I am about to share some of my life story in the hope that someone here will be able to determine whether I am INFj or INFp & whether I am in a dual or conflict marriage .
If I am in a dual marriage then I don't believe that is everything that some people hype it up to be - it's hard work - very hard at times . I have given everything to make mine work - but was it worth it ? I don't know.....I have a best friend, a lover, a partner, a father for my children but I was hurt. Severly hurt - I gave my all, went without and mostly just got a lot of " If you don't do this or that then you are not a good person' talking to.....Okay i may be exageratting a little as there have been amazing times as well.....but there was a lot of "You have to or else" & " that's wrong and this is right" all based on his opinion of right and wrong which was very flawed .
I think that I am married to an ESTp . He is all about leadership, enjoying the latest "toys" & food. He has improved so much from how he was to what he is now but damage was done and it's not been an easy road to travel at times with him though I love him heaps.
I type as an INFp & INFj . My good friend for many years was also an INFx. She was 10 or 11 years older than me and I kind of saw her as a big sister . I think she was INFj as she seems to very much fit the profiles but I seem more in the middle of the 2 types . I looked at photos of my friend and I today from years ago and we both look so bedraggled with the same terrible uncut hair though we both kept fringes . We both looked like we only wore rags and got by on nothing much .
We both had the same doctor who treated everyone else wonderfully and said the most horrid things to the two of us individually and he didn't even know we were friends . I bring this up because it was so odd that he had the same reaction to us both .
Differences between us are that she had more of a health focus with her food habits and dietary needs etc . Her husband was my husband's best friend though I never felt that I connected with her husband who was XSTj , one on one .
Unfortunatly life did not go well for my friend who was diagnosed as the most clinically depressed person in the country - that means more depressed than any person in prison....well anyone known in the medical field . She has never fully recovered and is no longer married to her husband .
My husband has always been good at things that I am not like dealing with telephone calls , organizing things to get done , doing the money , talking in front of groups , leading groups .
I am better at understanding people , looking at the bigger picture - all the pieces of the puzzle , being a parent and all that that means ( he was not a hands on dad at all) .
Well that's enough for now .
Any thoughts ?