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    Default I met an SLE, and he's awesome

    but is currently living far away. He says how much he likes me and such but I'm scared, typical Ni victim ohnohecantbeserioushessogreatandimjustlittleolmehe willsurelygetboredandleavemesadandmissinghim worries. Is there a chance? I mean I know no one can answer about HIM in particular but what about SLEs, do they lose interest really fast and is it bad if I havent been super responsive all the time because of my own insecurities?

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    he may not lose interest completely but you do need to respond. they like Fe, y'know.
    IEI-Fe 4w3

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    just go for it if you like each other enough. it won't be the end of the world if it doesn't work out.

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    I am curious as to how people keep meeting all these SLEs, lol.

    Internet dating site?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goldenwings View Post
    I am curious as to how people keep meeting all these SLEs, lol.

    Internet dating site?
    yeah really. i mean i don't interact with many people but.. it would be nice

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    Lol, by the way, if this guy is wealthy and lives in England, be careful.

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    Believe me, if he really wants you, he'll have you. You really have no say in the matter lol, sorry. :wink:
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    Quote Originally Posted by Golden View Post
    I am curious as to how people keep meeting all these SLEs, lol.

    Internet dating site?
    Nope.

    Mine hunted me down when I was out with a bunch of my friends. He was incredibly attractive & I was tipsy, so of course I flirted & agreed to give him my number, but refused to answer any of his texts or calls. His crazy ass then proceeded to show up at my work two days later & scared the living daylights out of me. I finally agreed to a date after he apologized to both me & my friends for his aggressiveness. My friends are very protective over me, so of course he had to win them over too.
    Quote Originally Posted by jxrtes View Post
    betas should be kept in zoos for children to stare and throw pop corn at.

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    starfall .. somehow you reminded me of ozzy osbourne - shot in the dark .




    this bit in particular
    But a shot in the dark one step away from you
    A shot in the dark always creeping up on you

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    I figured you were IEI, red. You responded rather cluelessly to some LSEs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    he may not lose interest completely but you do need to respond. they like Fe, y'know.
    Thanks! I did, and I think I made up for my previous nonresponsiveness, I just get so uncertain sometimes but being less that way is probably something in myself I need to develop.

    Quote Originally Posted by glamourama View Post
    just go for it if you like each other enough. it won't be the end of the world if it doesn't work out.
    You're right, I need to just let go and enjoy the ride a bit more, or try to let go any way <3

    Quote Originally Posted by Golden View Post
    I am curious as to how people keep meeting all these SLEs, lol.

    Internet dating site?
    We met at a party, actually, but I know two SLEs who use dating sites.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna View Post
    yeah really. i mean i don't interact with many people but.. it would be nice
    You will, just keep living and they will find you <3

    Quote Originally Posted by Golden View Post
    Lol, by the way, if this guy is wealthy and lives in England, be careful.


    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Believe me, if he really wants you, he'll have you. You really have no say in the matter lol, sorry. :wink:
    He had been doing a good job of showing he wanted to see me, being attentive and all, but theres only so much he can do through distance. But you are right, he has been persistent so far. I hope it keeps up!

    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Nope.

    Mine hunted me down when I was out with a bunch of my friends. He was incredibly attractive & I was tipsy, so of course I flirted & agreed to give him my number, but refused to answer any of his texts or calls. His crazy ass then proceeded to show up at my work two days later & scared the living daylights out of me. I finally agreed to a date after he apologized to both me & my friends for his aggressiveness. My friends are very protective over me, so of course he had to win them over too.


    Quote Originally Posted by mercutio View Post
    starfall .. somehow you reminded me of ozzy osbourne - shot in the dark .

    YouTube - Ozzy Osbourne Shot In The Dark


    this bit in particular
    But a shot in the dark one step away from you
    A shot in the dark always creeping up on you
    A classic!

    Quote Originally Posted by Director Abbie View Post
    I figured you were IEI, red. You responded rather cluelessly to some LSEs.
    Well I still could be EIE, I'm not really sure. And yeah I guess I do seem clueless to LSEs, that kind of misunderstanding goes both ways, seems to me

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    Strrrng said this in a different thread about SLEs and I am copying it here because its pretty great, "Now I basically enter relationships with no expectations, a charming smile, and a pristine sword in the shadows. I think one should be prepared without being fearful or preemptive."
    Last edited by ladyinred; 10-05-2010 at 04:56 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Nope.

    Mine hunted me down when I was out with a bunch of my friends. He was incredibly attractive & I was tipsy, so of course I flirted & agreed to give him my number, but refused to answer any of his texts or calls. His crazy ass then proceeded to show up at my work two days later & scared the living daylights out of me. I finally agreed to a date after he apologized to both me & my friends for his aggressiveness. My friends are very protective over me, so of course he had to win them over too.
    Nice

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    Do you have any pictures of him? Don't be afraid to ask him for a few; Se leading types are usually not paranoid with emailing you pictures of themselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Believe me, if he really wants you, he'll have you. You really have no say in the matter lol, sorry. :wink:
    Lol, yes. I fully intended to have nothing but a week-long fling to get things out of his system... and about three months later he was pestering about moving in and marriage and whatnot, and I actually didn't mind it.

    Quote Originally Posted by ladyinred View Post
    I'm scared, typical Ni victim ohnohecantbeserioushessogreatandimjustlittleolmehe willsurelygetboredandleavemesadandmissinghim worries. Is there a chance? I mean I know no one can answer about HIM in particular but what about SLEs, do they lose interest really fast and is it bad if I havent been super responsive all the time because of my own insecurities?
    Once you're seeing each other regularly and in a relationship, SLEs don't really seem to lose interest. I've found that every time I think he's losing interest, I'll pull away, which upsets him and makes him ask why I'm pulling away and demand that I come back at once. So IEI defense mechanisms just tend to make the relationship stronger.

    I have no idea about long distance flirtation however.
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    Nobody here...besides me, seems to know what SLE is except for maybe Maritsa.

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