Conflict relations--various authors (machine trans)
ID Vaysband Working Paper on Socionics
Konfliktery constantly get on each other's pet peeves, good for self-knowledge. Marry Douala - will be happy to marry konfliktere - will become a philosopher. Importantly - the psychological distance, emphasized courtesy and any attempt to pour out his heart! Of course, neither of which harmony in the family (eg, family) relationship there can be no question. But when these people communicate on a far distance, for example, are members of one club, they can be very fruitful to use the advice of one another and even to maintain long-term "remote" friendship, if treated with respect for each other. But, of course, when dealing at close range conflict is inevitable.
OB Slinko "The key to my heart - Socionics"
Require special care relationships that are called: conflict. Leading the function of your conflict coincides with your pain function. It produces a flood of information just on those aspects that you are trying to pass over in silence. It is these relationships can rightfully be called a relationship opposites: the opposite konflikterov assessment on all four scales known to the reader. If you are rational, ethical and intuitive introvert, your konflikter - irrational logic, sensors and an extrovert. Not surprising that stands to change the assessment on a single scale of rationality, irrationality and konflikter becomes your duala ... konflikter your and your dual consist kvazitozhdestvennyh relations. But back to the description of relations of conflict. Communicating with konflikterom, you are constantly under stress, a feeling deep down the looming explosion. Opposite encoding of information leads to the fact that literally every word konfliktera irritating and causes protest. At times, the relationship seems to be improving, but at the most inopportune moment konflikter suddenly hurt hurts you. Relations in the conflict pair occur relatively beneficial if both partners are aware of their mutual inability retain a sufficient distance and carefully avoiding "sharp corners".
RK Graying "Information psychoanalysis"
The structure of the interaction of blocks of the partners is the same as in the IW super-ego. However, due to a reordering of functions within blocks of this interaction as a whole is markedly different from the previous one. The strongest one function of one party intertype interaction in contact with the weakest of the conscious functions of the second. Partners often perceive each other as very interesting. Among the more common socionists another name for this BPI - the conflict. This is justified, and only occasionally at the household level, with poor development of participants and their interaction nedualizirovannosti. In this case, the partners do not even wanting it, constantly hurt the weak points of each other. Extremely difficult situation, when two such people were roommates in a dorm or, especially, in the crew of one plane. Suffer not only can they. The situation was corrected, if at least one of the partners dualizirovan. In this case, the partners can act on each other positively and to receive many benefits from the interaction. Imvisin (-4 lb). Rather moody and changeable, and sometimes without assistance can not manage. Myurvitan (-1 lb). Willing to help anyone, if only it was permanent and not capricious. This aspect of the interaction is satisfactory only if there is some patience partners. Socionics has a tradition to consider this interaction as the most rigid and uncomfortable for the individual. My own research has shown, however, that it is almost always wrong. Over many years of training socionics I never managed to pronablyu-give a single case of classic conflict, described by A. Augustinavichyute. Besides that meet friendship and fruitful cooperation quasicomplements, even in marriage. Our observations and some recent theoretical developments suggest that in general this IW falls in the same group of luxury that IW poludopolneniya and activation. The following eight intertype interactions can be regarded as a combination of the previous eight. For example, in both BPI poludopolneniya one of the functions blocks ego is the same as a full complement, and another - as the opponent. Accordingly, the interaction poludopolneniya somewhat reminiscent of Oriental Studies, and a full complement, and opposing. This explains the many interesting properties of both intertype poludopolneniya interactions. They are similar in many respects. That is why we describe them together. For similar reasons, we will do the same with the remaining six IW.
Lyme Stankevichyute "Intertype relationship"
This is one of the most dangerous types of relationships. While talking, people will automatically get involved in disputes and always get to one another in the most diseased regions, that is insult each other through a third function. Both say offensive in the eyes of another, inappropriate words, and both are equally affected. Ethical egoists seem logical, ethical, logical - frivolous, superficial, even silly, and, most importantly, very angry. Especially hard when you have to work together as the manner and pace of work are quite different. Introverts extroverts blamed that they do not adhere to the order of the work, bring chaos. Extroverts are angry that introverts do everything very slowly. When people are able to distinguish the types of conflict they are trying to divide the scope of the relationship, do not hurry, do not teach each other. Extrovert should not try to activate an introvert, but an introvert - to contain an extrovert.
