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    Quote Originally Posted by wikisocion
    Tend to occupy a “wait and see attitude” as they are prone to doubt others feelings towards them. Their emotional expression may appear somewhat forced as they prefer to await the initiative of others; afterwards are tender and attentive with an aim of improving sexual techniques. Internally are sentimental; love uncommon adventures. Not quick to forget past offences. Have need of someone reasonable, flexible and diplomatic. Their partner should be affectionate, attractive, merry and optimistic.
    Do SLE-Tis await others' initiative in love? Is it because of major Fi-PoLR, their Ti being very strong and preferred, that they need this? I guess it's just Fe they are awaiting, yes?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    Feelings in relationships are terrifying. Meaning SLEs, especially SLE-Tis with weaker Fe and stronger Fi (PoLR) will never trust the feelings of others, and not dare to let go, unless someone clearly shows, often through words, that they love you.
    This paints a picture that is rather wrong. I mean it's technically correct but it sorta presents SLE-Tis as distrustful which isn't a universal sentiment. I would sooner go with uncaring or perhaps selfish; I know how I feel and that's enough for me, I don't need to know how you feel.
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    Not so sure about SLE Ti... But I think it both subtypes will definitely approach you & start things off if they find you interesting & attractive enough. What they really need/crave is love, affection & a 'go with the flow' mindset.
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    I had an encounter with one in which we really clicked but she had a boyfriend already. I got the feeling she was waiting on a signal for me so she could break it off with him but I never stepped up.

    It seems they tend to hold back parts of themselves even in 'friendships' until the person proves himself worthy. After that then you have their undying devotion. Some Socionics description says they prefer to take control and establish relationships and keep them stimulated so as to not eventually fall apart [and feel the hurt from Fi HA].

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    Quote Originally Posted by EyeSeeCold View Post
    I had an encounter with one in which we really clicked but she had a boyfriend already. I got the feeling she was waiting on a signal for me so she could break it off with him but I never stepped up.

    It seems they tend to hold back parts of themselves even in 'friendships' until the person proves himself worthy. After that then you have their undying devotion. Some Socionics description says they prefer to take control and establish relationships and keep them stimulated so as to not eventually fall apart [and feel the hurt from Fi HA].


    YES.

    Btw what's with all these SLEs & already being in relationships?
    Unfortunately mine is getting a divorce because he met me... I feel horrible about everything. I'm not blaming myself for anything, though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    Physicality in relationships is easy for SLEs. Meaning SLEs know if they want to touch or not, if they are allowed to touch or not, if the touch is sexual or friendly, etc.

    Feelings in relationships are terrifying. Meaning SLEs, especially SLE-Tis with weaker Fe and stronger Fi (PoLR) will never trust the feelings of others, and not dare to let go, unless someone clearly shows, often through words, that they love you.

    So, random relationships, both sexual and in friendship, are easier to deal with than the real thing. It doesn't mean SLEs aren't interested in real relationships, or that they can't have them. It means that they don't trust others enough to believe in them - unless of course, the other person convinces them. I think that's why SLEs seem to want to marry the first and best person they find, or alternatively never seem to settle for anybody. Also, SLEs often tend to be extremely loyal to friends, as these things are true also for friendships. Random chats in the evenings with random people are easier to deal with than real longterm friendships.
    This sums up my entire approach to relationships. Either I'm SLE or Mirrors are basically the same type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    I still think you are SLI, but SLE seems like a better typing than LSI. You don't seem rational.
    I can say with 100% accurancy that I am not SLI

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    Dunno. I'm still debating. There's that whole initiative thing that I don't do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
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    YES.

    Btw what's with all these SLEs & already being in relationships?
    Unfortunately mine is getting a divorce because he met me... I feel horrible about everything. I'm not blaming myself for anything, though.
    Woah, your SLE was/is married? Well, whatevs. Have you met the wife...? Do you know what type she is?
    Not a rule, just a trend.

    IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silverchris9 View Post
    Woah, your SLE was/is married? Well, whatevs. Have you met the wife...? Do you know what type she is?
    Nope, I've never met her, but I'm kind of thinking LSI from what he tells me.
    Apparently they have a lot of problems & fight all the time. He says she's cold, stubborn, not affectionate, an alpha female, and she always has to be right about everything.

    anyway, they're now currently separated. I don't really care what people think about the situation, to be honest. He's doing it for himself, not me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by silverchris9 View Post
    Woah, your SLE was/is married? Well, whatevs. Have you met the wife...? Do you know what type she is?
    Nope, I've never met her, but I'm kind of thinking LSI from what he tells me.
    Apparently they have a lot of problems & fight all the time. He says she's cold, stubborn, not affectionate, alpha female, and she always has to be right about everything.

    anyway, they're now currently separated. I don't really care what people think about the situation, to be honest. He's doing it for himself, not me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post

    Exactly. What's your type? You sound like an ILI I used to know.
    I am ILI.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    anyway, they're now currently separated. I don't really care what people think about the situation, to be honest. He's doing it for himself, not me.
    Oh. Well if they're separated anyway, who gives a shit. My dad and my mom weren't divorced (just separated) when he started dating my stepmom. I don't think that's particularly abnormal. But yeah, good for you, it doesn't have that much to do with you; that's his stuff that he's sorting out.
    Not a rule, just a trend.

    IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Nope, I've never met her, but I'm kind of thinking LSI from what he tells me.
    Apparently they have a lot of problems & fight all the time. He says she's cold, stubborn, not affectionate, alpha female, and she always has to be right about everything.
    Holy hell, this is me haha. I'm going thru your situation except i'm the married one. lolz.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silverchris9 View Post
    Oh. Well if they're separated anyway, who gives a shit. My dad and my mom weren't divorced (just separated) when he started dating my stepmom. I don't think that's particularly abnormal. But yeah, good for you, it doesn't have that much to do with you; that's his stuff that he's sorting out.
    He wasn't separated when I met him...


    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Nope, I've never met her, but I'm kind of thinking LSI from what he tells me.
    Apparently they have a lot of problems & fight all the time. He says she's cold, stubborn, not affectionate, alpha female, and she always has to be right about everything.
    Holy hell, this is me haha. I'm going thru your situation except i'm the married one. lolz.
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    Don't ever get married, it takes your soul.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    He wasn't separated when I met him...
    Um, nevermind. lol. My attempt at being encouraging fails. Um... the heart wants what it wants?
    Not a rule, just a trend.

    IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.

    Yes 'a ma'am that's pretty music...

    I am grateful for the mystery of the soul, because without it, there could be no contemplation, except of the mysteries of divinity, which are far more dangerous to get wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    Don't ever get married, it takes your soul.
    did you get married? I missed that!
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    I have one trying to make that SD connection. I'm not going to allow it though, I've been in it before and it was too good to just up and leave without notice.

    It makes you think though, is all this really ethical? But then we'd make the same choices based on empirical evidence...

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    Don't ever get married, it takes your soul.
    I liked being married in general. I just married the wrong person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EyeSeeCold View Post
    I have one trying to make that SD connection. I'm not going to allow it though, I've been in it before and it was too good to just up and leave without notice.

    It makes you think though, is all this really ethical? But then we'd make the same choices based on empirical evidence...
    Sexual disease? What's SD?

    Actually for that matter, what's emperical evidence. You've been thinking too much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    He's just being ILI. That's what they do. Then they mess with your mind.
    I've got a feeling like I should know who you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    Since when are you intuitive?
    it's disconcerting when people hold impressions of me, and i'm still not sure who they are.

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    Lol. I'm Mimosa Pudica. Long story, so don't ask. Problems solved now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    Lol. I'm Mimosa Pudica. Long story, so don't ask. Problems solved now.
    I was wondering where you had gone. Welcome back :]
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    I was wondering where you had gone. Welcome back :]
    i think i tried stalking her on facebook

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    Quote Originally Posted by ananke View Post
    Tried, being the key word...
    I think I found you but you ignored my friend request or something. And it was a sparse profile. Now you're going to try and tell me you're not on facebook

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    what, do you think this is a musical?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Not so sure about SLE Ti... But I think it both subtypes will definitely approach you & start things off if they find you interesting & attractive enough. What they really need/crave is love, affection & a 'go with the flow' mindset.
    and are LSIs the same?

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