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    Default How to pursue an ENTj female for ISFj males?

    Hello,

    What would be the best way for an ISFj male to pursue an ENTj female?

    I ask this after being inspired by this thread: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...entj-istj.html
    Does any of that apply for ISFjs or are there things that would not apply?

    Thanks.

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    with diamond rings and creepy visits in the middle of the night professing his love.

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    Sorry, I am an INTP-Te female. Close, but not an ENTJ. I am all for realistic scenarios. I like working together on something and having a discussion about it, sharing life details in-between. Sometimes, I feel I can trust a person and begin to enjoy them if they're my dual after some of this. I am not one for stereotypical date things. I know some people like all of it. It's not for me.

    Sharing your interests with me = a plus.

    Asking me non-personal questions for objective opinion help or for my expertise is a great way for me to enjoy your company, since I'll be shining in one of my roles (figuring things out and organizing) and not looking socially incompetent, instead.

    Holding eye contact for long enough to let me know you like me as a person is helpful. Yeah, naturally showing you enjoy being with me.

    The ISFj being themselves would be good, since an ENTj is attracted to their dual.

    Oh, yeah, and being mature (ie having second function developed.)
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    Since she is a victim she will like strong overt displays of masculinity and good genes. So show lots of aggression. One way to do this is force yourself on her.
    LIE-Ni, i think, but maybe ILI

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    Pursuing people is evil.

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    Duals need to meet one-on-one. In a crowd they cannot notice the chemistry between them, and they easily overlook each other. So try to get some private time with your dual, and then see what happens.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smilodon View Post
    Since she is a victim she will like strong overt displays of masculinity and good genes. So show lots of aggression. One way to do this is force yourself on her.
    Just in case the word choice causes some confusion, I'd like to restate the above. I think you and I may have picked up on some similar truth.

    'Victim' doesn't accurately depict the -heavy person's role in the - romantic interaction because it sounds assault-ish. That's creepy.Really creepy. The whole point of saying someone is a victim of an act is that they were hurt by it. It's true that the person provides some revving up/energy/life to the couple, but the also provides insight and slows down the person. The Se-person has force, but the Ni person is the resistor.

    Strong displays of confidence and energy and awareness are it. Masculinity? I'd be offended by the notion that those things are the traits of someone just because of their piss spout type.

    I'm becoming more and more like a pacifist as my develops (i can't say that's how all INTps or ISTps see the issue as theirs develop), so "aggressive"? That's like ordering for me, forcing yourself physically on me like I'm not human, and intimidating people around us to get what you want? I'll find my own way home. Bye.


    It just occurred to me you may have been joking. I have difficulty telling.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nowisthetime View Post
    Duals need to meet one-on-one. In a crowd they cannot notice the chemistry between them, and they easily overlook each other. So try to get some private time with your dual, and then see what happens.
    Even on the forum they don't know how to best help or understand one another. I agree that meeting one on one activates these functions and they become clear and distinctive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    Pursuing people is evil.
    nah

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashton View Post
    I don't think its as much a 1-way thing as depictions make it sound; people are more complex than that. From what I've been able to tell, both the and party in a V/A dyad variate between both opposing 'roles' at different times.



    Haha, piss spout type. That's awesome.



    Right. γ-SFs aren't anything close to being that 'aggressive'.



    I considered that, but they sounded pretty serious to me lol.
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