AV Boukalov, G. Boiko, "Why Saddam Xuseyn wrong, or what is Socionics"
Perhaps the most dangerous and unpleasant relationship. First and fourth, and second and third functions swapped partners, ie the weakest function of one is "under fire" very strong function of another, so rapidly there is misunderstanding and conflict. Everyone thinks: "That he makes me luck!" At the same time, relations of conflict rather misleading. At a distance of partners are attracted to each other with their extraordinary abilities, sometimes - the singular beauty, originality of conduct. They are seen as kvazitozhdiki duals. But the mutual attraction is replaced by bewilderment, hidden resistance, and then open conflict. Moreover, observations show that any explanation of the relationship will not help. The only way - maximizing the psychological distance. Communicate better through favorably adjusted person - Douala or activator. In a family conflict relations lead to psychosomatic illnesses. After parting with konflikterom, one feels the significant relief. Under the pressure of external circumstances konfliktery may at some time put aside their differences and work "in harness". Dangerous these relations and the fact that conflict - silent, introverted often do not show their feelings towards konflikteru - extrovert, while they will not break through in some kind of act.
VV Gulenko "Tests of reciprocity"
The partner immediately draws your attention to some unusual effects on you. If the areas are separated, then the communication takes place in the overall hospitality. Of interest are the methods by which partner solves its problems. When attempting to work closely his behavior begins to confuse you more. As a result of discord accumulated irritation which can lead to conflict, if time does not disperse.
Binary attributes intertype relationships
The disagreements that only swell the intervention of third parties. The root causes of conflict - the exact opposite of the basic properties of the individual - when dealing with an eye for an eye is not removed (this is impossible in principle), but the harness, which drives inside. Conflict pair becomes more livable for maximum isolation from external influences.
Held together as opposing people, what are konfliktery can only under the condition that they would adhere to a system of warnings about their tastes, habits and intentions. Of conflict, so as not to escalate into conflict, needs to plan discharges the internal emotional tension. Sintegrirovannye konfliktery not tolerate uncertainty, hints, "visits" from the rear. These relationships are stable only if based on solid, once and for all wound up the rhythm of life.
Participants conflicting relations supposedly ready to demonstrate the reasonableness, as they still manage to stay together in spite of explicit diversity of characters, but this is only possible due to the constant suppression of internal negative emotions. Tips konfliktera seem deliberately illogical. Must constantly restrain myself not to retaliate.
Conflicting attitudes hinder a brave and relaxed initiatives that guide the people on the conservative and mundane values. They quickly extinguished, "a flight of fancy." Partners have successfully engaged only known to them and spent on practice matters.
Require special static conflict relations. Konfliktery Conserve the prevailing balance of power, do not like surprises. Moving into a new mode of existence is extremely difficult, is perceived almost as a natural disaster. Partners in the conflict pair of resistance to change, clinging to the old. And just making sure that all connections are destroyed, take a new way of life.
Conflicting relations bring together opposites - as opposite types of people. Convergence of views here is a short-term, during which the partners can significantly move forward. In other cases, the differences are fixed. Internal tensions immediately makes itself known, if konfliktery getting closer to a shorter distance than they are forced to external circumstances. In the best case you end up mutual banter, at worst - force encounter.
VV Gulenko, AV Gars "Introduction to socionics"
This relationship implicitly looming conflict. The degree of psychological compatibility of these relations is the lowest. However, it is not immediately obvious. Konflikter often attracts, what repels. He admires the development of those character traits that you are weak. Contact and convergence initially both seem possible. But along the way always something goes wrong. Pondering why these attempts to find a common language does not work out, come to the conclusion that the cause of misunderstanding is not so large, easy to handle .. You need only make a little more effort and he will understand me. Unwittingly pursues a desire somehow to gain rights. However, these attempts is nothing like walking on the edge of a precipice. Always in danger of falling into it - to be drawn into a futile, exhausting debates. Moreover, in these quarrels konfliktery often verbally beat on the most sore spot each other. Konflikteru always want to prove something, to clarify the contract, and he is as evil does not want you to understand. It is time deaf internal irritation or nervousness. The worst thing that the partners of conflicting relationships, there is no mutual assistance in case. They did not defend each other against attack from outside. I do not mean a verbal defense, and ability to make a partner for that part of the work, which he clearly can not support falls on his weak function. Lack of security is particularly acute is perceived in a hostile environment. After parting with konflikterom after prolonged attempts to find a common language, you feel relief.
