One of the first areas in which I noticed that I was different from most other people was my expectations in friendships. I had to redefine what friendship meant because I was completely disillusioned from what society had instilled in me. What I took to be "friendship" was the free exchange of insults, opinions, and random BS'ing.That greatly contrasted with what I valued and what I could tolerate. This leads me to the point of this thread:
valuers friends so much as there is stimulation between them? What happens when that stimulation is absent? Do
valuers have long distance and lifetime friends? When I use the word "friends", I mean whatever you consider to be a true friend.
I was thinking of a scenario in which two groups of people make jokes. In Group
, it has been pre-established that friends should not speak out against each other without restrictions because they are friends. Words are filtered before they are said. In Group
, it has been established that friends can say whatever they what and not worry because they are friends. It seems in Group
friendship comes first, humor second. While in Group
, friendship comes second, humor first.
Could it be said that
valuers are objects or sources of stimulation, while
valuers subjects or sources of bonds? If so then should we expect
valuing friends to stay around in the long term, and should we expect
valuing friends to be active in daily interaction?