Last edited by lemon; 03-05-2011 at 05:42 AM.
Well there is a possibility he's your duel. There is also a possibility that he's...
A) Your Identical: He could share your type and think and act along similar lines as you do, meaning your relationship would start up rather naturally.
B) Your Activator: He could be your complete opposite save for (ir)rationality. Activators tend to form immediate and pretty good friendships almost right away.
C) Your Mirror: Someone who shares your judging and perceving functions but has the opposite (ir)rationality and vertedness. Similar to your identical, they tend to think along similar lines but have markedly different levels of energy. Tend to make pretty quick friendships.
Whatever the case, he's probably within your quadra, since you had such immediate chemistry with one another. Of course, I've read that upon meeting your dual there can be a "pushing away" effect, where initially neither person is sure of their interest in each other, but this can pass if you massage their super-id enough.
Initial attraction is not strictly type related, but over time type can have strong influences.
Yeah, I mean if he's friends with your supervisor or opposite quadra types you would get that impression.This is possible. Here is more information which might be useful: I got the feeling after talking to him for a bit, that although we got along and all that, that the people who he's friends with were not people I would naturally get along with. This was just an intuition, but my intuition is usually right. So it's like, we would be a bridge between social groups that normally would want nothing to do with each other. I believe this is an aspect of Kindred relationships, correct?
The way it played out doesn't necessarily have to mean anything socionically. It sounds cool the way the first meeting went, but I'm sad the second time didn't exactly work out. What type are you btw? I'd guess ILE>ILI?
Weak ethics, superficially intuitive sounding, attracted to someone who debatably either is confident or merely comfortable in their own skin. Then I asked my Ouija board for confirmation.
But naw, it's just a hunch. The third type I thought of might be IEE. The guy sounded possibly Si dominant, SEI>SLI, even though there's really not much to go off of. I guess the way he acted sounded a lot like how I am sometimes, being generally friendly but occasionally just sort of aloofing it up.
Also, the way you describe him in more detail I'd lean away from SEI. Bragging about accomplishments isn't something I'd think fits very well, unless they were exaggerating it for comic effect (that's what I do, anyway). I'm usually relatively disinterested in talking myself up from a serious POV. He sounds an awful lot like my roommate who I think is SEE, although since he hasn't really accomplished all that much, he's usually going on about all the things he's going to accomplish (he wants to get famous in the music industry). Maybe ILI fits better for you, since I think in general Fi-PoLRs would be slightly less preoccupied with whether or not people are 'faking' being nice. I'd expect that they would be more likely to simply accept the attention and bask in it without focusing on true intentions quite so much.
There is a pattern, but you have to distance yourself from the infatuation to really tell, because it's unique for every type and relation.
If you like, you can start up a "Type Me" thread. Then you can post all the information about yourself that you want!Is this a cue for me to provide more information about myself so that you can type me? And, uh, thanks for the welcome (not really sure what I'm supposed to say in this situation. lol)
hey lemon,maybe :
1)you got on your friends' nerves by changing the subject and staring them down so they told that guy some really nasty stuff aboutcha!
2)he is a closet homosexual who interpreted your fondness as romantic interest so he might just wanted to put an end to it before it got any bigger. (in case you are a girl) uhm dunno i get gay vibes by that description...
Last edited by kalinoche; 12-27-2010 at 10:35 PM.
There's not enough information in your post to determine any intertype relations.
There are so many things going on, so many interplays of emotions and reactions both internally and externally for the individual involved with you. I mean look at the possibilities ...
1. He's distracted by inner sensations he doesn't want to talk about.
2. He's distracted by worry/happiness of something in his head.
3. He's in pain.
4. He's no longer interested in pleasing you in verbal lingo.
5. He only talks when there are many people around.
You name the possibilities and all are just as likely.
Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
I relate to your description. I often show the fact that I want something from someone a little too nakedly and it scares them off, sometimes briefly, sometimes permanently. It's weird, but it's not just romantic relationships you have to go into pretending to want less than you do (or like less than you do or whatever).
Not a rule, just a trend.
IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.
Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...
I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.
I related so much to what you wrote, lemon, and what you described was exactly what I experienced with my dual as well. Unfortunately it didn't materialize into a relationship :frown: but I swear it could have just as well been me who wrote the OP. The way you sensed the connection, the subtleties, and how were building it, and sensing how he became distant, to me rings an Fi-creative bell. What in particular you are focusing on in your interactions with him also resonates a lot with me.
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
but then, i feel exactly the same way as you do here:
I think it's an Ne thing.Now, though, when I use Fi, I always worry that I am just being over-imaginative, because there's nothing to prove that the "silent interaction" going on between people is even real. I don't trust my perceptions, basically
btw be careful with the Filatova portraits. A lot of them are mistyped. Use gallery.socionix.com for a better guide to VI.
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
Filatova didn't type the people in her portraits off of any visual method but from extensive interviewing. Any similarities they may have in VI were strictly coincidental
Forum status: retired
Also: I was looking through all of the pictures, and V.I.ed myself as an Fi-ENFp (again, not that I know anything about it, and not that I trust this to be my type, but those were just the one who's facial expressions matched mine the most). And then, I was looking at the Te ISTps, and I find Calvin Coolidge! He has always been my favorite president and a person who I just think is "cool" (<- haha, pun), and I never really had any good reason why....
I just thought that was interesting.