Have you had sex with someone and found it was hotter than sex with your dual?
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Have you had sex with someone and found it was hotter than sex with your dual?
No.
Are you humblepie?
Sex with your dual isn't gonna be hot if they aren't attractive...
I am yeah. Fairplay to you for being so observant. A few weeks back I needed to bear my soul and it just felt easier to do so anonymously, you know like how it's easier to be honest with a stranger than a friend sometimes. It was a bit duplicitous of me I know, I just didn't see the point of saying anything. I didn't think anyone would care or even know who humblepie was. I'm going to stick with this username though. Humblepie is a bit lame, not to mention a lie since I wasn't very humble at all was I?Originally Posted by CILi
And sex isn't nessecarily going to be hot with a non dual just because they are attractive. There has to be more than that for it to be the best sex you have ever had.
Yeah, it makes me think it must be an inbuilt biological preference to help our species to be more balanced.
So who are the two who voted for someone other than their dual? Have these people actually had sex with a dual? Because if they haven't then their answers don't apply at all.
Me. I've had 3 dual girlfriends (the first two lasted 6 months, I'm still with the third since 3 years), only in one case the sex was kind of crappy, but she had psychological issues.
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
So what type did you have better sex with if it wasn't any of your dual girlfriends?
Meh, sorry, I misread your question. It was (and is) my last dual girlfriend.
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
I had a feeling it might be. Just wanted to clarify.
This has got to be the most faulty logic I have ever witnessed.
Well, there is something to be said for technique.
I don't think I've ever had sex with a dual. Maybe once but I'm with FDG, he had psychological problems and it was just...weird.
i was one of them. i think the guy i lost my virginity to might have been my dual, and that was a really lame experience for probably not type related reasons. anyway, i'm not even sure about his type.
i guess you could say that makes my answer "non-applicable," but then wouldn't everyone's answers not apply if they haven't had sex with each one of the 16 types, just to be sure?
...do you think we should experiment with this?
I posit that it's less about 'duality' than it is about actual depths of understanding someone else in an intimate way, and also providing for them what they raelly want even if they don't know what it is ; it's about fulfillment.
Good sex, also, imo, is beyond 'technique', and about emotional and mental depth - the physical is just an expression of that. Or at least that's what has really floated my boat the most.
Agree with this. It's not type - it's two people being open and vulnerable; letting themselves be known to each other.
non dual, my conflictor :-)
ESE-Si, what a whore she was.
most duals I had were quite boring. Ofcourse nobody believes this but it is true. I guess I had bad luck..
sorry, Jarno! (maybe you're LII...
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Agree with Ryu on this one. Mental connection is more important for me.
Haven't had any sexual activity with a dual yet.
Will have to get back to this thread when (if) I do.
EII - Ne
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Why? Just because someone is hot doesn't mean they will be good in bed. I was with a really hot girl once and she just lay there lick a potato. It certainly helped that she was hot but I wouldn't say she was the best lay of my life.
Why? Have a look see:
The argument here is that Duality does not automatically provide the best sex, which is objectively true.
Here, you are trying to argue against a fact, which already invalidates your argument unless your argument has a different perspective than tcaudilllg's, which it does. Therefore your post cannot be taken as a response, but merely an independent assertion. tcaudilllg did not posit what you are arguing against.
Simplified:
You: All sex with duals will be good
tcaudilllg: Just because two people are duals does not inherently mean they will have good sex
You: Non duals will not inherently have good sex just because they are attractive.
See the diversion in topic?
lol why would he show that stomach off
Your poll question was different than the question in your first post... Don't apply another one of those non-dual votes from me too then.
Duality matters. I don't think I ever mean to have sex with an ENFJ again... it's too painful.
It matters if you make it matter in your mind; if you think that because someone is a certain type they will, therefore, fulfill everything for you.
It's kind of like those that believe, even if their spouse is 'mean' or 'uncaring', especially the male stereotype - at least that's how they are supposed to be, or that's what a "Man" is supposed to be like.
Just be careful about what really is fulfilling you, and not just what is theoretically supposed to.
is porno realistic? not likely for average people. jack and miri make a porno is a prime example of two people having great sex but to onlookers its boring - i think that was a major point in the movie - it was real sex, no glamour. great sex can be meaningful as well as explosive. i've only had sex with my duals and activity but i've never had meaningful sex which i feel i'm missing out on.
Creating expectations of this magnitude, that dual sex is the best over other types, seems like a very masochistic thing to be doing to yourself, along with predicting other things based on type.
In order for this poll to be particularly useful, you'd have to know that everyone responding was correctly typed, and that they had all had sex with a large number of people, several of every type, so that they had a good basis for comparison, and you'd also have to know that all of those people were correctly typed.
agreed. nice to see you again, Slackermom!
Rough sex is painful against my infantile loins.
If an ENFJ were to say she didn't like rough sex, I'd consider dating her. Any takers?
I think it's rather unlikely that ENFJs would not like rough sex given that Gulenko links them to bondage fantasies.
Yep tcaud, like I keep saying you need a very mommying/compassionate woman who is really turned off by aggressive guys that just throat fuck them. (well some women are both mommying *and* turned on by aggression though) But generally, you just need that.
i don't know i'm not able to identify female people, they are complicated...
ohh goodness yes! It's amazingthinking about it always brings a smile to my face... lots of fun!!!
ESFj.... Fe Subtype
Duals are always the hottest for me too.
My illusionaries (entps) and me are also very compatible, but more in the 'cuddle' way. Not as passionate and intense as an estp, but still very romantic and affectionate.
Semi-duals, would probably also be good.
Any harmonizing type would be the best.
Interesting,
Although before I knew anything about socionics, I've always viewed women as being more "caregiver/victim" and men as more "aggressor/infantile".
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