone an acceptable pattern of behavior. Tensions audit culminates, hesitating for a while up and down, and then markedly diminished, indicating that relations have entered the final phase - completed their educational and managerial mission and lost energy saturation.

VV Gulenko, AV Gars "Introduction to socionics"

This second type of asymmetric relations in socion. Auditor as it constantly monitors podreviznym, drawing attention to its weak spot. Impression that the auditor wants to constantly figure out what to do podrevizny. In podreviznogo often get the impression that for him all the time watching as a guinea pig. However, this does not mean that the auditor must verbally indicate podreviznomu its shortcomings. Podrevizny internally feels that the auditor can do so at any time and, therefore, initially located in front of him in a certain voltage, the Auditor man seems significant, but the way he acts, deserves attention. Recognition of the auditor wants to earn his praise is very much appreciated.

However, the auditor always underestimates podreviznogo, thoughts and actions that seem insignificant to him that can not but cause resentment podreviznogo. At first, it even encourages, wants to prove to the auditor its usefulness, but all attempts are unsuccessful. Auditor seems smug and petty, he finds fault with, is trying to teach and re-educate. Podrevizny seems interesting and capable, but he was something missing. He needs help, suggest, but all tips are useless. Podrevizny they do not perceive, than further increases his desire to re-audit. Podrevizny seems stupid, but not because they can not (actually it is), but because it simply does not want. This causes irritation of the Auditor periodically. The audit may be named with regard to guardianship over podreviznym Auditor, which can be very annoying for the second. Sensing his vulnerability, podrevizny on people inclined to make attempts to get out of this care: it touches the auditor to argue with him, trying to give him orders. However, such attempts usually does not end there. Auditor, as a rule, not offense at podreviznogo, and continues on his "nurture". These relationships are well illustrated by the analogy of the mother-naughty child. "

Reviznaya couple is sometimes very knit. The whole point is that it both feel their social significance: the auditor as trustee, benefactor, without whose care and guidance podrevizny lost and podrevizny - as an object of care, whose value is recognized in this way. In the relations of social order is the feeling expressed is much less because the customer does not attempt to rehabilitate his successor.

Gulenko

This second type of asymmetric relations in socion. Auditor as it constantly monitors podreviznym, drawing attention to its weak spot. Impression that the auditor wants to constantly figure out what to do podrevizny. In podreviznogo often get the impression that for him all the time watching as a guinea pig. However, this does not mean that the auditor must verbally indicate podreviznomu its shortcomings. Podrevizny internally feels that the auditor can do so at any time and, therefore, initially located in front of him in a certain voltage, the Auditor man seems significant, but the way he acts, deserves attention. Recognition of the auditor wants to earn his praise is very much appreciated. However, the auditor always underestimates podreviznogo, thoughts and actions that seem insignificant to him that can not but cause resentment podreviznogo. At first, it even encourages, wants to prove to the auditor its usefulness, but all attempts are unsuccessful. Auditor seems smug and petty, he finds fault with, is trying to teach and re-educate.

Podrevizny seems interesting and capable, but he was something missing. He needs help, suggest, but all tips are useless. Podrevizny they do not perceive, than further increases his desire to re-audit. Podrevizny seems stupid, but not because they can not (actually it is), but because it simply does not want. This causes irritation of the Auditor periodically. The audit may be named with regard to guardianship over podreviznym Auditor, which can be very annoying for the second. Sensing his vulnerability, podrevizny on people inclined to make attempts to get out of this care: it touches the auditor to argue with him, trying to give him orders. However, such attempts usually does not end there. Auditor, as a rule, not offense at podreviznogo. and continues on his "nurture". These relationships are well illustrated by the analogy of the mother-naughty child. " Reviznaya couple is sometimes very knit. The whole point is that it both feel their social significance: the auditor as trustee, benefactor, without whose care and guidance podrevizny lost and podrevizny - as an object of care, whose value is recognized in this way. In the relations of social order is the feeling expressed is much less because the customer does not attempt to rehabilitate his successor.

Valentine Meged, Anatoly Ovcharov

This is one of the most difficult types of relationships in which equality is usually no. First, more suffering audited (controlled) of obstinacy and intransigence Auditor (Comptroller), self-righteous. He feels that the partner is dissatisfied with them and seeks to rehabilitate him, imposing their own values. In response, another begins to monitor each slip Auditor, proving to him that he also nebezgreshen. Mutual claims and the uncompromising attitude can destroy a relationship.

