do you have sexual chemistry with your duals?
is it immediate or gradual?
what sparks it?
does anyone here have trouble being attracted sexually to their duals?
why? etc
Duality and Sexual Chemistry
do you have sexual chemistry with your duals?
is it immediate or gradual?
what sparks it?
does anyone here have trouble being attracted sexually to their duals?
why? etc
<Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" isand not
From experience, I have strong sexual chemistry with EIE women that is felt within seconds of first talking to them. This occurs with no other type, but the closest would be IEI followed by other LSIs.
I have yet to be physically attracted to a dual.
Immediate sexual chemistry... or perhaps I should say compatibility. Not with all of them, but a heck of a lot.
I met a nice LSE on a plane last week. We did Sudoku together and he kept finding ways to touch me that didn't give me the creeps. A silly example, true, but that sort of immediate compatibility just doesn't happen with other types.
LSIs are sexier.Originally Posted by Starfall
Duality isn't instant attraction; it's not a hormone bath of infatuation, it comes slowly and quietly, but it's long lasting, solid and comfortable for both parties. It's not uncommon that duals are either not very attracted to one another or that they don't find each other the most comfortable to be around at first, or that they are intimidated by one another, or that they don't display favorable mannerisms. Most of the time, it has absence or understated sexual chemistry. It's just the rough surface to a really great inside part, but most people don't see the inside, over looking it for another relational type that looks much more tempting, but these relations are disguised, to say the least.
INFj's as a rule, are very shy, reserved and don't often flirt and give their duals that smile and tease to initiate a chase. We don't tease people either and not every dual understands socionics well enough to understand this nature of ours.
Our duals often fall for the provocative and sexual, fun, flirty, smiling, humorous, SEE and SEI or even their conflictor type, IEI and IEE; well, let's say, everyone except for us.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Personal experience? Maybe you are doing something wrong? Maybe you are an exception but not a rule?Duality isn't instant attraction; it's not a hormone bath of infatuation, it comes slowly and quietly, but it's long lasting, solid and comfortable for both parties. It's not uncommon that duals are either not very attracted to one another or that they don't find each other the most comfortable to be around at first, or that they are intimidated by one another, or that they don't display favorable mannerisms. Most of the time, it has absence or understated sexual chemistry. It's just the rough surface to a really great inside part, but most people don't see the inside, over looking it for another relational type that looks much more tempting, but these relations are disguised, to say the least.
INFj's as a rule, are very shy, reserved and don't often flirt and give their duals that smile and tease to initiate a chase. We don't tease people either and not every dual understands socionics well enough to understand this nature of ours.
Our duals often fall for the provocative and sexual, fun, flirty, smiling, humorous, SEE and SEI or even their conflictor type, IEI and IEE; well, let's say, everyone except for us.
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I broke up with my dual because of a lack of sexual chemistry. I don't think duality necessitates sexual chemistry in the same way that chemistry doesn't necessitate duality. While I'll admit to being quite drawn to my duals, I wouldn't say that there's an immediate chemistry.
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Isn't the sensor supposed to take the initiative and initiate cuddling. When I touch and cuddle with my dual she reacts in a very positive way. Her reaction makes me want cuddle with her even more etc. etc. And the chemistry wheel is rolling. She encourages me to be sensual. She is actually not that sensual herself, but very receptive to it.
That's the way things are unfortunately.Personal experience? Maybe you are doing something wrong? Maybe you are an exception but not a rule?
Yes; that's why we like sensory types.
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Have you heard of pheromones?
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Reagardless, I didn't deny the existence of sexual chemistry. I said that I don't think that sexual chemistry is necessarily tied to duality. You can have sexual chemistry with someone who isn't your dual and you can not have chemistry with people who are your dual. These are both quite plausible scenarios, imo.
ILE
7w8 so/sp
Very busy with work. Only kind of around.
Yes.
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That's why you have your semi-duals.
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I don't think it's so much in the sense of attraction, Vero, more that your Dual's physicality just lines up really, really fantastically with yours. This has been my experience.
I mean, you're with your semi-Dual, yes? Would you say that's roughly the case?
I think subtype and enneagram come into play too.
Not true. I know of two LSEs who are with EIIs and one who is with an SEE. I am not interested in an outgoing-valuer. I am attracted to need.
Wowza is it strong. Just seeing them move around or observing them interact with people and fidget or talking to them/working on a project with them. I just instinctively know about them and how their bodies relate to the world. I love it.
- do you have sexual chemistry with your duals?
sometimes
- is it immediate or gradual?
gradual, I find it difficult to be attracted to anyone immediately dual or no dual
- what sparks it?
if i had to narrow it down, their use of their creative function
- does anyone here have trouble being attracted sexually to their duals? why?
typically because they aren't transmitting their creative function, for some reasons mirages have less problem getting it across, probably because we end up talking so much with mirage relations while with duals I find it more difficult to have continuous conversation
I'm the same way.
IEI-Fe 4w3
causing limps? Well, maybe. I don't know, but I have a hard time seeing somebody getting wet over
...
: "Missionary is more efficient and productive towards our goal of orgasm."
: "Great! Now come closer, and fuck me!"
LSI's aren't sexier they just act like they are. And you can tell they're actually uptight and not a sensual person, just physically confident. To me the IJ always =borefest. I mean that dudes doing an Old spice commericial...yawn.
If you don't think the hormone bath is real...maybe you can't smell or something...wtf. It can be totally overpowering. Make you act retarted etc.
Really? That's hard for me to indentify with. It's such an immediate thing for me. I know within seconds whether i'm sexually attracted to them or not. If they don't spark the attraction in those seconds, it's hardly ever sparked no matter how long i'm near them.
That's because IXFj's would never be explicit about how they really feel about
So implicit, it's basically explicit, at least to Te egos. But both want it in different yet similar ways.
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yup.
yeah it's because people seem almost as if transparent to me :/ ... I got very weak sensory function so just seeing somebody's face and body doesn't generate any reaction in my mind thus physical attraction isn't easy to spark ... it is just such low priority for me ... I can kind of aesthetically appreciate people but my sex drive isn't connected to this at all
ethical sub IEI I have read value physical looks more
noa
I feel sexual chemistry with everybody.
They're either too big or too small. They're either too young or too old; that's all:
In some ways I think duals/ duality is the least romantic/sexy ITR. Like a more sexy version of quasi-identical. However, duals probably create a lot of nice memories to reminisce about, which is pretty romantic.
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 06-09-2022 at 12:46 PM.
yes!
immediate
the duality, I suppose
if they are not so physically attractive, then interaction turns them attractive gradually in 99.8% of the cases.
Have never had a stronger sexual chemistry with anyone than I do with my LIE...our sexual chemistry is kind of insane. There's no questioning our compatibility there. The flirtatious chemistry was instant, but the sexual tension and chemistry was gradual. He first stood out to me because he wasn't a follower, he thought for himself and wasn't a sheeple...but the chemistry was like a magnet pulling me toward him. I often felt like teasing him. I used to call him my little puppy in the beginning, trying to provoke him to play with me back.
Last edited by Fluffy Princess Unicorn; 06-10-2022 at 08:43 PM.
not sexual chemistry but this is my general experience with LSIs
realized now thatit may be that they are too controlling. it was even on the writing on EIE LSI dual relationship that LSI needs to be a bit more open minded but also EIE needs to suck up to them more. ppl have said it before but beta dual relations seem abusive, and as i know no beta wants to have any of that in their life anymore.One dual was overly demanding
mb rational duals struggle to adjust to each other more at least innitially
and maybe if ur Ni-H u would struggle to communicate more
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