This relationship implicitly looming conflict. The degree of psychological compatibility of these relations is the lowest. However, it is not immediately obvious. Konflikter often attracts, what repels. He admires the development of those character traits that you are weak.
Contact and convergence initially both seem possible. But along the way always something goes wrong. Pondering why these attempts to find a common language does not work out, come to the conclusion that the cause of misunderstanding is not so large, easy to handle .. You need only make a little more effort and he will understand me. Unwittingly pursues a desire somehow to gain rights.
However, these attempts is nothing like walking on the edge of a precipice. Always in danger of falling into it - to be drawn into a futile, exhausting debates. Moreover, in these quarrels konfliktery often verbally beat on the most sore spot each other. Konflikteru always want to prove something, to clarify the contract, and he is as evil does not want you to understand. It is time deaf internal irritation or nervousness.
The worst thing that the partners of conflicting relationships, there is no mutual assistance in case. They did not defend each other against attack from outside. I do not mean a verbal defense, and ability to make a partner for that part of the work, which he clearly can not support falls on his weak function. Lack of security is particularly acute is perceived in a hostile environment. After parting with konflikterom after prolonged attempts to find a common language, you feel relief.
Valentine Meged, Anatoly Ovcharov
The most difficult of relationships. A mutual imposing their own views and approaches to work and an unwillingness to accept life's values on others. This leads to a permanent suppression of one another. Partners notice the slightest flaws of each other, often exaggerating them. They often argue, disagree, do not listen to the other, or do not accept his arguments. Even the jokes and compliments perceived wrong. All this contributes to the manifestation of sensitivity, mutual attention to the needs and interests of another. Over time, tensions because of the ability to exacerbate any situation and the constant insults cause a desire to move away. Such relations are difficult in both personal life and work together. At the beginning of dating, when konfliktery are still at a distance, they are often sympathetic to each other, admire the strengths of the other, to exchange views with interest. In the transition to more frequent and close contacts arises mutual irritation and incomprehension. It is advisable to adhere to established traditions and all the changes to warn in advance. Only a careful attitude to each other can save this relationship.
Relationships sluggish, implicitly looming conflict, for such a relationship characterized by constant and often unsuccessful attempts to reach an understanding, the growing internal stress. In terms of model A software feature one partner gets on the pain of another partner, and creative - in a role (konflikter not intentionally, but always points to the weaknesses of the partner), an observation - for activation, and demonstration - at the suggestive. Relationships are extremely unfavorable for the joint life and family relations, but may be useful in the subject of parallel, rather than working together.
Ekaterina Filatova Art to understand themselves and others "
These relationships we have already partly discussed in the beginning of the chapter. Recall that in this case the energy of a powerful 1-th channel of each partner can get to a weak third channel (SNS) of another. Relationship is not a pleasant one.
It is clear that partners are in such a relationship can sympathize with each other only when they are at a considerable distance. Each attracts a strong function of the partner, because he himself, in the scope of this function, the most vulnerable and unsure of himself. But when approaching partners sooner or later feel the pressure on their ANC and to avoid discomfort, increase the distance of communication (relations are symmetrical).
Eugene Gorenko, Vladimir Tolstikov, "Nature's own self"
Feature of these relations is that each of the partners, not seek specifically, unwittingly hurt the weakest and most vulnerable place of another. This, of course, both unpleasant. But the relationship is quite possible to maintain a conflict-level, if you observe a certain distance. It will relieve the partners from the collision and, therefore, help to maintain a completely normal relationship.