At best, the partners appreciate the ability of another to solve a difficult problem for him. In these respects, there is an understanding as long as the auditor (Comptroller) did not show an excessive adherence to principle than hurt hurts audited (controlled). Then he starts to avoid communication with the auditor, or starts to respond to pick on him. Auditor with a partner seems slow-witted, or deliberately avoid their responsibilities. There is a desire to help audited, to teach something. However, the partner does not accept advice and audit requirements, thereby causing confusion and even anger of the latter. Showdown could escalate into conflict. In this case, mutual grievances and complaints seem to be another unfounded, and the disadvantages - exaggerated.

If the auditor ceases to re-audited and showed a tendency to compromise, and the audited will not delve into the shortcomings of the External Auditor, this relationship can be challenging and fruitful. Only need to remember that sets the tone in the relationship Auditor, highlighting the role of partner led. The leader must be humane, but also the slave should not claim to be the leader to keep the relationship.

You can not underestimate the potential for the application of Socionics in personal life, and in other areas, such as in medicine. Unfortunately, many physicians remain a mystery why, despite the success of the operation or treatment, some patients for a long time can not heal. And this often happens because next to them in the House are the people with whom they communicate physically and morally depressing. Hopefully, that knowledge of the fundamentals of Socionics help a new generation in building a more harmonious relationship in a more harmonious society.

Wikipedia

Asymmetrical relationship in which the auditor is constantly, albeit unintentional, points podreviznomu on his weak spot, sometimes trying to "rehabilitate". In terms of model A software feature Auditor gets on nociceptive function podreviznogo (cause discomfort to podreviznogo), creative - on soft, role - on the creative, pain - on the role, suggestive - on an emphatic, activation - on the suggestive, the observation - for activation, demonstrative - on the lookout. Relationships inimical to the joint life and family relations (in something even more dangerous conflict, which are dangerous and cause mutual partners to maintain a distance), but the normal mode of existence is possible if the partners will not knowingly offend each other point of least resistance (a function of pain).

Ekaterina Filatova Art to understand themselves and others "

In this case, the functions of partners are positioned so that 1-I, the most powerful, feature one (called the Inspector) presses on the ANC another (called the audited). But, in turn, audited not have direct access to the weak function of the Auditor.

Feature of the relationship of this kind - in their asymmetry, in that auditor, not feeling the pressure on themselves, may be close to the audited at a dangerously close distance. Of course, it hardly made up my mind to it, if I was with him in regard to the conflict, where the danger - both ways.

All 16 types can be linked so that everyone someone Auditor and at the same time for someone else - audited. Obtained four "rings audit, four psycho in each:

Don Quixote -> Maxim -> Napoleon - "Dostoevsky -" Don Quixote;

Дюма -> Гамлет -> Бальзак -> Штирлиц -> Дюма;

Robespierre - "Huxley -" Dreiser - "Zhukov -" Robespierre;

Gyugo -> Gabin -> Jack -> Esenin -> Gyugo.

In principle, each person can speak on those issues on which he is the focus, especially if the terms of these issues is determined by its most powerful feature. People may express an interest or indifference - based on their curiosity. But suppose that close to this man was his audited ... And it turns out that any outwardly harmless remark, it is extremely sensitive, makes all too much to heart, because there is pressure on him vulnerable third channel.

Generally speaking, the closer the relationship, the more dangerous the situation audit. This is especially true for family relationships, where communication necessarily takes place at very close range. In the process of communication here, anyway, all the functions involved, so that the audit shall often quite severe. When it is impossible to avoid such communication is not excluded the possibility of mental illness (most often audited). The author is known only to a relatively prosperous family with a wife (he - Maxim, she - Napoleon), while the audit is nevertheless learned to get along with each other. Having studied socionics and realize the reasons for their conflicts, they organized their lives in such a way that may periodically "rest" from each other: husband found work and visiting about every three months left for long business trips. But even with such a life wife (audited) feels very heavy pressure of her husband, but the issue of divorce in this family is not discussed.

Eugene Gorenko, Vladimir Tolstikov, "Nature's own self"

Another version of the asymmetrical relationship. For podreviznogo they are very unpleasant character. Podrevizny reacts to the slightest movement of his eyebrow Auditor. At the same time, the auditor usually has no idea about such a strong effect of his behavior. For podreviznogo these relationships, perhaps even more painful than, for example, the relationship conflict.